good lord. i just got a call from my BFF (i SO know she's reading this) who goes to a kick ass school in southern california. our conversation quickly turned from business, to life.. which it often does whenever we talk to eachother. life is way more fun than business anyway- and plus she's super fun to talk too. she probably hates reading that because i think she wants to be bitchy and hardcore.. and definitely not fun! too bad woman- you're fun, so deal!! :)
so we were talking about sororities and frats (they hate being called frats, so i'm going to call them that) and how it's rush week on campus. i almost choked when i asked her if she was rushing. she almost choked trying to spit out a reply of not only no, but "hell no." i really did know better, but i had to be sure. maybe the summer changed her? maybe she suddenly felt the need to be accepted by a group of girls who are nice to your face, but talk shit behind your back? i think it's difficult enough for girls to constantly get along and genuinely like one another, that putting them all in a house together to live is just a recipe for disaster. i think sororities promote all these things, that sometimes, people just can't be. and they pick and choose who they want in their "club." and then they make you pay money to be a part of it. make excuses all you want for what a sorority did for you, but i didn't need to pay for friends. it wasn't something i wanted to be a part of. i never felt the need to be in a club... or be included. i never felt the need to female bond, or be around a group of girls in that manner. and i never wanted to do any of the shit they "required" you to do. i hate being told what to do- i certainly wasn't going to let some girl my age tell me what to do with my life and my time. don't get me wrong- i don't hate all sorority girls or anything like that (although about 90% of them were total bitches who needed to get over themselves and their self imposed importance). there were some very cool chicks who were in sororities when i was in college. and i was friends with them. and i loved going to frat parties. they always had the best ones. so i guess the greek system was good for something.
i am totally straying from my point. yes, i have one. so my BFF informed me that the girls in the sorority sit outside on their porch and sing while the guys in frats sit on lawn chairs drinking beers. and when the rushees (the girls trying to join the sorority) walk by, the guys in the lawn chairs rate them. THEY RATE THEM. i almost blew animal cookies out of my nose when she told me this. are you fucking kidding me?!?!! as if girls don't have enough insecurities or enough to deal with, now the guys sit on their fat asses, drinking beer, and RATE THEM on a scale from 1-10 as they walk by????? how fucking archaic is that shit?! i mean, honestly. who the hell are these guys to sit there and rate girls who are trying to join something, for whatever reason? what a bunch of assholes. the guys and the girls both. i'm sure everyone on campus thinks it's funny, but i think it's fucking rude. and it pisses me off. why isn't anyone offended by that behavior? why doesn't anyone look at that and see how ridiculous it is? guys rating girls. as if we're objects to be rated. as if we don't deal with that enough on a daily basis just existing.. it has to be reinforced now at school? and it's OKAY. hell, it's encouraged. this just adds to the many reasons why i think the greek system is a total joke. and why certain types of guys are total assholes. and why girls in sororities are freaking rude as hell to other girls. encouraging people to judge and rate others solely based on how they look. how inspiring. how uplifting. who wouldn't want to be a part of that?