Tuesday, March 17, 2009

the things we say

a lot of us say things in the presence of others that we don't really think about. i've done it. i'm sure i still do it. i think that when people are passionate about something, they just say everything they think and feel about it, without truly thinking who they're talking too.

earlier today i was in a room where people got really off topic and started talking about things that got them really riled up. they started to name call the people on the other side of their argument. and i kept attempting to interject by saying that the people on the other side feel just as strongly about their beliefs and opinions as they did theirs. but none of it mattered. they couldn't see that they were doing the same thing that the other side does. they couldn't see that they were what they claimed to "hate."

it's one thing to think your beliefs are right for you- it's another thing to think they are right for everyone. when did we become a society so full of ourselves, that our opinions are the only ones that matter? they said so many offensive things in that room, not once even considering that i might be on the other side of their argument. it's okay to name call and be a complete jackass, as long as you do it behind those people's backs, right?

i'm happy that people are passionate about things in life. truly, i am. but the way that we go about it- the way all sides go about it- it's so ugly. yet each side thinks they're the non-ugly side. they think they're superior.

and it's just sad really. because how are we supposed to improve our lives.... and live together on this planet, if we think we're above anyone who has a different opinion than we do?

11 comments:

Backpacking Dad said...

Hells to the yeah!

I'd like to think I avoid name-calling in arguments. I prefer to be so unassailably right that they resort to namecalling :} But if I don't think I'm right I don't say anything. I don't argue for the sake of arguing. I hate those people. They're probably criminals.

SoMo said...

This is why debate is futile these days. Everyone forgot how to do it. You present facts and counteract the other person's facts. Sometimes you have to agree to disagree. Instead it ends of in a big stinkin pile of dung. It is why I try not to debate, especially politics, because it just becomes an insult contest and no one wins those.

Twenty Four At Heart said...

How funny, I was thinking about this exact thing today. You are a younger me. Damn, I want to be a younger me!

Bree said...

I love this post. I agree wholeheartedly. When did we get SO important in our minds to think that OUR WAY is the ONLY WAY and everyone needs to know it?

Karen Sugarpants said...

this comes at an interesting time when i tried to diffuse a difference of opinion gone awry on Canada Moms Blog about the seal hunt. Both sides of the issue are very passionate and it quickly got ugly. Sigh. We need to remember each other's feelings during times of disagreement!

i shared this one on google reader, smart lady!

Issas Crazy World said...

Can I just applaud? Because I am sitting here nodding at you.

I think people have forgotten that words have power. They don't know how to argue or disagree without being hurtful and rude.

It's running rampat on the internet right now too. Because somehow people will write things that they wouldn't probably ever say in real life.

penguininthesun said...

It's cool to have very strong opinions on things and to try and fight for what you believe in. But when you bring others down... that just sucks. I wonder if remaining neutral is just as bad though. Everyone needs a dose of tolerance, without backing off from their beliefs.

btw, hi! :)

Meg said...

This is something I'm working really hard on. I'm bad about firing off my opinions and not taking in the other side. It's so easy to think everyone believes the same things you do!

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com said...

I tend to be pretty tolerant of people who do these things, but when they're on the topic of religion or politics or parenting? FORGET ABOUT IT. Those three topics there I really wish people could calm down about.

Ericka said...

is calling someone a whacked out zealot name calling? even if they are one?

those who think they're right really annoy those of us who are, i guess.

Gini said...

I have certainly made it a practice to never say anything about someone unless I would be willing to say it right to there face....because at times, I say it like it is.