and i'm not afraid to admit it. or say it out loud. i feel that many women out there are so proud of being feminists that they scream it at the top of their lungs as often as they can (while pushing their political beliefs down your throat). and i just wanted to make it clear here, on my blog, that i'm not a feminist. at least not in the "member of now, going to conferences about how awesome women are, guys suck because they're male," kind of way. so while everyone else is screaming about how empowering it is to be a woman, and how you should do this, or do that- i'm just here to post that i can't relate to any of it. i don't consider myself a feminist and i don't think there's anything wrong with that. but sometimes i wonder if i'm the only one? is there something i'm missing here? aren't i supposed to be a feminist simply based on the fact that i'm a woman? aren't i supposed to want to support everything that women do, because i'm in the secret club? because i don't. i hate extremism. and i think that's what SOME feminists are- extremists. to put it simply- i just find it empowering to be me, and that's not because i'm a woman- it's because i'm jennster. being a woman is a part of who i am, but it's not all that i am. and there is so much more to me than simply my gender, that i refuse to use it to my benefit. i refuse to use it, period.
i don't care about certain things that as a "woman" i'm apparently supposed too. who knew that being born into this gender meant that i was supposed to feel certain ways... be appalled by certain things... or want to take a fucking stand about everything?? why can't i feel certain ways based on the fact that i'm human, not based on the fact that i'm a woman? i'm not into drawing attention to the fact that i'm a girl- i mean, can't you tell that by looking at me? i'm also not into feeling like i'm owed certain things, just because i'm female. i don't look for entitlement. i don't look for reasons to make excuses. and i don't try to lead any charge by screaming that i'm doing it BECAUSE I AM A WOMAN! i don't believe in special priveledges because of your gender and/or race. i don't think someone kicks ass because of what they are- i believe they kick ass because of who they are.
i don't believe in rights for someone based on the fact that they are a woman- i believe in rights for someone based on the fact that they are a person. does anyone else know what i'm trying to say here? i guess it's just that i'm not a feminist, i'm more of a humanist (thanks steph). i think things are right or wrong because that is what they are- not because of who they're happening too (wait, that's not entirely true.. there are definitely shades of gray in this). i just don't think of things as gender based. i think of them as human based. and i don't think there's anything wrong with that.
i'm a woman. i'm proud to be a woman, but i'm more proud to be an American. and i'm most proud to be me, woman or not.
edited to add- that i'm proud of how far we've come. and i'm thankful for those women who were strong enough to fight for what was right back in the day when we were discriminated against based on the fact that we were women, alone. and i would like to think that i would have done the same thing. but not because i was trying to be a feminisit, but because i was trying to be FAIR. i believe in fighting for what is right. fighting for what's fair and just. for EVERYONE, not just women.