thanks everyone for your comments to the post below. they were reassuring and helpful and i really appreciate them.
i called off the dream team yesterday from meeting with the people regarding the house. they got mad. yes, you read that right. i think they were frustrated and i totally get that, but still- i ended up feeling like shit. here's the thing.... when we made the offer on that house originally, i remember praying they wouldn't take it because i didn't want the house. i was RELIEVED when the agent was a dick and found myself happy that we weren't in negotiations over a house i wasn't into and didn't truly want. but months later, half of the dream team told me that when the listing on the house expires, they were going to find the owners and talk to them. i didn't ask them to do that, and i wasn't sure they were doing it for us. i had expressed to the dream team that i was happy the offer was rejected because i didn't really like that house. they must have "not heard" that part even though i said it more than once, and left it on a voice mail or two. i figured they were going to meet so they could take them on as a client, or to find out if their agent even presented the offer or not (to get him in trouble or something.. i dunno). i didn't think they were doing it for us, since i hadn't expressed anymore interest in that house. and in all honesty, boyfriend and i thought it was funny that they were going to pay the owners a visit. we thought it was probably the highlight of their otherwise boring day. neither one of us truly thought they were doing this on our behalf.
but i guess we were wrong. and they had all the wrong impression. so when i called to tell them not to go on our behalf and that i didn't like the house and didn't want it, they were pissy. one half of the dream team had to get off the phone with me he was so pissed, while the other half called me immediately following and was mad as well. anyway, it just sucked. and while i fucking felt bad, i was also pissed off. i never asked them to go in the first place. i never asked them to pursue the house. and while i was encouraging when they DID say they were going to meet with them, i did so because i thought it was funny- and i thought they were going on their own accord. but they thought i was encouraging because i wanted them to get the deal on the house done.
so anyway. that's where we're at. with a half pissed off dream team, and no house on the horizon. you know what i keep hearing echoing in my head? someone (i can't remember who) posted in comments awhile back about how it was a "buyer's market"... and did i have a "buyer's agent"? and sometimes i wonder. i truly wonder.