Saturday, August 16, 2008

what i would have said

ever since "the post" happened, i haven't stopped thinking about it. if even just slightly. i don't want to give certain people the misconception that it has consumed me because that is not the case. i think i just feel like things were left very open ended and i never got to have a say. with his response and then the numerous emails that have followed, and are still rolling in (not from him), i haven't been able to let this situation go. since i couldn't respond to the comment on his blog, i figured i'd respond to it on mine. i feel that i have every right to post what i would have there, here. it's not about having the last word.. it's about having the chance to have A word. i'm also doing it publicly instead of emailing him directly because the initial comments and response were both public to begin with. i figured i'd keep them that way. (there is another reason but i will get into that at another time) this what i would have said:

now i totally get what you're saying. i think if you would have worded it like that to begin with in your original post, i would have never gotten defensive in the first place. i understand what you're trying to say and it makes sense to me. i guess your original wording just made me get defensive because i read it very arrogantly. even if that wasn't your intention, it's how it read to me.... and i know i wasn't the only one.

anyway, your reponse back to me would have been very nice and civilized and totally awesome had you not added your ps in there. i really don't get what was passive, or aggressive in my comment? i think you're trying to read into something that isn't there. i said what i meant and i thought i said it pretty plainly. there wasn't any hidden meaning or backhanded bullshit like you're insinuating. i also don't appreciate the character assumption. i'm not passive aggressive at all, and your ps is just further proof that neither you, or your wife, know anything about me.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yay! I am so glad you wrote this and had your say. I found you through that VERY post...I remember reading his little PS and then going back to your post and thinking, "does he know the definition of passive aggressive? Cause this ain't it." If anything I thought you dared to disagree (which I totally agreed with you) in a very respectful, dialogue-ey sort of way. I guess to him, if you're not gushing or patting him on the back you must be against him. Anyway, enough gushing, just wanted to say I'm glad you put this out there and I hope you know you aren't over-reacting.

that girl said...

you're absolutely right in saying your can write anything you want here, it's your blog! I'm glad you did, I think it's therapeutic -- even though I have no idea what the argument was!

SUEB0B said...

You're right - that last line was a totally douchey thing to say, and the funniest part was that it was TOTALLY passive agressive to use it as a closing line and then not respond to you at all.

If anything, I would say you are rather assertive, by which I mean that I think you are the kind of person, who, if you have a problem with someone, prefers to clear it up right out front rather than by backhanded methods.

Maybe he was just having a douchey day. God knows I have them!

SLynnRo said...

The whole passive aggressive comment made NO SENSE.

Issas Crazy World said...

See it's the whole passive aggressive thing that makes no since. You are like the oppisite of it. Am proud of you for how you handed it. I would have wanted to throw a bag of poo.

Meg said...

So I would like to thank you for taking up a whole lot of my Sunday morning! When this whole drama started, I only knew about your post on your blog. I thought it had all happened via email and that I had missed nothing. Then I read today and I'm like wtf...so I followed all kind of links and found the "confrontation". I'm so sorry that you've had to go through this and I'm sure it goes deeper than what we have read on his site. I'm proud of you for standing up for yourself and for sticking to your guns. You're awesome!

Lisa said...

I completely ditto what Meg up there said...even exactly the Sunday morning thing. P.S. I like your blog!

Karen Sugarpants said...

That whole thing was crap, and most of us saw right through it. Don't sweat it at all 'Ster.
No one shoots straighter than you.

Ali said...

yes. that ps sure was the kicker, eh? ;)

Kristabella said...

Good for you!

Seriously, the PS made NO sense.

He's a blurbodouche. That post and him censoring the comments went a long way to piss off a lot of people.