Friday, August 04, 2006

more reasons to love him

the boys went camping the weekend i went to blogher. and on that friday, boyfriend called me to ask if blake was allergic to bee stings or not. i told him that i didn't know. he was asking because i am allergic to them. then he asked if blake was allergic to benedryl and if i'd ever given it to him before. i told him i had and he was not allergic to it. so he said he was going to pick some up just in case he gets stung while they're camping.

i know this sounds simple and silly, but to me- it was another thing to add to the list of why i fucking love him so much. the fact that he is smart enough and prepared enough to think about these things. the fact that he thinks about blake's safety. he thinks like.... a dad. and it couldn't be more wonderful. and it constantly blows me away. i know to some people reading, it might sound retarded. but when you're a single mom and you're dating guys who don't want to date you anymore the moment they find out you have a kid, you learn to appreciate the men who have it in them to take all of this on. before boyfriend i'd met plenty of guys who were out the door when they found out about blake. and then there were the other guys who still wanted to date me, but wanted to pretend that blake didn't exist. none of those options worked for me. not to mention, the guys who were nothing but metrosexual, rich, party boys. and i've learned that THAT doesn't really work for me either. so they got added to my list of guys not to date: no musicians, actors, professional athletes, and guys with too much money who grew up in beverly hills.

boyfriend is a rare breed. he simply is. even when compared to his friends, whom i love dearly. i don't think any of them could have taken me on and been the type of father figure that he is to blake. whoever he was before he met me, it couldn't have been as fabulous as he is now. because he never had to be a dad before. and now he does. and everyday, when i realize how we both stop ourselves from swearing when blake is around (but watch out when he's gone! trucker mouths come out).. and how he explains things to blake so he can understand, and how he teaches him ways to be a man...I think of how lucky blake and i both are.

35 comments:

supa said...

He sounds just plain awesome.

My own boys went camping while I was at Blogher, too -- and my husband slept sitting up, in a puddle, just to make sure Owen was safe and dry.

These men can really blow your mind sometimes.

mothergoosemouse said...

I have another friend whose husband is the same way. They've been together since her daughter was a few months old, and it blows me away how you'd never know she wasn't his biological child.

(He'd love to adopt her, but the bio dad won't allow it.)

Boyfriend is absolutely a keeper. What a great guy.

Melody said...

that's great. I know some dads who are not involved at all, and it sucks for those kids. Good for all of you. That rocks.

Lisa Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Damn. That made me love him too. He's a keeper.

Lisa


Hope no bee stings were had. Just a good time.

alison said...

I think we need to forward this post to Nora Roberts. It sounds like a book in the making. :) What a sweet guy, and you and Blake are lucky, but so is he.

Jen said...

yes that was a very thoughtful thing to think of!! I'm a mother and i wouldn't have thought of that(my hubby's allergic to bees too)

J said...

My mom's dad died when my Grandma was about 25, leaving her with two young kids. Dating was hard, as you can imagine. The man I knew as 'grandpa' (her second husband, obviously) won her heart, because on their first date, he picked her up, and took her to see her kids. (Why the kids weren't living with her is much too long a story to be told on someone's unrelated comments, so I won't go into that.)

Sounds like you found a winner. :)

Painter Beach Girl said...

he seems really "present" and engaged with you and your son! attentiveness is the greatest gift.

Lena said...

Ooookay. I have a new BLOG CRUSH! And it's your booooyfrieeeend.

Stephanie A. said...

He's so awesome. I'm so happy for you, Jenn. You guys are going to have a wonderful, long life together!

Meg said...

Wow Jenn, he IS a rare breed. It's so amazing that he is willing to take on such a responsibilty...and do a great job of it at the same time! You are blessed to have him in your (and Blake's) life. I'm sure Blake loves him just as much as you do!

Piece of Work said...

That's really refreshing, Jennster. I'm so glad to read about it!

Amber said...

Just had to come check out your site myself. Anyone who's called "The Life of the Party" by all the gals at BlogHer has gotta have something to say! And indeed I haven't been disappointed.

The conference sounds like a blast. Some of us stayed home to do more fun things...like birthing. Jealous, I know. But looking forward to 2007.

Random Musings Of My Life said...

It really is the small things isn't it...
He sounds really great!!

theresa said...

Wow, I've been there, but never had a boyfriend be a positive role model like your's....Keep Him. Forever.

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Mega Mom said...

Yeah, yeah, yeah for all of you.

I'm so glad for you Miss Thang!

Mama C-ta said...

That sounds like some man you have there. Hell, I don't think my husband, Cricket's DAD would think of those things.

My do not date list is similar to yours except NO TATTOO ARTISTS is at the top. Which doesn't matter anymore now that I'm married. But I'm still keeping that rule at the top.

CP said...

Awwwwwwwwwwwww.

That just makes me all tingly. The hotband is like that with my kiddies too. Nothing makes me love him more than when I see him comforting our 19 year old daughter from her daily teen dramas, or seeing my 10 year old son curl up next to him to play a video game.

Love, thy name is Daddy!

CP.

Haley-O said...

he sounds like a keeper! :)

Meg said...

You'd think I'd leave you alone huh? Well if you read my recent post, you'd know that I'm out on a quest to spread some love around blogland. Guess what? You're my next victim!

Jenn, you are one hilarious whore! Not only are you hot, you are honest, crude, and not afraid to tell it like it is. You seem like so much fun and like someone I would actually be friends with in "real life"! You have an amazing boyfriend and an adorable son. Plus, you like to grope women and that's always cool with me!

And since Alison doesn't have a site for me to give her some love, I'm doing it here. I'm sure you'll pass it on to her...

Alison, I can always count on you to leave me some encouragement when I've had a shitty day. You crack me up even though I only communicate with you through my comments! Plus, you're fearless about braving the garage sale beasts, much like myself! Not to mention, you put up with Jennster in person, you you're amazing in my book!

Ok you guys, go share some warm fuzzies now...

Mommy off the Record said...

That was so sweet. I am so glad for you and Blake that you have boyfriend...soon to be husband!

p.s. i just signed up for jennster.com because I just CAN'T get enough of you. hee hee

Sarah said...

Hang on tight. Boyfriend is a keeper! But so are you.

:)

melissa b. said...

He sounds wonderful. I met my husband when my boys were 1 and 2 and those little caring things are why I knew he would be a great partner. And he is.

Go you!

Suburban Turmoil said...

That is awesome. You must be so happy.

By the way, from all I've read, you were by far the most popular woman at BlogHer this year! Hope you're going to Chicago next year, because Busy Mom has promised to go if I go! :D

Mrs. Chicky said...

You need to hog-tie that man and keep him in the house with all the doors locked. He sounds too good to share. Okay, I'm sure he has his faults (don't they all?) but it sounds like you got a good one.

Izzy said...

I can't even tell you how happy this makes me. You desevre the very best, as does your son.

Hugs and kisses xoxoxox

Nikki said...

Jennster, you constantly blow me away with your words.

Stefanie said...

Case in point for why you should never settle. That kind of character doesn't ever go away. Not when you have fights and not when you're both testy and stressed. That kind of character is what it takes to be in it for the long haul and I'm so thankful I have that kind of guy too! Just wanted to share your happiness and love of the Jennster's blog!

Mike said...

That proves he's a good dad.

spidey said...

Dot kicks ass! So do you though (and Blake too actually!) That is why y'all make such an awesome family.

*swoon*

penguininthesun said...

Major points. You can marry him, Jennster... I approve, haha jk :)

Kevin Charnas said...

that fucking ROCKS! HE rocks! YOU rock! you two just ROCK! You're a chocolate ice cream abuser, but you both STILL ROCK!

Virginia Belle said...

i had no idea men other than my father could ever act like that.

W-O-W.

tell your man he alone has managed to cause a paradigm shift in my view of the male species.

tell me he has a brother. if he doesn't, lie to me and say he's 32 and single.

Virginia Belle said...

shit, i meant that his pretend BROTHER was 32 and single.

crap. sorry. you know what i meant, right?

trucker mouth. ha ha love it.

sorry to other commenters!!! still not reading!!!