Wednesday, February 13, 2008

do you celebrate valentine's day?

i'm curious how many of you celebrate valentine's day. if you do, what do you do? if you GET something from your significant other, what do you expect? are there things that are totally unacceptable for v-day in your opinion?? are you a low key, or high maintanance v-dayer? what do you give?

now i think valentine's day is kind of stupid. i mean, why is society telling me that i have to celebrate on a day that is no different than any other plain old day??? valentine's day holds no special meaning for me and boyfriend. we didn't meet for the first time on v-day... we didn't get married, or engaged, or anything significant on this day- so why does february 14th require all this crap???? WHO MAKES THIS SHIT UP??

so while i do think it's sorta dumb... i freaking participate in it every year. because i'm a sucker, and there is a part in me that could NO WAY completely ignore this day. but in my relationship, i'm the only one. i will tell you, out loud and in public, that boyfriend has NEVER, in the 5 valentine's days (tomorrow) that we've spent together, ever, gotten me a single thing. not a piece of candy. not a single rose. not a card. NOTHING. and every fucking year i buy him something. granted, it's a stupid something- BUT IT IS STILL A SOMETHING nonetheless. i either bake for him, or get him candy, or a stupid stuffed animal- just something to acknowledge the day. it's not spectacular, or fancy, but it's sweet. and he knows that i will do something. he knows that i can't do nothing. yet he is completely fine in doing nothing for me. and i guess that's the part i can't quite figure out. maybe i just say valentine's day is stupid, but deep down i really don't mean it??? maybe there is something to having a day that means nothing, to show that they mean something? i don't know!!! all i know is that i am a little bitter that i get totally jipped outta valentine's day when everyone else around me gets the fucking works. and hell, i don't even want the works- i just want something.

13 comments:

Beth said...

We don't celebrate here. Not really anyway. I do try to make a special supper, something we don't have every week. I don't really expect anything from hubby either. In fact, last year I went to Costco a few days later and bought myself some gorgeous roses! lol!

Becky said...

dot=stubborn. pft. men.

me and matt DO celebrate. normally we get gifts...like birthdays or any other day. last year i got a digital camera. and we always do dinner too...this year though the freakin plane ticks we got are our gifts to eachother. its lame, i hate it but we're broke!

Tammy said...

Drew and I usually do something small, just to acknowledge the day. Nothing spectacular but I think the day is a good reminder to stop, slow down and remember the special person in your life.

Badness Jones said...

I usually give Hubs something at breakfast, and then he hands me some cheap candy from the grocery store, still in the plastic bag with the receipt at the bottom, when he gets home from work. I'd almost rather nothing than the guilt/pity gift.

Jenna said...

I used to be really uptight about it being something before kids. Now, I give the husband some See's chocolates and am done with it. I, in return, would just LOVE a card. That's it. I never get one, though...

Really, shouldn't love be celebrated all year long instead of just exaggerated on this one day?

Alison said...

We just exchange cards. Chris will sometimes hand over a couple of Reese's peanut butter cups and I'm thrilled! :) Really, I don't think Valentine's Day is a big deal, as an adult.

I think it's more fun for kids. They get such a kick out of handing out Valentines, and even though that's kind of silly, it's sweet nonetheless. And, I give the kids a little gift to make it a special day.

I think Chris should get you a card, if nothing else. I know it might sound stupid but it's kind of nice to at least reciprocate, yes? And he might think about handing over some Reese's Peanut Butter Hearts because he HAS TO KNOW that you LOVE THEM!

Catherine said...

Allan and I don't celebrate. We profess to it's silliness and primary goal of making Zales, Hershey and LTD Flowers richer.

And YET, I did a pseudo Valentine's Day post for him, so I guess that makes me a hypocrite. Or cheap.

Loren said...

We don't ever celebrate, I think it's just a day to help Hallmark get richer! I used to give Fernando a card or a little something but never received one in return, so I opted to stop doing it. I do give Adrian a little card with a candy though, he appreciates it much - he always gives me a heart he drew in school!

denise said...

I think I dread it because it gives my daughters an excuse to bug me about candy, like I need any help there. I did just watch something about St. Valentine being the patron saint of lovers, something about advocating cristian marriage ceremonies or some such thing, but Im not really religious so I dont think I should have to participate in the over sugaring of our offspring. And see how it started out about lovers and now its about sugar and jewels.

Sugared Harpy said...

HELLS YEAH. Something would be appreciated, anything.

point45 said...

celebrating fuckintines day doesnt make me love you more. while i small portion of me does feel the slightest bit bad. you know im not going to do a thing nor do i want you to do a thing. i love you every night and everyday. hallmark can go fuck themselves i dont need to make there stock go up to tell you i love you. i tell you every morning when your still practically asleep and every night when we go to bed.....and normally a few times in between.

if you want me to recognize V-day then that will void celebrating the A-day....you know june 23....the day i told you i would spend the rest of my life with you.....

p.s. if you recognize steak and a blowjob day....march 14....the next year i will recognize valentines with something of equal proportion

Don Mills Diva said...

We celebrate really just because it's an excuse to be sweet to each other...

denise said...

GOD FORBID my man ever finds out about steak and a blowjob day!