i have a female boss. now in the business world, that can go either 1 of 2 ways. she could either be really, really cool... or she could really, really suck. there's rarely middle ground when it comes to having a girly boss.
my boss is awesome (no, she doesn't read this blog). honestly- she is really an awe inspiring woman. i don't know how she does it all. i really don't. and everyday i ask myself just how she manages to balance being a mom to 2 kids who are very demanding upon her time, and running this show- which is a nightmare all in itself. i've come to the conclusion that she doesn't sleep. ever. the proof is in the numerous 2, 3 and 4 am emails i regularly get from her.
we were talking yesterday about our kids. and we were discussing how they "need" us and it struck me that it won't always be this way. they won't always need us there. hell, they won't always want us there. and i expressed to her that being there for our kids, and giving them that security should be our highest priority. and she agreed. we talked about how in the grand scheme of things, our jobs aren't what truly matters. our kids are. and this time goes by so fast- before we know it, it will be gone. it made us both sad to think that so much of their lives will be spent without us. there was that moment when nothing was said between us, but i think we were both thinking the same thing.... when does working this hard just become not worth it? like, when does working so hard that you're taking away from your kids (instead of giving to them) become something that you just don't want to do anymore? because your kids and their well being, and being there with them, and for them, just means more than bringing home that extra money. i say all of this as if i have a choice in the matter. as if i even have the option to not work. i don't, but that's not the point.
i like that my boss thinks this way. she is an extremely hard worker, but when it comes to prioritizing- her kids are on top. and they should be. but in this day and age, i feel like they rarely are. like her way of thinking is totally out of the ordinary. and that's just sad. when i worked for disney, there was this 1 female boss who was a freaking psycho. she would have her kids and then be reachable by email and phone the next day. seriously. who wants to live like that? and why?!?! TAKE A FREAKING BREAK! i felt that she was the type of boss who would never understand wanting to put your family first, because she never did it. and if she wasn't going to do it, you sure as shit weren't. you know? i guess it's just refreshing to have a boss that loves her work, but loves her family more. a boss who works extremely hard on this show that we're creating, yet works really hard on her family too. a boss who when it comes down to the choice of being at the office, or spending time with her kids, will choose her kids 99% of the time. and there shouldn't be a backlash against that. wanting to spend time with your kids while they're still kids, shouldn't have a negative impact on your career. especially if you're getting all your work done, and still creating a top notch show. i wish the balance was easier. or had clearer lines. or something. it's a neverending battle this whole working and being a mom thing, huh?