Tuesday, September 29, 2009

can you ever truly be anonymous?

a good friend of mine wants to start up a blog of her very own. but she wants to be anonymous.

she asked me if it was possible. and without going into some huge diatribe of how of course it's possible, but omg, watch out cause you COULD get found out- which in turn just contradicts itself..

i thought i'd come to you guys.

cause i'm only a little anon (which means, not really). you know my name, see pics of my wonderful smiling face, you see my awesome spawn, the hotness that is boyfriend, etc. but i've allowed all of that. i've said that sharing was ok.

but what if you don't want too? what if you want to be able to speak more freely, etc and the only way to do so is to be truly anon?

is it possible? do you blog anon? ever been found out?

any tips for her? horror stories? this could be fun!!!





and THANKS!!!

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20 comments:

corrin said...

My good friend started a blog and gave her children fake names. I told her how ridiculous that was and she said that she wanted to blog anonymously. I then proceeded to demonstrate how, in under 5 minutes, I could obtain her home address. She kept the fake names, but she's come to terms with the fact that if someone wants to find you - they will find you.

Becky said...

i think if you want to be anon you could be. i've read plenty of blogs where i don't even know the author's name. it's possible BUT for me i don't see how you could truly be involved in the blog if you were anonymous and never told ANYONE who you were. blogging has introduced me to some awesome people and i wouldn't even have made friends with ANYONE if i was anonymous.

*~* Jenni *~* said...

I don't see how its possible to remain anonymous, but I guess it depends on the type of blog she is wanting to write.

I started out being anonymous, but then discovered I was never able to post pics of my kids, pics of me or my husband... It got too hard. Right now, no one in my family knows about my blog except my husband and one relative of mine. None of my co-workers know about it. A few of my friends know about it, and are regular readers.

*sigh* I guess if you find the answer, let me know! lol

Moonie said...

Well, I have a blog that I control who sees what I write and who doesn't. It's on livejournal.

Since I'm a teacher, I don't feel comfortable with an open blog (even though I have one with blogger.com, I rarely use it) to write my thoughts, feelings, general ideas out for anyone to see.

I think you can be anonymous with a public blog, but you have to be extremely careful of what you say and what pictures you post. There are a lot of industrious people out there who can dig up all sorts of stuff.

Anonymous, to a point.


Dana

Stacey said...

I think it's difficult to be truly anonymous. You'd spend too much time censoring yourself and being paranoid over people finding you. I wouldn't say it's impossible though.

Grand Pooba said...

It's a little spooky around here, scary!

Yes, I definately think it is possible to do an anon blog but it bugs the hell outta me! lol

I like to see the people behind the blog you know?

Scientific Lutheran said...

My blog is mostly anon.

I have 3 or 4 friends who read it, but not family, and I think very hard before I allow other friends to read it.

Most of my readers come from my visits to their blogs and a return visit from them.

If you paid close attention, you could get a decent estimate of where I lived and where I worked, but my name and other personal info is not shared.

So, yes, it's possible, but you have to make an effort to have it stay that way.

Issas Crazy World said...

Hmmmm, yeah it is possible. Hard but possibly. If you never post pictures, don't use kids or your real names and ummmm...don't let someone send in a post to blogher's keynote thing?

Ha. I use fake kid names and i try to hide. But I do it from my family. Not because I care if you guys know who I am.

Twenty Four At Heart said...

No - sooner or later you will be found out. I began 24 anonymously and had every intention of keeping it that way. Our local newspaper found out who I was. They thought they were doing me a favor and helping me build by traffic by not only publishing my full name but also linking to me. All of Orange County now knows who writes Twenty Four At Heart. Yes, it bit me in the ass. The only people who still DON'T know I'm the author? My in laws. They live out of state and I've managed to keep it hidden from them. They hate me enough already without adding fuel to the fire.

mamabird said...

Nice Halloween! You must have some mad skills to be able to have a cool looking blog like that.

Anonymous - I do it because a) my husband has a public job and I bitch about people he works with and b) because I don't want the congregation at the church he works to know what I'm blogging about and c) the freedom to say "no, it's not me". And really, since I have SO many people commenting and reading my blog I don't think I'm in any danger of anyone figuring out who it it.

Real Time Cooking said...

I guess I could see some point to it but I mean why do a blog at all that's public. Doesn't the term PUBLIC mean you want people to see it and you have something you want to say? Otherwise if you want to have it just for you or just friends lock it up. You would have to be pretty steathy to remain completely under wraps as someone pointed out the internet is an instant link with the world.

Alison said...

I don't have a blog and I'm not the one thinking of starting one, and the reason is because I believe you will eventually be found out. And besides, what good is a blog if you can't be yourself??

Jenn said...

I agree about what you want the blog to be about. I read a couple of blogs where there kids have "fake" names and I still enjoy reading them. But I think her family knows about it.

I think it is quite hard to be anonymous. If you really wanted to be anonoymous, you could write it in a diary....

Jenn

Katie said...

loving the holiday layout! I think you can be anon if you dedicate yourself to doing it haha

bunnybea said...

There are a series of blogs called the Constance blogs. They're meant to be anonymous. Don't have a blog but it depends on what you want to talk about and how you describe things.

http://constancethefirst.blogspot.com/

Mbdiamond said...

I have no advise for your friend because I've never TRIED to be anonymous... although my blog's readership is still limited to a few close internet friends, a couple of family members and the other "return-reader" who may drop in after I visit their blog. It's still pretty quiet & personal - but not anonymous. Does she want to be anonymous so that she doesn't have to censor... I'm just thinking back to your post on the topic and all the comments...

Love the Halloween theme, btw

Cookie said...

I think it's possible to be anonymous. But then again, I have a feeling that if your friend is anything like me, that would let some personal info slip.

peewee said...

I tried to be anonymous, but then I posted a link to my personal website. I am just too dumb to be anonymous.

Meg said...

I don't believe that you can ever be truly anonymous. If someone wants to find out your identity or information, they can do it. We can give our kids fake names or be vague all we want, but I think it's a false sense of security.

This reminds me of one of the sessions I attended at BlogHer this year. It's too much to write on here, but let me know if you want me to email you more about it.

Bottom line, if you friend really wants to blog but wants to stay anonymous, it's best to have a private blog that you only allow certain people to access. It would take out the fun of being anonymous, but it would help her protect her identity.

Shelely said...

Today on my blog I asked a similar question: Should I tell people about my blog. I have had my blog for one month and I haven't told anyone, not even my husband. So far, no one has said anything to me. We shall see!