Tuesday, May 01, 2007

there will be strangers at my wedding

i was thinking about the fact that some of boyfriend's friends are bringing their new found girlfriend's to our wedding. and what struck me the most was that there would be these chicks that i don't even know, at my wedding. someone who isn't my friend... who i will say about 2 words too.. and whom i may never possibly even see again. at my wedding. my most personal, romantic, close to my heart and soul, day... i will have strangers in my midst. and it just feels weird. weird to know that someone who knows absolutely nothing about mine and boyfriend's relationship will be there as we take a this hugely personal step in our lives. and they won't really care because how could they? they don't even know us. and it just makes a part of my heart feel sad when i think about it. people who don't even know me, will get to take part in this day that means the world to me. people who i may never see again, get to see me say "i do" to the man i love, while others we wish were there, aren't going to be. there is just something wrong about that.

now granted, there will be people that both boyfriend and myself will be meeting for the first time (relatives, old family friends) on our wedding day which i think is just weird as well. i mean, it just seems odd to meet people on your wedding day. i realize this is nothing new and happens all the time- at every wedding, etc... but still, i just think it's weird. or sad. or something.

were there people you didn't know at your wedding?!??

17 comments:

RWA said...

That would seem strange, I guess, but look at it this way. You won't see those people more than a minute or so.

The majority of your time will be with your family and close friends, which is what matters.

norcalgirl28 said...

That is a weird thought. No, there were no people like that at my wedding. All of our friends, who brought significant others, had introduced them to us before. We actually had socially interacted with them before too, like work functions for Frank's co-workers, etc. So, yes, I can see how you would feel weird. My family is so small that I knew everyone and all of my parent's friends too, and had for years. Hmmmm...maybe THEY can sit behind the posts....:)

DDM said...

There were SO many people we didn't know at our wedding. In fact, there were 4 different sets of bridesmaids dresses at our wedding. When the party (it was a popular day to get married with our peers) wound down at 4 other weddings, they all ended up at our reception, lol. It was SO MUCH FUN! We had a party, it wasn't formal at all, so we didn't mind. I didn't care that there were people at the ceremony I didn't know, I was too happy to care.

Stephanie A. said...

Hahahahahahahahahaha!!!

This was one of those things that happened and I didn't learn about until well after the wedding and I'm not entirely sure I should tell you.

OK, my arm is twisted.

My BROTHER. FREAKING BROTHER. Brought this girl that he had not known for long as his date. I had never met her. Well, she ended up flirting and um, ahem, "cornering" one of my bridesmaids' husbands in the bathroom where they exchanged phone numbers, email addresses and god knows what else.

My brother felt horrible as it caused a huge argument between my friend and her husband and apparently it was the talk of the evening. Adam and I were having such a blast that we were completely clueless (the way it should be!). My friend, however, after we returned from the honeymoon demanded to know who she was and I was all, I have no freaking clue who that is. Then she told me it was my brother's date. Um, oh. Oops. When my brother found out about it all he made her get out of the car and told her off. It was drama on top of drama on top of drama.

So, the reason I told you about it is because we had no clue it was going on, so maybe if your strangers try to get it on with the marrieds you won't realize either ;) You really are THAT busy on your wedding day.

Becky said...

no but mine was super small and last minute so everyone that was there i knew. but i totally get what youre saying. why are they bringing their girls with them anyway?

Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

I have thought of that before. We only had 50 people at our wedding. We got married in Napa Ca. and invited our 50 closest friends and relatives...No strangers there.

Chase said...

Well, I'm not married, but the boyfriend and I just recently started looking at engagement rings, so it'll happen soon enough!

There will be tons of people at my wedding that I won't know - old friends of my boyfriend, their dates, etc etc. I won't mind at all. The more people we can share our happiness with, the better, IMO. :)

btw, I don't comment here too much, but I read like crazy. I get to get the inside scoop of wedding planning before I have to go through it! ;)

alison said...

You'll be so busy enjoying the day you won't even realize they're even there. And, 7 weeks from now, they might not even be together still, so you might not have to worry about them anyway. :)

jennster said...

BUT I WILL HAVE ALREADY PAID FOR THEM!!!!! lol

Mieke said...

It does seem wierd, but you know what? On that day, you will be so caught up in your emotions that you will not notice. Seriously. You will be so happy and spending time with your closest family and friends that you really won't care. It always happens, but I guess that's part of weddings.
No one wants to go alone.

Kat said...

it sucks, but just think- maybe you'll meet a couple of these girlfriends and find someone really special that you may form a relationship with.....also- maybe the girlfriends wil actually learn something at our wedding....start looking for that true love that you and boyfriend have....you know?

you probably wont even notice them either. all that matter is that blake and your family and friends are there.

the other people are just extra seat fillers ((as terrible as that sounds)

Grim Reality Girl said...

yep, strangers among us. it is odd when you think about it. don't think about it. as long as they behave they will add to the fun. if they don't behave someone else will kick them out for you :-)

Sarah's Mama said...

Same thing happened at mine but now they are the closest best friends I ever had.
Think positively Jen. You won't even notice them with everyone else that will be in your face.

ali said...

too many.
my wedding had about 380 people at it...and i probably knew about a 1/4.

Karen said...

This is something I would have never, ever thought about. But I guess it does seem weird. I have been to many weddings where I didn't know the bride, groom or both. Sort of like legitimate version of Wedding Crashers.

At least they will be giving gifts (or their dates should be giving bigger gifts than if they came alone).

spidey said...

Well there were some that he knew and I didn't and vice versa, but I can't think of any that one of us hadn't met before. It is possible though. I guess it is weird, but I never would have thought of it...

Lisa Fine Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Well, I've been that girl that the bride didn't know many a time. Once, there was no room left except the first pew WITH THE DAMN FAMILY but the wedding coordinator refused to let me stand in the back with my then boyfriend so she made us SIT IN THE FIRST PEW WITH THE FAMILY and the bride was staring at me while she took her vows trying to figure out who the freak I was! I was there to support my boyfriend -- who needed me there with him as an escort. I guess my point is that it is also awkward to be the girl nobody knows at a highly personal, family event. I was very fortunate that that bride was extremely kind and gracious and made me feel more than welcome. I really appreciated that.

Kelly