a girlfriend of mine and i were discussing this topic the other day. she has a friend who doesn't get along with her husband anymore. and that friend actually suggested that they be friends and just not ever talk about their husbands. that there is no reason why the 2 of them can't be best friends like they used to be, before their husbands were in the picture.
now i don't know about you, but that pissed me off. and made me laugh. like seriously, how old is this person? and does she realistically think that she could be friends with someone, without including the husband? and what, just never ever talk about married life, or the issues that go along with being married, the father of your child, etc?!? what the fuck ever.
do you think it's possible to be friends with someone if they don't like your husband? i mean, actually have a meaningful friendship? cause for me, i have a "friend" who doesn't like my husband. and in all honesty, i don't really speak to her. i don't really have much to say because there is always some sort of ackwardness that exists... the knowledge that she doesn't like who i married. the ringing in my ears of all the really mean and cruel things she once said about me and my husband, and has never apologized for. and to me, if you can't support my marriage, then i don't really want you in my life. that might sound harsh, but why would i want someone who didn't like the main person in my life, in my life? i can't be friends with someone who doesn't want to hear about my husband (unless it's something bad, then i'm sure she'd be happy to listen). it's not that this friend of mine wishes or wants bad things for me- it's just the reality of what she thinks about the man i married. and in all honesty, i can't get past it. i can't. i can't put it behind me and pretend like everything is okay and that i truly like her and want her in my life because the truth is.... i don't.
and i'm wondering.. am i wrong?
what would you do? or maybe you haven't liked someone's husband, but still wanted to be friends with that person.. does it truly work? cause i just don't see how it can.