if i can offer one word of advice to any parent, it would be to FOLLOW THROUGH ON YOUR PUNISHMENTS!
blake spent the night at a friends house this past weekend. wait, let me rephrase that. blake attempted to spend the night at a friends house this past weekend. about 9:30pm he comes home totally crying, all red faced. i asked him what happened and apparently the boy punched him in the face 4 times, after kicking him in the stomach. i guess they were wrestling and the boy said that blake could do whatever he wanted to him. so blake wacked him in the back of the head a few times. the kid wanted him to stop, so they finally did. then out of nowhere (i guess they had been done wrestling for awhile) the kid kicked blake in the stomach. so blake wacked him in the back of the head again. the kid threw a remote control at blake and blake wacked him again. and that's when the kid socked him in the face- twice in each cheek.
this kid lives in our complex, so i went over to talk to the mom and she was most shocked that her son threw a remote at blake. i said, "that's what shocks you the most? that he threw something at blake? what about the fact that he punched him in the face?!?!?!" apparently that didn't shock her.
i sat there while she told her son that his behavior was unacceptable and that he was grounded and wouldn't be playing for at least a week, and the x-box, playstation were out of his room indefinitely. i was pleased. pleased in the sense that here was a parent who wasn't going to let that kind of behavior go unpunished.
then the next morning as i was leaving, i see the kid- skateboarding with other kids in the complex. nice grounding. way to follow through. when the mom waved at me, i gave her a fucked up dirty look. not because of what her kid did, but because she threatened him with all these things and didn't actually do them. he punched blake in the face, and there is no punishment? fine, i'm not that kids parent- but don't tell him he's grounded and then let him play the next day. parents are so fucking stupid sometimes. she's going to wonder why her perfectly nice kid has turned into an asshole. it just kills me what these parents teach their kids. if you say the kid is grounded, you have got to do it. you have got to follow through. otherwise, your kid will see through your bullshit and act accordingly. and you'll have no one to blame but yourself for their behavior. you have to mean what you say to kids. they need it. whether you feel "mean" for doing it or not- kids.need.discipline.