Tuesday, October 31, 2006

my first no

so this is what it feels like when someone tells you they can't come to your wedding.

i know it's still early and the damn invitations haven't even been picked out yet let alone mailed out, but i had assumed she would come. i was so looking forward to sharing the day with her, seeing her, spending time with her, etc. and now she can't make it. i appreciate her telling me so far in advance, but i'm still sad about it.

she's my first, and most assuredly not my last when it comes to "will not attend" on the wedding invites. do i feel sad because she's my first official no? or maybe it's because i thought she was coming, and am surprised that she's not? *sighs* hopefully the next one won't be this dramatic.

it won't be this dramatic, will it???


i know i know.. i have to change my focus to be happy about the people who will be able to spend the day with us, as opposed to the ones who can't. still, it's kinda sad.

ps... happy halloween! have a super fun and safe night!!!!! it was so fun taking blake to school this morning and seeing all the kids dressed up and so goofy and excited for halloween. HALLOWEEN IS SO FREAKING FUN!!!!!

15 comments:

carrie said...

Hopefully your friend will be able to make it to your bachelorette party, right???? And no, the next one won't be as bad.

Happy Halloween!

Carrie

Anonymous said...

so....what is Blake going to be?

Becky said...

happy halloween to you too

you will not get a no from us so you can NOT stress about that today ok? i bet the no's suck though. but at least you'll still have plenty of people there!

alison said...

Hey, more money to spend on your honeymoon! I know, I'm an ass. You'll get over the no's---I can't even remember who wasn't able to come to our wedding. Honestly, I only remember the people who were there. And you will too. So, don't worry.

wendy boucher said...

Hey Chicky- don't sweat the nos. Like Alison said, you'll only remember who was there. Or if you're like me, you won't remember anything from the big day anyway.

By the way, I read your post about goodbyes. Glad I never pretended that I was leaving forever. As if!

stefanierj said...

Can I make a confession? I was secretly glad after the wedding was over that some people didn't come--and this was even though I really wanted to be there and cried because they said they weren't coming. I guess it was because there were so dang many people there anyway that I never felt like I had lots of Special Moments to share even with those who WERE there because I was running from one table to another, cutting cake, posing for pictures, doing the bouquet thing, etc. etc. (holy run-on sentence, batgirl!)

I guess what I mean is that I ended up seeing the Nos the same way I see after-holiday visiting--just another excuse to extend the party, look at pictures, and relive the event by telling my good friends who couldn't come all about it. Still, I'm sorry it made you sad.

Anonymous said...

Of COURSE it will be that dramatic LOL. It's your wedding, your big day and you have the right to be melodramatic. LOL. I know I will be too.

Shannon said...

Aww, hopefully that will be the one and only no....but on the bright side, it'll be less money to pay out for the reception.

As for Halloween, a few of us boozy moms are taking our kids out trick-or-treating tonight....I'll have my Corona in hand and my other mom-friend will have a glass of Chardonnay....should be fun times especially when we swipe our kids' chocolates as they get them.

Let the kids do all the work.....

Melissa said...

You are too cute. It won't be your last, but try not to take it personally. Some people can't afford to come and others will have things already planned. But most people you want there will be there. It's all good.

Anonymous said...

Worry about the ones who will be there and just have a great time. You won't even notice she (and whoever else) wasn't there.

theresa said...

Rejection in any form always hurts a little.

alison said...

One more thing...

I can't wait to see your new background tomorrow for the month of November. Something related to Thanksgiving or are you jumping right to Christmas? Target did. I went today for some last minute Halloween candy and they've packed it up and replaced it with chocolate Santas. Do you believe it???

spidey said...

It is a bummer when people can't make it, but it's going to happen. It will be worse for you than me, since most of your guests will be traveling to attend. I agree though, focus on the positive (especially seeing me and Jason-lol)!

Mom101 said...

Dude, you will be so overwhelmed, I'm guessing you won't know who is there and who isn't half the time. What matters is that you spend quality time alone with her throughout your marriage.

Think of it this way: break down the amount of time at your wedding that you're not in the ceremony or taking pictures or at the microphone. Divide that by the number of guests. Not a whole lot of time with each person.

crazymumma said...

Sorry for your disappointment....