Tuesday, July 06, 2010

am i the only one raising a mannerless heathen?

cause i really need to know.

my kid totally has a problem with inviting himself to do things with people:
sleeping over
hanging out
swimming
eating
going places

you name it- that kid can constantly be heard saying "can i come?" "can i spend the night?" "see if i can come with you."

it drives me freaking nuts.

i try to tell him over and over to WAIT UNTIL PEOPLE INVITE YOU... or don't ask to spend the night ... BE ASKED.

you know?

but it doesn't seem to sink in. and i just don't know if it's a kid thing- or if it's a MY kid thing.

and that's when i come to you, dear nets of inter. tell me he'll grow out of it and he just doesn't get the whole "be invited" thing yet. tell me it's normal and natural and has nothing to do with my amazing and wonderful parenting skills.

good lord, just tell me something.

12 comments:

Audrey at Barking Mad! said...

I will admit, when I was his age, I did that all the time and I can remember my own mother standing there, mouth agape, absolutely horrified that I'd invite myself along somewhere.

And then when my twins were that age and did it, my mouth dropped open and out jumped my own mother!

Thanks for this post...I'm not having a talk with my 4 year old about NEVER EVER EVER doing that! I'm too old for my mother to once again, leap out of my own mouth!

Anonymous said...

Mine used to do that all the time. I think it's the age..... This too shall pass.
Betsy

Anonymous said...

I remember so well when my kids did the same thing,,my son did it at your son's age,and sure enough when my son grew out of it my daughter started it. It made me crazy, but its okay they have kids of their own now and I can't wait until they start doing it to them lol. Don't worry it isn't your parenting at all,it's just the age.

Becky at lifeoutoffocus said...

hannah does this ALL the time. I can't break her from it.

Meg said...

I have no experience with it from my child yet, but I know my nieces and nephews are horrible about doing it. I think it's just that age and not wanting to miss out on anything fun.

And any way possible to drive parents bat shit crazy.

Jill said...

Perfectly normal! Mine both did it at about his age. They outgrew it about the time they noticed girls for real at about 14.

Jennifer said...

When my kids did this, I just told them if they asked to be invited it would be an automatic no from me.. but if they were invited it was an automatic yes.

mayberry said...

My kid (8 yrs old) does this ALL the time and I also HATE it. Love Jennifer's rule. Will have to adopt that one.

Issas Crazy World said...

Both of my girls do it. However? Tons of their friends do too. I think it's just a kid thing.

Cindy said...

I can't wait until they start doing it to them lol. Don't worry it isn't your parenting at all,it's just the age, thanx for posting.

Carry said...

. I think it's just that age and not wanting to miss out on anything fun. anyway thanx for all this.

Vicky92569 said...

I consider an invite to be when the PARENT calls me and confirms that she/he has invited my child over. My daughter hates this rule...but I have spoken to several parents who appreciate it.