Friday, November 03, 2006

does anyone really care

what someone has to say when they do so anonymously?

wouldn't it be much more "insulting" (if that is their intention) to do it with a name? how much credit can you give someone when they do it under the anon umbrella? do they stay anon because they know what they're doing is mean and cruel and they don't want to admit that side of them? do they not want to be associated with their post or comment? and if they don't, then why write it in the first place? having the ability to post anonymously just gives you an easy out. you can be as mean spirited as you want without taking any responsibility over what you write or say. in other words, you can be a cold hearted bitch and still be a complete pussy.

when teri was bagging on me and being rude as hell, at least she had the balls to do it with her name and her blog linked (and at the time what i can only conclude as being a real picture of herself). i respect that action much more than i do someone bagging on me anonymously. anyone can rip someone or their kid apart when there is no name attached. it's easy to do any number of things when you don't have to own up to it.

but then, what's the point? because all of these anonymous people claim to stand by what they say. they claim to not give a shit who they hurt, or how their posts affect others. but if that was true, then they wouldn't be posting anonymously, would they?

i'm curious what your opinion is?

ps- this has nothing nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing to do with me, or anything that has or is being said about me. just wanted that to be clear because some of you think otherwise. it was just a general discussion

38 comments:

ali said...

i seriously think that the violent acres chick is SERIOUSLY disturbed.

jennster said...

ali- i added onto my post, sorry.. re read! lol

Becky said...

i agree. if youre gonna talk shit to someone then own up to it. as much of a bitch as teri was she did do it openly. i hate annonymous crap anyway

Shannon said...

I've been thinking about this anonymous thing lately and why people hide behind it.

It's not like we know these people and will show up at their doorstep to tell them to fuck off....

A friend has this problem on her blog. It's the same person leaving nasty anonymous comments.

Anonymous said...

I agree- I hate annonymous people. Come on. Grow the fuck up. What are they even getting out of it anyway? All they are doing is showing us they have no balls.

Jo said...

Hey - what am I missing? Is someone leaving you mean posts? You want I should kick their ass for you, Jennster?

I think it's a real coward who wants to have their say but won't say who they are.

Probly ugly too;) So not hot. Hehe - I know, I'm such a child:)

Anonymous said...

They're spineless cowards. They want to say something smart or rude, but they want to do everything possible to keep people from knowing who actually said it.

They are losers.

They are scum.

They are...sheesh...I need to take a deep breath and calm down.

Karen Rani said...

Many reasons, but the #1 reason is this: This person has a very miserable existance.

If I had a problem would someone, I would tell them directly.

Dana said...

I agree that anonymous comments hold no merit because the person writing them has no balls. They obviously want to hurt you without feeling remorse for it. When I read anonymous comments, I take them with a grain of salt and rarely reply to them, because if the person really meant what they wrote, they'd sign their name.

Melissa said...

I think you're completly right. I think it sucks for anyone to get ripped apart for nothing, but it is worse when the person is being a big ole pussy about it.

At the same time, people picking on a person is one thing, attacking little kids is so uncool.

Melissa said...

Hey Ster, by the way I like the new look. Especially the falling leaves. Too cute.

Jenn said...

Remember how miss Teri quickly removed her picture and deleted all her posts but one, after her attack. Lets not be giving her too much love! LOL

They still get a rise out of people. People talk about how they will ignore them but no one ever does...hence the reason they keep coming back.

Loren said...

You're right! I picture this *dork* with nothing better to do and his/her only time to really speak his or her mind... The can't put their names because they know how ridiculous they are!

radioactive girl said...

I would never comment without my name because if I had something to say that I didn't want to associate myself with, I would just move on and forget about it. Grown up people are allowed to disagree in a respectful way, and if you do that, there is never any reason to be anonymous. If you can't be respectful when you disagree, then you should walk away and forget about whatever it is you have to say. It just isn't fair to make an anonymous comment. It is a cowardly thing to do because you know your opinion is not worth standing up for. Plus, no one is forcing anyone to read blogs. If you don't like something just stop reading it!

mothergoosemouse said...

I don't get it either. I think Karen's right, but I honestly can't fathom being so miserable that I would take my frustrations out online. What's the point, unless you go back to see the reaction to what you've said, and that strikes me as being terribly sad.

ali said...

i think also that people who are nasty and post anonymously suffer from some sort of attention-seeking behavior. they like that people wonder..."oh, who are you?"

i had one anonymous troll making fun of me...saying that i'm a bad jew basically...and then when i called her out and asked her for an email or a legit address...she loved getting that attention.

i stopped giving her the attention, and she seems to have disappeared.

Elizabeth said...

Since I agree with everything everyone else said, I'd like to say that I love the new design! But the new tagline:olives belong on fingers? Huh? Green olives no, but black olives belong IN MY BELLY. Heehee!

Anonymous said...

Damn, I always miss the juicy stuff. But you are absolutely right, annonymous trolls are the worst. Who the hell would take the time to say something offensive when they can just go on their merry way and read someone else's blog?

Dustin said...

anyonymous comments are dope

i've always said that they make me laugh.....and still do.

unfortunately i don't get them so much anymore cuz I think they know I really don't give a shit what they say.

you giving them the time = justification for doing it.

kids....
*eye roll**

Mieke said...

I think people are just cowardly. I don't really know what the whole point is. Just don't read the blog if you don't like it. It's not rocket science or anything. Some People!

crazymumma said...

I do not know why they choose anonymous. I can only assume taht their agenda may be ...off.

alison said...

I totally disagree with people commenting under "anonymous" when they're being nasty and just acting like an ass. But, some people are actually putting in legitimate comments under the title "anonymous." Maybe they're ashamed of something they're owning up to or they want to admit to something without giving their identity. Maybe it's a relief to be able to write something down but they don't want to sign their name to it. I don't know. As long as it isn't a nasty comment (which, unfortunately, most of the anonymous comments are), then it isn't such a big deal.

And, no, I don't use anonymous. I sign my name, even when my thinking is way out in left field. :)

mollymcmommy said...

well i'm kinda with dustin on this one, while i think anon posters are just sucky i quite enjoy the few that i've had on my blog. while sometimes sucky, they are so insignificant and pathetic they are funny!

and really who cares what they say? like me, jenn you know you're whoring awesome and thats all that counts :)

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mk said...

You hit the nail on the head! they have no balls!

jen said...

good or bad.........own up to what you've got to say. That's my opinion. I think it's fucking hilarious how people think they are so big and bad sitting behind a computer screen posting anonymously.

Yorksdevil said...

Completely agree. If you've something to say you should be willing to put your name to it. I had one a while back where I had a dig (jokingly) at French Canadians and got some random anon (who my stats tell me was in Montreal) accusing me of all sorts.

What does it say when you aren't willing to leave your name when having a go at someone who is thousands of miles away?

Stepping Over the Junk said...

wouldnt it be cool if we got anonymous comments like "I think you are BRILLIANT!" or "I SO admire you" or "I LOVE YOU!"

That sort of thing.

Bummer that we dont.

There's not enough love in the world, eh?

Lisa Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Boy do i agree with these thoughts! I think there is so much shadowy anonymous stuff on the internet, it become a playground for people to do and say what they are afraid to do in their real lives.

I had this conversation about anonymous comments with a friend of mine recently and she said "well aren't the bloggers all anonymous anyway with their pen names and aliases etc"... It was an interesting point. But it;s not really the same...I totally get why people have pen nams on their blogs to protect their jobs/family privacy....and at least their comments on your site link to their homes on the internet with their body of work and give you a place for you to comment right back on them... etc..

Lisa

Lisa said...

The anonymous commenters who issue a mean statement remind me of this woman who (completely worthless, lazy and stupid)was once my employee.

She loved to talk about going to a fast food restaurant, finding something wrong with her order, and then screaming at the 16-year-old kid who took her order. But once, she got a phone call from the corporate headquarters (A woman her OWN age) and who got sort of pissy with her because she obviously hadn't been doing her job.

The next thing I know, I get a phone call from said employee crying. She sure could dish it out to some teen but she couldn't take a harsh word herself.

I think that's what most of the anon commenters are like. They are bullies, who if confronted would run away and cry... So that's why they keep their identity secret. They know how weak and weasly they are!

Anonymous said...

u all crack me up.

Random Musings Of My Life said...

I agree, if your going to lurk and post bad things at least say who you are... It bugs me too

Anonymous said...

Ster, WTF? I really feel my most bitchy self gets to come out and play when I leave comments anonymously. Plus, what if I left my name and everyone found out what a LOSER I am?

stefanierj said...

Haha, that was me in the last anonymous comment. You knew *someone* was going to have to do it, right?

You also know you rock and that anybody bagging anonymously on anyone else deserves to be deleted. Thank GOD my blog isn't a democracy!

Joie DeVivre said...

totally agree - and cant imagine anyone having the balls to give you grief!!

Anonymous said...

You are all such amazing people. To think you know each other and have bonded from spending what must be hours on a computer...how rich.

Stephanie A. said...

anonymous = pussy

or someone who doesn't know how to use a computer, like my grandma.

Anonymous said...

I couldn't agree with you more...

I found your blog via Mombat...I had an 'anonymous' comment from someone who I believe chose the anonymous route because I do in fact know her. I think it's a cowardly way to comment. One can at least leave a pseudonym, right?

As my daughter would say...bawka-bawk!

Anonymous said...

Clearly most bloggers care what people think and don't like it when someone doesn't agree with you or praise you/ them. Interesting.