one of my gf's has a lot of really nice things. diamond rings, diamond earrings, diamond bracelets, etc. all sorts of really, pretty, sparkley diamonds. she has a fairly new house in a super nice neighborhood. she has a brand new car. she doesn't have to "work." she has a housekeeper that comes twice a week and helps around the house. she has a lot of nice things. but that's about it. things.
it's heartbreaking because she is genuinely one of the kindest people i know. and while i have always known that she'd marry someone with lots of money, i never thought that she wouldn't be happy. and it's so sad when someone who just doesn't deserve to be unhappy, is. especially when it's the last thing you want for them. even moreso, when you feel it's the last thing they deserve.
i realized that i could have a lot of nice "things" too. i could be dating (or planning to marry) someone with lots of money... but at what cost? because all of the guys i had met in the past who were loaded, sucked in too many other ways. i wasn't happy then- i would have never been happy in the long run.
it's easy to look at someone who has a lot of nice things and a somewhat "easy" life and be envious. it's easy to look at things from the outside and wish that you had some of those things as well. but once you take a deeper look, you realize what is missing. and in my opinion, it's not worth the cost. i would never trade what i have, for what she has. i would never want all of those things, at the cost of losing what truly matters. because when i go to bed at night, i know that i have a man who could not possibly love me and my son any more than he does at that moment. he is always there for me emotionally. and the things that matter to me personally, are fulfilled. we might not have a ton of money and it would always be nice to have more- but in the grand scheme of things, that doesn't provide happiness. at least not by itself. and at least not for me.
now i'm not saying that you can't have it all. i believe some people do have both- money and happiness. and that's wonderful for them. i guess my whole point is that i'm marrying for love. and while i might be envious at times of the things some of my friends have, i wouldn't trade it for the world. because i have the kind of love that people spend a lifetime looking for. the kind of love that i would have hated living without, but would have always been searching for. and i wonder, what do you feel you have? or want?