Sunday, April 29, 2007

sometimes i feel like i don't fit in as a mom

those times are usually when i'm at some function for blake's school. and i find myself surrounded by these women who have nothing to talk about except for what was discussed at the latest PTA meeting, or to bitch about the fact that they ordered new tables for lunch in august, and they didn't get them until april. the horror.

all the mom's walk in and they know eachother by name. i walk in and i don't know anyone. "whose mom are you?" they ask and then all stare at me like a group of falcons staring at their prey. "blake's" is my response, to which they all start hooting and hollering about how wonderful he is and they start calling him nicknames and so on and so forth. but then it's quickly back to "oh my god, the tables. and recess. and lunch. and we didn't have much rain this year- i do NOT like droughts."

i chimed in for the rain part and told them it was perfect and i hope it rains that amount next year and every year coming.

they didn't like that.

i didn't care. i gave them an out to dislike me by telling them i was from LA. you know, that way they could write off my personality as being from "there." not sure if it worked or not.

i don't know. i just look at these moms sometimes and i can't picture myself really being friends with any of them. i feel like i have nothing in common with them- and i totally see them as OLD. which is laughable because i'm sure we're the same age, or hell, i might even be older.... but i don't seem like it. they seem boring. and typical. and NOT FUN. that's when i just look around wondering if anyone else in the room feels like an outcast like i do. and i always decide that no.. i don't think they do.

18 comments:

Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

I feel like that all the time...It's like HS all over again!!!!

RWA said...

Don't worry about it. All you need to worry about there is Blake and how he's doing.

Those other moms don't sound like they're worthy of your friendship or attention anyway.

alison said...

You probably are younger than they are----I'm younger than all the moms in my neighborhood and I feel the same way you do. I stopped going to playgroup because I felt that way and Chris just doesn't understand. Here's their problem---you're fun and they're not. They want to be fun but don't know how to loosen up. Don't worry about them---nobody ever said you had to be pals with the PTA moms. :)

Becky said...

its the same way for me too. and im a young mom and all the moms are older than me and way old ACTING...i can't relate to them. anytime i have any function for hannah's dance class the moms wonder who i am and i dont like any of them

Beth said...

Me too!!!! I always think the other mothers are so "cool" and wear such nice clothes and crap, and there I am in my jeans and t shirt. it IS high school all over again, really.

Angelika said...

I feel like I don't fit in either.

I can't tell you how happy that makes me, LOL.

Jenn said...

I totally feel like that and Allie is only in Daycare! All the moms in Allie's daycare know ALL the teachers names by heart and all the kids names by heart and they all talk to each other....and then I walk in and they go HI ALLIE! And I think who are these women? LOL

And I think that all the time, they they all seem old....but like you said...we are probably the same age. *shrug* That's fine...I'd rather be me than them.

Mieke said...

Oh yeah, I can totally relate to this one! I volunteer sometimes in my daughters class and the "other moms" that are in pta, etc hardly ever talk to me. I think it is because I am younger and cuter! LOL! I used to hate it, but now that my daughter is getting older I just don't really care. I have decided I am there for her, so whatever.

Stephanie A. said...

Moms bug me. Seriously. The park is the worst for me because I'll take Hugo after I get off of work and all the nonworking moms don't even respond when I say hi or when I talk through Hugo (Hugo, say hi to the nice boy or Hugo, look how high he is swinging!). Oh the judgement!

Christina_the_wench said...

Girl, I feel you. I went to my daughter's spring concert. All the parents knew each other and 'OMG! Did you see what they did to the gymnasium?!? Tragic!"

Blake won't care. Just remember that. He'll remember you BEING there, not that you didn't participate in the mommy banter.

Lawyer Mama said...

I feel like that all the time too. (And I'm not a young mom.) Perhaps that's why we're all out here in blogland, trying to find *someone* who can have a decent conversation, for crying out loud!

Mommy said...

You know what? You're too hot for PTA moms. (I feel the same way at our school's functions, too.)

Mama's Moon said...

'Ster - you've got waaay too much going on in and with your life to even have a thought about those kinds of women. Seriously, lunch tables?? Agh! It's all a part of the clique-game people used to play in high school (except, now we're all adults and they're stuck with their identity inferiorities). I know it sucks when you're in that situation. I think everybody feels that way at one point or another. What's important is that you give it right back to them the way they give it to you. Seriously, there's more to life than the PTA!

Chin up!

Eileen said...

I'm sure you're not the only one.

Loren said...

It's the same for me... I find mom opening little zip lock bags to feed their kids apple snacks in the park while I give Adrian his candy and a drink from my Pepsi... Although they think I'm weird I enjoy every moment of their stares! And I bet you our kids enjoy us more too!

jeanie said...

You are definitely not the only one! And if you are - move, move quickly!!!

Its so funny - I just read DomesticSlackstress (8 Centimeters Deluded: Washed Up Jellyfish or Breast Implants?) and she had a very similar story!

carrie said...

I wish you were one of the moms at our school.

Carrie

Jen said...

hahahahaha...........i don't even have the words to post an actual comment, except for the fact that you read my mind..........