at football practice the other day i asked the coach if blake could wear his game day pants, instead of practice pants. i hadn't bought the practice pants yet (to which one of the mom's looked at me with horror and acted like a total bitch). he said i could, but only if i wanted him to get teased and be nicknamed "goldie" all season.
see what i'm talking about? in the post i wrote earlier. do you think kids would even care that blake's pants were a different color than their own if we didn't encourage them to notice the difference? would his teammates really start calling him "goldie" if the parents/coaches didn't think it was okay? i bet the coaches would be the ones who start the nickname. and then the kids would follow. why is that okay? why is teasing a teammate an alright thing to do? how does that encourage togetherness and teamwork? the power of your words. ALL of your words. why don't people think?
baseball isn't like this. the mentality between baseball and football are completely different. blake is a really sweet and sensitive kid. i'd find it hard to believe that he'd be calling one of his teammates a name just because something about them was different. and you know what? if i saw or heard him doing it, he'd get in trouble at home. because i'm trying to teach him to be aware of how his words and actions affect people. i'm not teaching him to be a pussy and let kids walk all over him. i fully believe in being a jerk to someone when it's warranted. and to defend yourself. but for no reason? or because everyone else is doing it? no. not okay. think for yourself. i encourage him to BE DIFFERENT, not make fun of those who are. i encourage him to stick up for the little guy, because if that little guy was you, wouldn't you want someone to stick up for you?
words are powerful. especially when you're saying them to a bunch of kids who look up to you, or actually listen to what you say. you are influencing them and helping shape them. and i'm not sure i want blake shaped that way.