Tuesday, May 11, 2010

and while we're on the topic of kids invading our personal web space

how do you handle your kids facebook?

do you friend them? or do you just ask for their username and password so you can stalk them appropriately whenever you want too?

i have accepted my son's friendship request. ha. but i don't want to be friends with HIS friends. but all those little shits request me on facebook.

what the hell?? we're not friends. do i need to create a new account to be fake friends with my kids friends? do i really friend them when they're older?

talk to me people.

and if your kids aren't old enough to play online.. they will be someday and so what do you THINK you'll do?!?!

16 comments:

Lori aka A Cowboy's Wife said...

Me and my son are FB friends but I don't friend his friends..unless I want to keep an eye on them.... :)

Stacey said...

I don't have any kids yet, but I am firmly against friending your adult children. Or at least against posting "I LOVE you to the moon and back!!!" all over your adult child's page. So, uh, how do you un-friend your mom without offending her? Hypothetically, of course.

Issas Crazy World said...

My cousin had four teenage girls. She friends them and has added their freinds who have asked. She said, you can learn a lot...as long as you keep quiet on their statuses. Make them forget they friended you.

Issas Crazy World said...

uh, she has four teenage girls. Sorry. I has teh dumb. They range in age from 13 - 20.

Phil said...

It's all about multiple friend lists with different privacy settings. You can create a friends list and set it so that the kids can message you and see certain photo albums but, for instance, can't see or comment on status updates. My mother can see pics of the kids and certain wall posts, but CANNOT post. Unfortunately, FB will not allow you to control access to your friend list.

Anonymous said...

If you are talking about facebook, you can accept their request but go into privacy settings and limit what they can see and read. I think when you "confirm/ignore request" it gives you a box to uncheck if you want to add to newsfeed.

NGS said...

I think you should cry because this sounds like too big of a problem for me.

But, I am an adult (kind of). I have ignored my father's friend requests repeatedly before flat out telling him in a heated phone call that I would never friend him. Or another member of our family. I do not recommend this method since he's still kind of bitter. I wish I had calmly explained to him why I thought it was such a bad idea. Instead things got angry.

Try to avoid that.

Anisha said...

Well I have 4 daughters, 8 yrs old and under so they are not on FB yet!! I'm guessing when we get there, I would like they're password and I would definitely be their friends!! Figure we live together so why not, lol!! Not sure about friending their friends, that could be awkward! On the other hand, you must be pretty cool for them to request you!!!

Ericka said...

well, i don't have kids, but i have work people that i can't stand but politically can't deny either. so i made a list called 'work' and then limited their access significantly - including their ability to see when i'm online. i vote for that.

Katie said...

I'm friends with my mom, and she is friends with a few of my best friends. haha so awkward though!

J from Ireland said...

This is kind of a problem for me. I friended my 19yr old step daughter, my 14yr son and my 13yr old daughter because they asked. Now, some of my kids friends added me and I feel guilty if I ignore them so have some of them as friends too.
Today is my daughters 13th birthday, I posted a birthday wish on her wall and she was all embarrassed and not too happy with me. Jaysus this is a tough one, I'll be interested to hear what your readers say.

Anonymous said...

My children are on FB...11 and 14. I have their username and passwords but my husband and I are not their friends nor do we allow them to be friends with any adults.

We feel that our adult friends/family members should not feel like they need to censor themselves for my children's sake...ie. not being able to say how hangover they are or what a party that was etc. or something that is adult-like and not necessarily appropriate for my kids to read. My children don't need to know the personal business of the adults in their lives.

My children knew that the only way they would be allowed a FB account was if they gave me their passwords and know that I check it randomly. That gives them the boundary of what to post/say on their profiles and walls and if I find something I feel is inappropriate, it allows for an open discussion about it as well.

Chris O said...

My adult daughter is friends with me on facebook. My teens have myspace accts and think that fb is for the older crowd. Most of my youngest daughter's (she's 14) friends who fb have friended me but I try not to ever leave them comments that might upset them. They are mostly girls from my Girl Scout troop, but since they keep a low profile on the GS front, we never communicate about Scouts.
I don't send friend requests to my kids friends but I will accept and limit their access to my info.

Christy said...

I definitely friended my son, as well as having access to his login & password. As for his friends, I do not friend them... I don't want to be responsible for corrupting any other child other than my own :)

Kristianna said...

I'd let them friend you, set up a 'kid friends' list, and then adjust your privacy so they only see what, if anything, you want them to see. That'll also make your son more comfortable that he won't be embarrassed by his mom, haha!

Catherine said...

My Sk's are 12 and 13 and I am their friend. When their friends friend me they go into a special list and they are blocked from my status messages etc. I occasionally BIACH about things that those kids just don't need to see, but I also know that some of those kids don't have parents that are as cautious as I am so if I see something of any concern on their pages, I will address it appropriately..