Thursday, May 24, 2007

actions without consequences

i'm pretty sure that people who do fucked up things would like to believe that their actions have no consequences. i'm also pretty sure that those people convince themselves of that very thing. i'm also fairly certain that those same people tell themselves that what they didn't wasn't fucked up at all, but was just a part of life. *sighs*

in the place where i choose to live.. oh, let's call it reality.. things don't work that way. you do something shitty- you have repercussions. you hurt people, then people hurt. and they don't hurt on your timeline. they don't get over something when you want them to get over it. and you can't pretend that you didn't hurt them at all. you can't act as if they have no right to be hurt. and you also can't sit there and pretend to be the victim, when you don't like how things are turning out.

it's really interesting to me to see how people do this. to watch one completely twist and turn the truth into a reality that is convenient for them. a false reality where they can convince themselves that they are blameless. the scariest part is that they believe it. they believe that they did nothing wrong. they blame you for not getting over it. it's your fault that you're still upset. you are choosing to live in the past, where the hurt still is- while they've moved on.

well of course they moved on- that way they don't have to take any responsibility for what they've done. of course they put it in the past- that way they don't have to confront it, or deal with it.

HOW FUCKING CONVENIENT.

and how fucking cowardly.

20 comments:

norcalgirl28 said...

There must be one hell of a story behind this post!!!

Phoenix said...

But there's always karma. Maybe it's a long shot, but you can hope they get theirs one day.

jen said...

SOOOOO dying to know details...

Anonymous said...

Could you be less specific please?

DDM said...

AMEN sista! Also intrigued to know what the hell happened. Been through something like this in the last year and it's why my blog is now private.

dana said...

I'm anxious to hear the details, too.

I can totally relate your words to many experiences with people who've done the very same thing you describe.

:(

Hope things get a little brighter...

sam said...

I wanna know too!

And that sounds completely like my mother-in-law. I'm sorry if you had the opportunity to meet her. It wasn't my fault.

alison said...

Oooooh, for once I know what you're talking about. Tell me, tell me, what happened? Did you say anything or are you just venting?

Mommy off the Record said...

Whoa. What the hell happened? If you don't my nosy self askin'

SUEB0B said...

Ooh girl. Who are you mad at?

Eileen said...

It's so true.

There are people so self-involved that they know how it feels to be hurt (and may tell you about it ad nauseum) but have no idea (or just don't care) how their actions affect others.

So frustrating.

So weird that everyone wants to know more. I totally relate w/o having to know any more.

Chopski said...

You know my ex-wife!!

mhappenow said...

you nailed him.....now use your insight to detach.

Karen Rani said...

Oy, lady. What up?

Beth said...

what's that Justin Timberlake song? "What goes around comes around"?..ya.

JayMonster said...

Gee, it is funny (not haha funny), but I wrote a very similar essay not that long ago.

Unfortunately, in my case I was talking about the GOP.

Slackermommy said...

I know way too many people like this. It's pathetic.

Indiana Dave said...

There are ass holes everywhere and the object of life is to maneuver your way around these ass holes and get on with your own happiness. I guess the problem is that ass holes are extremely attracted to decent fun loving people with the ultimate purpose of pissing you and me off. Let go and let your happiness rise above all that crap. And yes, assholes do get punished eventually. Just pray that you're there at payback time. (A fellow blogtalkradio DJ)

Mary Tsao said...

Wait. Are you living my life? Seriously! I hear you loud and clear.

Indiana Dave said...

Well good for you Mary. Your on your way to a very pleasant life. Another tech tip is this. Assholes tend to hang out with each other. We just happen to stumble into their space occassionally and have to witness and become victumized by their assholedness (sometimes you have to make up words to adequately describe an ass hole.) So, eventually we have all the areas on the planet where assholes reside mapped out and then to achieve our own nirvana we simply avoid the ASSHOLE RED ZONE. Good luck in your adventure, Mary, Keep up the good work.
Indiana Dave
Anti Terrorist News, Blogtalkradio.com)