Tuesday, August 08, 2006

not bitter

why do i feel like i'm the only person in the wake of blogher '06 who doesn't really have anything to bitch about? it seems like everyone on blogland is complaining about this, hating on that, and just lacing their posts with negativity. and it makes me really sad, because i had a GREAT time. not an okay time. not a decent time. not a "i would rather get a bikini wax with scalding wax" time. a great time.

that isn't to say that the weekend was perfect from every angle. it wasn't and there are things i would have done differently. but, those aren't the things that i choose to focus on. i walked away from that weekend feeling very happy. really excited!! i might not have learned everything i wanted to learn conference wise, but that didn't taint anything for me. i could honestly give a shit that the hotel wasn't 5 stars. it had a bed that was comfortable, a shower that worked, and i was never in the damn thing anyway. i understand why people were disappointed by the hotel, but i'm a pretty simple girl when it comes to things like that. like i said, from a business/travel perspective i would have done things differently, but i'm sure they'll work on that for next year.

i guess i'm writing this because i feel like everything i've read is an expression of how disappointed people were. or how upset they are with certain aspects of the weekend. and then there's the politics, the division and the hating on one another... and well- that takes all the fun out of everything. don't get me wrong. i completely get and understand their point of view and their right to express it. i even nod my head in agreement to some of the posts, but to most.. i kind of just stare in amazement. was i even at the same conference? why didn't i see things that way? is my brain broken? i guess it just makes me sad. because i walked away from that weekend with far more positive vibes than negative ones.

for me, it wasn't really about the conference. it wasn't about the sucky free water. it wasn't about the hotel, the food, the free stuff, the lack of this, the shittiness of that... it was about the people. the company. the many women i chose to spend my time with. THEY made the conference what it was for me. nothing else. i think i have tons of positive things to say about it, because they were so positive. because they were so much fun and such a blast to be around. and so that's how i choose to see and remember blogher. like the fucking kick ass time that it was!

and i will be crying next year if i can't make it. it's not wrong to spend any wedding money we get on a solo trip for me, is it??

40 comments:

Jenn said...

There is a lot of bitterness about stuff out there. I think people are trying to find something new to blog about cause how many times can you say - IT WAS GREAT! *shrug* Although you seemed to manage! LOL

Miss Britt said...

maybe it's because you're just a big ol' lush so any party is a good party in your book. ;-)

ORRR... people will always find stuff to bitch about. Happy, positive people like you are rare jewels. Jewels i tell ya!!

melissa b. said...

definitely not wrong, considering I may get to go to the next one!

Chase said...

Seriously? You and I should have hung out more in San Jose. Assuming, that is, if we could have been sober enough to find each other.

The only thing I've griped about is the fact that it's OVER. And I'm still going through total withdrawals. I had the time of my life!

Only 353 days left until BlogHer '07. *twitch*

Nancy said...

Thank you for this post. You are not the only one who feels this way. I had a kick-ass time at the conference itself -- my only disappointment has been the negativity and the hatin' that's been happening since I got back. But yes, I was there to meet and hang with certain people, and so I fulfilled my only objective -- the other stuff was just noise (if bad) or icing on the cake (if good).

Maybe we just have lower expectations? :-)

Piece of Work said...

I haven't read that much negative stuff, really. And everything I've read makes clear that the person had a great time, even if they are bitching a little. I know I had a really fun weekend, too, but it feels dishonest for me to just say rah rah rah when there were times that it just wasn't like that. That said, I DID have a bitching post about Blogher that I decided NOT to post, because I didn't want to tarnish the good times I had by focussing on the bad. So I know what you're saying. Thing is, on the blog, I'm so used to laying it all out there, good and bad, that it feels a little funny to censor myself that way.
Jennster, you are the most positive person I have even met and I'm not surprised that this is your take on it! I'm so glad I got to meet you and hang out with you--that was some of the best times of the whole weekend.

mothergoosemouse said...

I really do feel the same on all counts. I know there's been some negativity out there, but I would hope my posts have been positive (except for the first one, which was really a commentary on my disappointment in others' negativity - shutting up now...).

Jenn said...

Hell yes, I am bitter! And angry! Ane have something to say!

I am bitter because I didn't meet your lush-ass self sooner to hang out and have even MORE FUN! HAHA!

I think it is perfectly reasonable to spend any and all wedding money to get to BlogHer. Your bitches need you there!

Lisa Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

just the idea of getting to meet your blog sisters face to face is so cool. Look forward to next year.

I gotta ask, how can water be bad??? seriously. what was bad about the bottled water?

Lisa

Dawn said...

I had a fab time too. And I thought my bed was quite comfy. Although, any bed without an 8 year old is my idea of heaven. I drank the water...It didn't kill me and it was free.

I am all about free!booze!and App.'s!

I'll be there next year, be-yotch.

Her Bad Mother said...

I love that you wrote this, sweet hottie Jennster!

DITTO DITTO DITTO.

Mwah!

Jenn said...

Does this fix the annonymous nature, beyotch?

Melissa said...

Ster, you look at the good things in life and maybe others don't. I wouldn't worry about what anyone says. If you had fun, that is all that matters.

alison said...

Some people just like to bitch. You know the type. It makes them feel better or something. Let them bitch and be all bitter. You had a great time and that's all that matters.

wendy boucher said...

There's no bitchin' on the Poop Deck, Jennster! I had a rocking good time and you were a big part of it. I look forward to next year you whore. (Okay, writing that made me crack up. I can't pull off Jennster-speak.)

Domestic Chicky said...

I'll go with you Jenn, we'll be the pollyanna sisters. My Hubby once told me I could look at a pile of horseshit and get excited because that meant there must be a pony somewhere-silly, but I love that he gets it...

Meg said...

I'm so glad to read this. I'm freaking sick of everyone bitching about the conference. It's not by any means keeping me from attending next year, but I'm tired of hearing it.

If it's not a 5-star hotel, that means that mommies like us can afford to go! I hope they don't change that next year or I won't have the money to do it.

Justdmarine said...

Heh-freakin-ELLLLLL no it's not wrong ROFL...but I say that just 'cause NEXT year will be my first year at Blogher and my life aint COMPLETE until I've traded a few quality gropes with some truly fun whores! Besides...I got even money on whether or not Lena can pronounce the name of my blog when she's tossed her entire linen closet (screw just THREE sheets man) to the wind *impish grin*

Stephanie A. said...

Jenn- I think the reason you're the only one not being catty about it is because really, deep down, you must be a man. OK, maybe not, but you know women- they bitch and have trouble focusing solely on the positive. It drives me batty, too. Oh, and maybe your perosnality was too big and while you were busy having fun, you didn't notice anything negative to say.


And OMG- Wendy BOU-SHAY just said whore. That's hilarious. Always surprising me, that Wendy.

coffeygirlb said...

Well it sounds like you went for the right reasons and came away with the best expierience. Good for you Jenn. You are a positive person. That is why people love you. Unfortunatley some people just arent satisfied unless they're unssatisfied...you'know, I really haven't seen any of these posts but I know that some people just take things way too seriously. What is there to be political about at a big ol party/ conferance??? Whatever love the pics:)

Catherine said...

You're all about the positive vibes... that's why we love you, whorebag!! Yeah, I'm like Wendy... Why can't I pull off STER-speak?!

Lotta said...

A lesson I learned when living in an all female dorm was that even the coolest chicks get a little crazy when you put us all in one space for an extended time.

Mommy off the Record said...

Whoever had a sucky time obviously didn't get enough leg-humping action from you.

Yorksdevil said...

I think you're totally right on this one. It makes me think of my trip down to the comicon in March when there was the 8 hours stuck on a coach and the figuring out how the London transport system works and the getting lost in the east end for a couple of hours but I did what I went to do an' met some great folks, and that makes everything else worth it.

Christina_the_wench said...

Do it. Spend the money on you. I dare you.

russ said...

I would be bitching and crying and moaning also because biscuits and gravy were no where to be found.

Mary Tsao said...

You have two things: positivity (is that a word?) and self confidence.

That's why we love you!

Nikki said...

I haven't read any negative stuff so far, but I haven't been blog surfing like usual lately.

Hubby has been introduced to my blog and he loves it!!!!

I'm totally jealous I didn't get to go to CA and meet everybody....for the record, you ALL suck. LOL

kim said...

its enough that YOU enjoyed yourself Jen ...just igonre the negativity :) people love to build something up just to tear it down

dont let them bring it down for you !! it was great reading about how much fun you had - you made me all happy and excited and i wasnt even there!

Andrew said...

This is refreshing. Good for you!

To Love, Honor and Dismay

Plunky said...

I think there are people who will just find something wrong with everything and focus on that. We, on the other hand, are focusing on the good parts! Yay us! You had fun, girl and, really, that is all that matters!

Jenny said...

The ONLY thing worth complaining about at BlogHer was the connectivity issue. Otherwise, have it in a barn, sleep on the ground, feed us vitamin-y water, WHO CARES! There are fun ladies everywhere!

I had my eye out for you, but somehow I miss ya. You were the only person on my 'must meet at blogher' list that I missed. It's funny, too, because I recognize all the people in your pictures! How could I have missed such a hottie?

Elizabeth said...

I said my piece about how I feel about all the negativity. Like I said, I guess I'm just easy to please ;-)

I REALLY hope you can come to Chicago, please tell your boyfriend/fiance that we will all be CRYING if you don't. I didn't even get my leg humped fer Pete's sake! Your happy, positive attitude is refreshing and infectious. You're a peach!

chris said...

I have wondered if I was at the same conference also.

I had nothing to complain about, other than missing my flight. But even that worked out to be fun.

So, I dunno. I had a GREAT time.

jess said...

had a good time, still mourning the end of it all. no complaints here, except the crappy photo of me and you.

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Izzy said...

Duuuuuude!

I didn't bitch at all. My post was strictly about the LOOOOOOVE!

I had a great time and none of those inconsequential little things ruined my weekend. It was so fun and the people so great that I'm afraid next year won't be able to live up to it.

Mom101 said...

RIGHT ON WOMAN!!!

You get out of life *and blogger* what you put into it. and you, the hostess with the mostest, clearly got a ton out of it. That says a lot about you, in the best possible way.

Mother said...

Oh lady. You say it loud and well. And really, the only thing I would have changed was partying more like you.

Total rockstar.

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