Monday, April 06, 2009

are feedreaders the death of comments?

because 1 post about comments apparently isn't enough.

personally, i have all the blogs i read in bloglines. i rarely click over to someone's actual blog to comment, unless i have something to say on that person's post. but before i had bloglines, i found that i would comment way more- probably because i would visit individual blogs everyday (ps, how the fuck did we do that before the feedreaders? visit 50 or more blogs every.single.day. good lord). if i was already at the blog, it was just easy to leave a comment there. even when i had nothing of significance at all to add. but now that everything is in one condensed place, it's super easy NOT to comment. it's really easy to read everyday, but not click over to add to the conversation.

and that got me thinking because some whore sent me an email letting me know that she still reads me everyday, but doesn't comment much. and in all honesty, i thought that person had stopped reading me completely. so it made me wonder how many people think i've stopped reading them, because i don't comment very often? maybe a lot. but people, i still read you. every.single.day (except on weekends cause i have a life. ha)

and then that got me thinking that we all say how much we love getting comments. we love the interaction with eachother. we write to get our feelings out, but we also love hearing when other people feel the same way. the validation. it helps us feel less crazy, and we bond. real life friendships are born. but how can we form those if we don't interact with one another anymore? if we take away the very basis of what we started this whole thing for...... the comments... what are we left with?

i'm not sure what the answer is. i mean, feedreaders have made it very easy for people to read hundreds of blogs daily. but have we lost something in the process? i'm not sure. commenting just to comment, doesn't add anything to the conversation either. so maybe if you only click over from your feed reader and comment when you're truly inspired to do so, that isn't a bad thing?

i think the hard part is that we associate the amount of people reading our blog with the amount of comments we get. and i think that's really far from the truth. and i think we forget that people still read our words, even when they have nothing to say about them. and it makes us feel kind of bad sometimes. hell, i definitely have gone through periods of time where i wondered what the fuck i did to drive everyone away? and then i would further torment myself by looking back to when i would get 50+ comments per post and question if i've changed? and the reality is, i don't think i've changed at all. blogland has changed. and that's okay. sometimes i have to just keep reminding myself that.

25 comments:

ChickenLiver said...

When you said whore I thought you were talking about me.

Honestly I'm a lot like you. I read in my blog lines, google reader thing and rarely visit a blog unless I feel compelled to say something.

I try to stop by those readers who've left me comments on occasion, but there's just not enough hours in the day sometimes.

Twenty Four At Heart said...

I thought I was special, but you've got so many whores in your life it's hard to get track.

I read most blogs thru google reader. I hate people who don't put thru a full feed & I usually drop them cuz I'm a lazy ass & it's REALLY A LOT OF WORK to click thru.

My new years resolution this year was to comment more. And I HAVE commented more overall. I still go thru days/weeks/months when I'm more of a lurker though. I will stop reading people though if all they write about it is how they're so popular they don't know WHAT TO DO! In fact, I just axed somebody yesterday from my reader cuz I was so damn tired of hearing about how famous they think they are .....

Angry Julie Monday said...

I use Google Reader. I click on some of the posts and comment. I leave about 10-15 comments a day. I subscribe to over a 100 blogs. My commentors are always the same people. I'm happy with that. They were most of my original commentors, and at least I know they are still there.

I wish people would comment more and actually visit my blog.

B@B@ said...

Hi..

im a reader of your blog for a looooong time and i read your blog thrue googlereader..

sometimes i want to comment here but im in my work and you know..boss keep track..

i luv your blog and i wish i can comment more...

PS: i Wonder how is your friend Beckys..i used to read her blog too but it is private now...did she have the baby? sorry if I sound like a stalker but like i said i read your blog but didn't comment because of my other job...

Becky said...

B@B@...I did have the baby! She'll be 2 months on easter!!!

Right now I suck with all blogs cuz I'm on maternity leave. But I've never used feeds!

Peggy said...

I use Feedly which rocks by the way! Try it. I've found that sometimes you can connect to comments right on it and sometimes you can't...not sure if it's a preference or what!

I like the interaction of commenting. I mean, it's half the fun of blog reading IMO...you whore!

See? :)

Meg said...

I quit using a feed reader for this very reason. I feel all stone-age, but it allows me to comment on people's sites so much easier. That's why everyone sees like 6 visits a day because I click through to see who has updated.

Don't get me wrong, I love the ease of feeds, but it takes out the personal edge. I've thought many times about going back to a reader, but then I would never comment. I needsomething to motivate me!

Cagey said...

The way I figure it, is this: by using a feed reader, I have MORE time to comment because I am wasting LESS time by clicking around on blogs trying to find the ones who have updated. How about that?

Besides, I only comment on posts that I feel compelled to comment on anyway. Come on, it is not that hard to click out of the reader and whip up a comment.

steenky bee said...

Dare I say that I am the white you speakest of? I tried Old English there for a minute and it didn't really work out. Perhaps next time I'll try Biblical speak or a British accent.

You know, it's an honor to be here, whore or not. I'm surprised when anyone reads me, let alone comments on me. I do think readers are makng it difficult with all the extra clicking it takes to get to the comments section of a blog. When it comes right down to it, it's a faster-paced world nowadays and we have less time.

I know that your last two posts have jolted me put if my lazy, warm comfort and have inspired me to de-lurk on a few sites. Thanks for reminding me to get out there ant slut it up even more.

Jenny said...

I don't leave as many comments as others, but because I don't want to leave comments just for the sake of doing so. There are times when I have a thought I want to say, and times when I don't. If so then it's worth clicking through the feed reader to do so, but most of the time ... nah, not so much.

B@B@ said...

Jenn thanks for responding me...Ur a cool chick..

Beckys..waoo thats good!! time goes fast.....hope everything is fine...

Kiss kiss

Surprised Suburban Wife said...

Lurker in da house! I have read your blog for a couple of YEARS and don't think I've ever commented. You are so interesting and WAAAY more silly-fun-with-heart-of-deep than I ever could be. So there you go. I don't want Blogland to change but I feel it too...

zandor said...

I use google reader. I click to go to a blog kind of a lot. I hate sites that don't post a full feed. Even though I click over to it a lot I like having the option of reading in the reader.

Jenna said...

I used Google Reader because I've become lazy. I still read your blog every time you have a new post but like a lot of people, I don't comment as much anymore. I've noticed the change, too...even though I never was one to get a lot of comments, I get even less now.

Alice said...

i set my greader up into folders: first folder of "daily musts" of my "blog friend" who i read and comment on every day; another folder called "daily lurkings" where i read every day but don't comment. :-)

Lynanne said...

I get overwhelmed when I use a feed reader - all those unread posts. Instead, I have a few fav blogs that I read regularly and then click through comments (on my own blog and others) to see what's going on with everyone.

Oh, and I set my feeds to only display summaries of my posts. That way if someone is crazy enough to read my nonsense, they have to visit my blog to read more. Why? Because I'm a geek, I guess. :)

carrie said...

I use my Bloglines to see if there are new posts, I usually click through to the actual blog. And then...comment if I feel like it.

I think your last sentence is right, things ARE changing. We've been here long enough to see that! And I never judge a blog's greatness from it's comments (the amount of them anyway) because like someone said, who wants to hear a bunch of "you are awesome" over and over again. I know I'm guilty of sassing about in comments sometimes, but I really like to leave ones that are more than a pat on the back.

OK - my head is done exploding from to much thinking about this now! :)

Fairly Odd Mother said...

Google Reader means that I don't comment as much but I also am able to check out a LOT more blogs than I did in the past. And, yeah, I love comments and sometimes worry that I've lost every last reader, but then they'll appear to comment on something and I feel all warm and fuzzy until it happens again!

lizriz said...

It's an interesting question. I guess I've always only commented when particularly moved to, but I've been trying to comment more readily. Because I really do read so many amazing things everyday. I guess sometimes I feel like a post is so awesome, what could I possibly add? But then, that's exactly when you should comment! :)

Catherine said...

I now read through a reader and enjoy that much more then having to click over onto someone's blog to read. I do only comment when particularly moved. But I think I have to be a little more "moved" if the person's site has so much crap to load that it takes forever to leave a comment.
I hate doing it on blogger because most people do not have it set up that if I click on the blog, it takes me to their page and then I can just scroll right to the bottom and start reading..but with Blogger..nooo you have to click to leave the comment..then wait for ANOTHER page to load..and that's a PITA to me.

Erica Ortiz said...

I use Google Reader, and it took me 4 clicks to post this comment. I, for the life of me, can't figure out why they can't create a click through comment button on Google Reader!

Andie said...

you know, I don't even have a feedreader or whatever. I just go into my blogroll and click on them when I get time.

Maybe I need a feedreader!

I do often sometimes wonder if anyone is reading, though.

Melizzard said...

You CAN have the best of both worlds!

If you use Google Reader and Firefox all you have to do is download the Google Reader Preview Greasemonkey thingy here http://userscripts.org/scripts/show/9455

and it gives you a preview button with each post that allows you see the real post as it appears in the blog and comment right from Reader - which is what I'm doing right now.

Before I had this - like you I had sort of stopped commenting but with this Commenting is back like in style!

Lara said...

yeah, i'm sad about both my own lack of commenting (on others' sites) and the lack of comments on my own. but i think mostly that comes from the fact that i got too busy to be active in the community anymore, and so i lost my readers. my own fault, but still sad sometimes. i'm going to show up at blogher this summer and no one will know who i am or why i should matter at all. :-P

Jenn said...

I agree that reading blogs has definitly changed, but mostly for the better. If I had to type in everyone's url I wouldn't read as many blogs. I still feel like I comment as much, it's just my comments are much more spread out.

Hope that makes sense.

Jenn