Friday, October 27, 2006

another f'n wedding question?

yes. good god i'm making myself nauseous. but hopefully, not any of you. but if i am, i understand. just puke elsewhere.

so. i need to know. did you have a videographer at your wedding? if you did, are you glad you did? do you ever watch the damn thing? do you think it's a plus to have it? would you get one again if you were to do it all over again?

aaaand.. if you didn't have one, do you wish you did? and if you're not married, when you get married- do you want one? because currently, we don't have one booked. but my photographer (who hates working with videographers because they are always in her way) said that she wishes she had one at her wedding. she said that she regrets it.

so i need to know if i should get one or not?!? because i love and adore beautiful pictures, but there is something about real time. about watching people interact in real time and talk, walk, etc. lol @ walk. good lord. .

yes i know this is a lot of questions, shut up. wait, don't shut up cause i need answers. so help! and thanks! and smooches! and oooh, if you're good i'll give you those other recipe's that i completely forgot that i promised you!

44 comments:

Mike said...

Jenn and I did, but we haven't even had the raw footage edited yet. (we've had no time to decide what we want) It's cool to have, but you'll only watch it maybe a half dozen times in your life.

Shannon said...

I had a videographer and highly recommend it. I got to see things happen that I would've missed without it....like when the photographer stopped the bridesmaids from walking down the aisle so he could put his camera back together after he dropped it....the fuckhead.

And the interviews that the video guy did with the guests are priceless. He did them at the end of the reception when everyone was drunk....the things they said have come back to haunt them time and time again.

Plus my kids love to watch it.

My mother-in-law still has her wedding video from the 1950's and I love watching how glamorous everyone looked.

Anonymous said...

Frank and I didn't, we relied on our dad to take turns with the video camera during the ceremony. This would have been okay if my dad, bless his heart, didn't decide to use his judgement as to which part of the CEREMONY was important!!!!!! Thank god my father-in-law saw what he was doing, took the video camera and filmed the rest of it. My dad and my brother took random video at the reception and this was more than enough. Just find someone, with the facilities permission, who can film the ceremony discretely from their seat. It is a lot more casual at the reception and family/friends can just pass the video camera around. I don't think it is worth it to get a videographer. Most of the time you get better video when someone you know, and who knows who is important to you, takes the video.

Becky said...

we had one. we had 2 videos made actually from diff parts of the church and im' so glad we did. i watch my video about once a year. you'll watch it every now and then i'm sure

penelopeto said...

we did not have a videographer; the huz is an editor and felt like they all turn the videos into cheesy wedding porn.
instead, two family members who are never without their cameras taped it and gave us raw, shaky, blurry footage with tons of dropouts, talking, and hilarious moments that are way more precious than anything we could have spent the money on.

spend the dough on the honeymoon or the bar.

Kristin said...

We have a video and thank goodness we do because I remember nothing from our wedding... zippo!

Random Musings Of My Life said...

If I had to give any advice Jen.
HANDS DOWN MAKE SURE TO HAVE A VIDEOGRAPHER!!! Serious the day goes SO fast and its hard to remember the little details.
Like when your dad looks at you (he was miced) before you walk down the isle and says "Are you reading for the rollercoaster in life we call forever?"
Or when after your married you and the hubby have a private moment
(hes micked) and he tells you he loves you so much.
Also seeing everyone there wishing you well.
You will not be disappointed, sure you have pictures but I would HIGHLY recommend getting a good videoagrapher, the husband did not cry at our cerimony but he teared up at the video.
Oh and worring about them being in the way, if they are good (**READ EXPENSIVE) you won't even know they are there. GO to them and ask to see some videos, thats what we did its EASY to weed out the amatuers that are just taking footage, ours is done on DVD with menus and everything.
When ever people ask me for wedding advice its ALWAYS get a videographer!

ali said...

never ever ever watch our video ever.

but, i got married in 1998...it's on vhs. not fancy at all.
my sister in law's is great. it's got chapters and the first chapter is like a 20 minute long video of the entire wedding. that's great to have - - - because no one wants to see the whole long ordeal.

i think you should have one...but you'll probably be like the rest of us and never watch.

stefanierj said...

We didn't have one (didn't have the money, didn't want the hassle) and I've never regretted it. I do wish I'd gotten a professional photographer, but I never go back and wish I had a wedding video.

It really depends on how you see your wedding. We were so young that it wasn't the end-all, be-all, big deal but more a way to get where we wanted to go, which was married. For some of my friends, though, theie wedding is the biggest day of their lives, and it might be good to capture that on film.

Good luck with your decision!

Jenn said...

I didn't want one....then we got it anyway. My father talked us into it. Only thing we absolutely HATED about him is that he is in ALL THE FUCKING PICTURES!!!!! Which was annoying as hell. When it came time to pick pictures...it was like - this WOULD be nice, but there's the fucking video guy again!!!! Oh and he ONLY followed Mike and I around the entire reception. Mike kept giving him the *finger twirling in the air sign* Meaning.....go take video of our GUESTS and leave us in peace for like 5 seconds....SHEESH!!!

It's nice to have....but make sure you have ground rules for them BEFORE the wedding.

- Stay out of the pictures
- don't be on my ass the whole day
- Either do, or don't do, the whole table interview thingie.

have guidelines, or you'll end up being pissed about something.

Do I sound bitter? HA! Ask me about my DJ!!! Wait, nevermind...don't get me started.

marsha said...

I didn't have a photographer at my wedding because I couldn't afford it but everyone brought their own cameras and video cameras to the wedding and gave me the pictures.

carrie said...

Didn't have one and never regretted it until NOW!!! Thanks :). But seriously, if you want one it would be a priceless momento for you, Point and future generations. And interviewing guests, or having them give you advice a la videotape could be very fun!

Carie

Stephanie A. said...

didn't have one, don't regret it.

personally, and this is just my very narrow opinion, I know, but having all of those people around fussing about capturing the day really devalues it for me. we don't even own a video for Hugo. I just wanted to breathe in every minute of my day and not worry about the cameraman and what was caught on video and what wasn't etc.

for me it was a question of what is more important- enjoying the day or thinking about looking back on it.

Mrs. Chicky said...

I had a videographer for my first wedding. The tape was horrible (think cheesy music and even cheesier cuts and fades) and I never watched it. For my wedding to Mr. C I set up a video camera and let it run. A good friend turned it on and off and even did a few zooms. The tape was better and cheaper than the first one.

Kimmie said...

We did not have one when we got married and I don't miss it it probably would be just collecting dust anyways.

When we renewed our vows on our 10th we had it videoed but my friend who taped it, found out afterwards that the sounds was not working, and don't miss that one either.

Anonymous said...

We went back and forth on this and in the end a friend of the family who has some skill and editing software did it for us for free (which so rocked). Honestly, watching the vows was pretty boring. The best part of the whole thing was watching stuff we missed- people as they came into the room, their view as we entered, funny moments. We have watched it approximately once in the first year of marriage, so it is not something I would advocate spending a lot of money on, but if you can get a good deal or get a friend/family member to do it, go for it! The day really will fly by!

Mammawannabe said...

We had not one, but two people taping our wedding. We watch it from time to time, just to watch my then 10 year old cousin Josh MI:2'n all the champagne on the head table and then we pop in the second tape to see him act like adults do when they partake in too much of the devil's drink...

I say it's worth it :) Even more worth it if you can get a friend with a cam to do it for you :)

-R- said...

I didn't have one, and I don't regret that choice. We would never watch it. For us, the photos were enough.

Sarah's Mama said...

We didn't have one at our wedding. We had 2 photogs and my uncle did some video. I have a friend that took some of the pics and pieces of his video and made a video for us with music and stuff. She has a side job doing videography and she lives in LA. If you want, I can hook you up. She's cheap and cool. LOL What a combo huh?!
Let me know!

Melissa said...

We didn't, but we had a friend who had one and followed us around all day while we got ready and all that crap. The at teh wedding, he filmed a little, but mostly at the reception. It was great cause he caught things that I wouldn't have know had happened. It wasn't so much that I wanted to see the vows and crap, but the fun stuff that the bride and groom tend to miss. But he also woke my ass up and filmed me looking like crap. But we have watched it a few times and we like it. But Maya likes it the most, she loves watching the "weddning story." I'd do it if you can afford it.

Anonymous said...

We did, mostly for the people that didn't make it to the ceremony. I don't like watching myself though. I always think I look like a dork.

Stepping Over the Junk said...

I had one and wouldnt hire THAT particular one again because he made it totally cheesy...that is the only reason I would not hire one again, because any video I have seen of someone's wedding has been total cheesecake. But then, you might find someone who can put something nice together for you and it would be worth it. It is worth doing merely for the interviews with your family and friends talking into a microphone to you guys...THAT can be very funny

Mieke said...

We had 2 friends actually video-tape our wedding. It was fun because they knew us and it was somehow more personal. We watch it now like uh, maybe once since we got married (10 yrs ago), but it was fun to show our daughter. I think some kind of a video is great, even if it isn't a professional doing it. Good Luck!

Momma to LG said...

We had one and we watch it about once a year. I liked it because I didn't remember a single thing about the church part and I got to see lots of things that I missed during the reception.

alison said...

We had a family friend do ours. It's really bad and you can hardly hear a thing because of the wind screaming through at 40 miles an hour. But, he did manage to catch the, "Ellen, do you take Chris..." and the look on our faces (yours included) is absolutely priceless. Who the fuck is Ellen???

Haley-O said...

I had a videographer at my wedding. I've only seen parts of the video -- I, personally, had no interest in it.... But, I'm glad I have it. I recommend it. You can see parts of the ceremony, for eg, that you didn't get to see live....

MrsFortune said...

Okay, I did NOT have one and I totally, totally, totally regret it. That's three totally's and I would have written more but I was annoying myself.

The whole day went by so fast and I barely remember any of it, so I'd like to be able to see it again!

However, if I did have one, I would tell them to capture the ceremony, toasts, any other remarks, but skip the drunken pole dancing that was engaged in by my guests. Neither I nor they need to remember that. And I hate being IN videos so I wouldn't want to pressure my guests into talking into a microphone if they didn't want to.

Anonymous said...

The last two weddings I attended had one. It was more the "behind the scenes" stuff rather than formal (other than the ceremony).

The best parts were the reception. I imagine they watch it every now and then. In one, the groom is walking with his mother close behind, and he says, "Mom, how the Hell am I supposed to know!!!"

Great stuff...

So, to make a long story short, I guess I am suggesting to have one.

Grim Reality Girl said...

We had one. We watched the video a few times. I want to convert it to DVD and need to before it decays..... DO IT. We were happy we did -- we got to see guests that we didn't remember seeing! Also -- we required that there be ZERO interviews. I'm glad we did it. Good luck!

DDM said...

We had a friend with his hand held home video camera do it. It's not professional, and it's totally great! We watch it every year on our anniversary, and giggle at the silly things we did. At the reception, the friend set it up on a tripod on the stage. We got footage of everyone getting wasted, and dancing aaaalllll night long. Totally 'home movie-ish' and perfect for our event. Also, the friend did it for a case of Bud Light.

Jodi said...

We had our wedding video taped, but it was by my father-in-law and not very well done. We have watched it 5x in 15 years I think. I don't know, I think just the regular wedding pics are okay personally. But, I'm a less is more kinda person anyway....do what you want! :)

kim said...

I agree with the people who had family or friends video things because they will probably catch the silly stuff on tape and it will be fun to watch later on.
The first hubby and I had a video done and about 5 yrs later we sat down to watch it and SOMEONE had taped a nascar race over top of it *sigh* men

dcrmom said...

I love, love love, love love, love LOVE my wedding video. Love. It. There's my answer. I have watched it many times over the years, more the first year than in the last 10 years combined, but still. Love it. I love pictures, and I love my album, but the video captures the day the way pictures never can. The sounds, the music, the laughter, everything. It's awesome.

OH, and get a GOOD videographer too. Mine edited it in such a way that it's really enjoyable to watch.

dcrmom said...

I've just read some comments. Wanted to say that we hardly noticed the guy. If he's good, he won't be in your way. My 2 cents. AGain. LOL.

mothergoosemouse said...

So late to this, but it's the one thing I really regret - not having a video. Get someone who will do a tasteful one - no Michael Bolton, you know? - and you will treasure it, I'm sure.

Lisa said...

We had someone video the wedding. They were going to do it for free because they were family. After YEARS of asking when the video would be finished, we found out the person had been robbed. The theif took all of their video equipment and tapes. So that was the end of that.

So sorry. No help here. But it WOULD have been nice to have a tape now. Especially since there are so many things you forget about.

Mommy off the Record said...

My advice is get one. We only videotaped the ceremony though - not the reception. It would have been nice to have both but it was too expensive for us.

Meg said...

This is a little late, but here goes...

We just had my BIL do the videotaping at our wedding. It would have been a wonderful video, but it was outdoors and it was very windy that day. Although the shots were perfect, you could hardly hear any of the ceremony. Now I wish we would have had a professional do it.

But if you're doing indoors, I would suggest just getting a fried to do it. Waaaay cheaper.

TeeRish said...

We paid my brother's friend $100 to videotape the wedding (he actually did pretty well), but since it was done by an amateur, we had to edit the video ourselves. Despite me digitizing it into an avid and spending hours on it, it's still not done. Still have not watched the video at all...but I'm glad I have it! I think maybe someday I'll finally get around to editing it.

blackbeltmama said...

I didn't have an official one. No one videotaped the ceremony. I don't regret it at all. For me, I like having the memory in my head and it can be as I want it to be. My grandfather did have a videocamera at the reception and that video is about 45 minutes of great fun. He captured cutting the cake, our first dance and snippets of other fun things. I treasure that tape, but don't regret not having a professional for the ceremony or reception.

spidey said...

Didn't have one. Someone was supposed to tape it but it never happened. I am really bummed that we didn't get one...

Meena said...

We didn't and I regret it. Pictures are great, but a video would have captured things a photo can't. Even if it's a friend doing the recording, I think it would be worthwhile to have.

karrie said...

My husband and I eloped on short notice while visiting his family in Vegas.

My ex-BIL videotaped our wedding and his tape was much more enjoyable than the professional included with our wedding package. He also took lots of shots of us at our casual reception and as pp have mentioned, captured some pretty hilarious comments and antics from guests that might have been missed.

Do you have a friend or relative who would be willing to film for you?

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