Wednesday, January 28, 2009

people tell me things

it's true. strangers tend to tell me things about themselves.. their lives.. their families.. all sorts of things. it's all very random. and usually out of nowhere. but it tends to happen to me everywhere i go. and i'm not kidding.

i mean how else would i know that the sweet old man at trader joe's has a wife who ate too much salt? and that the eating of the too much salt affected her heart and almost killed her. and that she had to have surgery to repair the arteries. but at least she's going to be okay. and they're happy. and he thinks that the things at trader joe's are too expensive and how can anyone afford to buy their food from there? and how come people don't just cook in their own homes anymore? and don't forget to lay off the salt! because of him, i haven't been salting things. really.

and then there was the guy at the gas station. i mean, i was sitting there, filling sam (my jeep) up with gas, and next thing i know this guy has told me all about his 22 year old daughter. she was addicted to drugs, but she's been clean and sober for a few months now. she had to move back home and if she was going to live with him, she had to clean up. but she doesn't have a job right now. and he's worried that the guy she is dating is a total loser. but he's just trying to be a good dad. and he just wants the best for his daughter. and i told him that i knew both. and i meant it.

and i can't forget that guy with an accent so thick, trying to explain to me that he wants to be an airplane technician. and so he's moving to denver colorado on august 2nd to go to school there. he said there was a school in la, but he was afraid of falling in with a bad crowd and he thinks denver is a safer bet for him. i laughed when he mentioned that he would probably lose his tan and turn white living there. i wished him luck. and i meant it.

i always walk away from things that like and wonder if it ever happens to anyone else? or am i the only one? on one hand i think it's neat to talk to people and hear the things they choose to tell me. but then i wonder WHY me? i mean, do i have a sign on my forehead that tells people it's okay to get completely personal with me and tell me things you may not even tell your friends? i really don't mind it, i just find it kind of fascinating. and in some ways, i consider myself lucky.

does this happen to you? or someone you know? or do other weird things happen to you? what happens to you often enough that you think it's odd?

23 comments:

Ali said...

nobody tells me anything. apparently, i come across bitchy.

;)

Joe said...

Never.

Mmmm...Trader Joe's. Love that place.

Hold on...you mean that's not the point of this post?

Andie said...

I'm one of those people that talks to anyone. i don't go into great detail, but I'm a talker.

and I often have people talk to me a bunch, too. I guess I give off a friendly vibe! I know what you mean, though!

Chris O said...

I am that person that shares things with strangers. My initials are TMI. My mom was always talking up strangers, telling everything, embarassing the hell out of her kids. Then I became my mother. Much to the dismay of my kids, I'm always talking to anyone who will listen and some who are just captive to my ravings by being stuck with me in a line or in the jury waiting room, drs office, bus, etc. My oldest called me one day, she was upset. She has become her mother. She chats up everyone now. It's a curse that keeps on going. I'm sure I have been blog fodder for some of those poor souls stuck listening to me ramble on and on and on...

Anissa Mayhew said...

Oh good lord yes, you'd think I had a tattoo on my forehead that says "ask me, tell me, I really want to know"...I also attract CRAZY...if someone is insane they are unnaturally driven to want to be my friend.

I'm not particularly nice, so I really don't get it.

Alison said...

You look friendly and people can tell you're vibrant and love life. That's why they talk to you. :)

Bridge said...

I think Alison's right. I find people talk to me too - usually when I'm smiling at them and looking them in the eye. If I'm in a bad mood and looking surly, they generally leave me alone.

Apryl's Antics said...

I'm one of those people who always moves out of the way of people heading towards me at the mall. When I try to be the one that doesn't move, they bump into me. It happens to one of my BFF's, too. I'm not sure what it means.

Onlythetruth said...

The same thing happens to me all the time. We were in England several years ago and I sat next to a man and within 10 minutes I knew all about his family and son who was home from the army etc. Just last night I learned about the convience store clerk's family who lost their power in Ark and how her son was afriad there baby was going to freeze to death but then the power came back on - all that while I was getting a coke.

My husband says I just have that kind of face as I think you do as well.

Twenty Four At Heart said...

OMG this happens to me ALL the time! Especially at PT ... people there tell me everything about their entire lives. One ladies son was in jail for MURDER and someone else is having an AFFAIR and blah, blah, blah. We must have approachable faces or something. Girl, we need to meet and go to a SCal BEACH!!

corrin said...

My mom always has strangers striking up conversations with her and telling their life story. She's very chatty, so I think they like someone who responds to their stories.

Meg said...

I have this happen, but not as often as it seems to happen to you. Working in a tax preparer's office, I hear all kinds of things from people. It's like I have access to their social security #, so why not spill all?

And I often wonder what happened to these people.

Smartass Milf said...

I was on a flight home to Baltimore from Ft. Lauderdale, and the man sitting next to me (in his 60's) told me his life story of meeting his wife, her leaving him last year, and how he found love again in Florida. The story would have been okay if it was under 20 minutes, but it lasted the whole 2 1/2 hours. Complete with him showing me the napkins that she leaves him love notes on. Just weird!

chris said...

I have a friend like you, she just attracts people, many crazy. People are constantly confiding in her. Random strangers tell her things in stores. It is very odd.

On the other hand, no one talks to me

fairytalesandmargaritas said...

I get the old ladies in the grocery store asking me which prune juice is better for constipation. I can never tell if this is a good thing or not.

Issas Crazy World said...

Happens to me too. i think maybe we just look nice?

Ster, Denver is like a zillion miles closer to the sun than CA. He'll be here and burn in one day. ;) Seriously I fry in winter while sitting in my car.

Mom101 said...

If only they knew you weren't just a sweet blonde girl with a friendly smile but a blogger with a big mouth.

Stephanie A. said...

pre-kids it happened to me ALL THE TIME. I once had a girl tell me, in the dairy queen drive-thru (I was working there) that that morning she had gone for an abortion, her parents found out, dragged her out by her hair, took her home and then kicked her out. it was the day before thanksgiving and here was this pregnant 18 yo all alone and scared. because of my age I was all, "Um, OK, TMI." but now I feel so sad for her and hope she is well.

Grim Reality Girl said...

You are not alone... it happens to me ALL the time. We are blessed are we not? ;-) Because you are open people approach you and you lead a full life. This is good -- even though it can be annoying at times.

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...

People like to tell me when they do drugs. I have no idea why. I must look like a junkie or something.

Kristabella said...

This happens to me and my brother and sister. We totally get it from our father. I think it is because we are all very friendly. And when we go out places, we chat with people.

Like on Sunday, I was with my niece at a concession stand and this one kid working it ended up following me around all day and telling me random bits about how he has to buy one of those DTV convertor boxes for his house because one of his TVs isn't hooked up to cable.

Caffeinatrix said...

It's a Virgo thing, doll :)

cakeburnette said...

people just tell me about their financial condition, i.e. debt. Maybe it's because I'm a CPA. All I know is that it makes me uncomfortable.