Thursday, January 11, 2007

my wedding, it's breaking.. or something

i feel like everything is kind of coming apart at the seams.

our florist is closing shop. BEFORE the wedding.

i got an email from the place where we're having our ceremony and reception giving me an "estimate." obviously, she doesn't remember that she already gave me an estimate a year ago when i booked the place. and this new estimate was ridiculously more expensive. i'm fighting it. and i had better win. *growls*

then i got an email from our photographer telling me that she's pregnant. and she's due 3 weeks before our wedding. she says it isn't a problem and she's still going to shoot our wedding, but.... what if she can't? what if after having the baby, she's far more concerned about her boobs being so engorged and painful that she misses taking pictures of things?!

ugh. i love love love our photographer so much and i am so happy for them as a couple, but i'm worried. photos and video (once i book a videographer mind you) are going to be the only things i have left after that day is done. and i just don't want anything to fuck that up. i actually laughed when i heard our florist was closing. i'm not really worried about that. the reception place thing pissed me off, but i know i'll deal with that. but the photographer thing has pushed me over the edge to tears.

*deep breaths*

i know it will all be okay, but i guess it's just all 3 of those things right at once has caused me to um.. lose my shit a little.

21 comments:

norcalgirl28 said...

Fricken Blogger, it just erased my comment!!! Okay, let me try again. I am so sorry that you got hit with three wammies at once. Of course the location has an estimate. It is one of the first things that places give you and one of the first things people ask for. They should have a folder with all your information, including THEIR ESTIMATE, from last year. What are they thinking? Our friend's wife is a photographer and she was out at events a few weeks after her son was born. I would believe your photographer on that one. Dad will be home to watch the baby and all will be good. Definitely fight the "estimate" though. Give me a break!

Mayberry said...

I'm so sorry Ster--that sucks. Allow some time for pity party and then move on--it'll work out.

DDM said...

Yeah, that estimate thing? Stick to your guns, wave the first estimate menacingly in their face....or via fax....and make a thinly veiled threat or two. (I was a wedding planner in a past life) You do have legal recourse if it has to get to that. Here's hoping it doesn't.
On your photog, that would make me nervous. BUT!!! If you love her work it's worth the what-ifs. Can she recommend a backup photog and agree to hand over the job if she's not doing great after the delivery of her baby?

DDM said...

I forgot...the florist. Meh. I'd say you have time to find a new one.

dcrmom said...

Um. Find a new photographer!!! There is no way she can guarantee she'll be up to the task! After my first, I was laid up for 6 weeks with complications.

Sorry everything is going awry. That sucks.

Kevin Charnas said...

Okay, even though you're a dumbhead, I feel really badly about this...I'm so sorry, Ster. This is BULLSHIT!!! You just send over the names and addresses of people that need dealt with and all I have to do is put in a quick call to the gay mafia and they're toast.

Anonymous said...

sis, you send all of them my 2005 speedo shot and say that I will show up in that speedo at their place of business if they don't straighten out and you know how devastating that will be especially since your the only one who has seen that photo...I like kevin he's funny...brother jim

Sarah said...

Don't let it get to you too much. I'm sure everything will be just fine and no matter what happens (read - what goes right or wrong) it will still be a day you remember and cherish for the rest of your life. At the end of the day, it isn't the photographer or the florist that counts.

I used to work at a wedding coordination firm and things like this happened all the time. When my boyfriend's sister was getting married, the church burned down less than two weeks before the wedding. In one wedding I helped out with, the groom gave the wrong date to the photographer. In another, the bride ripped her dress the night before when she was trying it on for her mother to see. And when my mom's friend got married they had goldfish centerpieces that all the teenagers swallowed.

Things like what you're going through are stressful, no doubt, but don't lose sight of what the wedding represents because ten years from now everything else will be funny. You'll get through this, don't get too worried about it.

alison said...

You have every right to lose your shit, but look on the bright side...it's only January. You've got time. I say, find another photographer otherwise you'll be stressed about that for the next 5 months. You can find another florist, no problem. As for the estimate, if you have paperwork with the original estimate, they should honor it. Relax. Ohm....

Meg said...

Aaagh! Sorry that everything's crazy right now. As for the florist, you're right not to worry too much. I actually went really cheap on my flowers and still loved them. They don't last, anyway. It's the other stuff that matters.

As for the photographers, I can understand your freaking out. That is the one thing that you want to have for sure! I don't know what to tell you on that one :(

Allie said...

poor you stressing like that take deep breaths and relax... once the day is over you can look back at it all and laugh

Kristin said...

Oh, I am so sorry... when it rains it pours and my lord, but 2007 is off to a ROUGH start all over the damn place.

Not to be the voice of doom, but I would think about another photographer... I mean, if she has a C-section or late delivery or any of 23 million things, she may not exactly be ready to snap your pic.

That being said, I do think this is one of those things that is a temporary uphill battle but will eventually fall into place and everything will be beautiful!

RWA said...

Well, let's see. I'm sure you can find another florist, so that's not a big deal.

Tell Boyfriend to take whatever he used to shoot that pig and pay a visit to the reception place management office. Problem solved.

And the photographer? I'm sure you'll be fine. If she says she'll be there, she will - engorged boobs and all.

Relax already!!!!

E said...

I'm just going to say it will be OKAY, it will all work out. Does the photographer have a partner or someone who can take over for her if she gets laid up after the birth?

Kel said...

Wow..That all sucks. I'm sorry you are getting hit with it all at once.

It will all work out in the end. It usually does.

Finelly said...

Sorry you're having trouble Jenn. It will all come together in the end and your day will be perfect. Keep that attitude and don't stress.

Jenn said...

My mother's hall burned down to the ground a couple of WEEKS before her wedding! IMAGINE! But somehow she pulled it together and it all went fabulously! And this was wayyy before she was a wedding consultant! lol

Yours will too, ster. Just think, it's something to add to the story.

((huggs))

Kim said...

This is why I got married in Vegas!

Life&Times said...

Aw no! Deep breaths. I planned my wedding until just months ago.

At the end of the day, if you don't have a photos, and you don't have videos, you will have memories (you will! I promise) and you will have a husband. Zen moment.

Now! Calmly but cooly email your venue contact and attach a copy of the estimate they sent you. Then, call your florist and get your deposit back, and shop for a new one. And tell the new one your story. You'll get a deal, I'm sure :)

For your photographer, is this her first child? Or does she have practice? Three weeks will probably be okay. Check your contract and make sure that she provides a comparable back up should something go wrong (this is pretty standard business practice in my neck of the woods) and ask who the back up is and whether or not you can contact them to see some of their portfolio. If you're not comfortable with it, you may forfeit your deposit... and start looking for a new one. I don't know how long you have until your wedding, but all things are possible, and it will surely all be fine.

It's all baby steps. And just remember that YOU set the pace for planning and enjoying your wedding, so don't let it all freak you out.

(Oh yeah, first time reader, first time commenter ;)).

Her Bad Mother said...

Deep breath. DEEP BREATH. Now repeat after me - it will all be fine. IT WILL ALL BE FINE. Somehow, it will. I know it.

Now, go eat chocolate and soak in a tub and try to forget the stress for a few minutes.

Dana said...

Yes! Fight that estimate! That's BS. Our photographer did the same thing. Gave us an estimate, we paid in full, then she gave a second one and expected me to pay the increase. I had NONE of that!