Tuesday, July 11, 2006

best girlfriends!

the past couple of days have been amazing! 2 of my very best girlfriends have been in town! they both live in different parts of san diego, so even when i was in LA, i wouldn't see them very often. having both of them up here in northern california literally a day apart from eachother, made me so giddy i could just piddle!!! it's hard being away from them and i guess you don't realize it so much until you physically see them.

boyfriend and i had dinner with ali and her husband on thursday night (alison posts in my comments often, so some of you might "know" who she is. ps- sleepymommy/meg- she reads and posts in your blog almost daily). it was funny, and even though ali and i talk to eachother pretty regularly, it was nothing compared to actually being together. i felt like i was on a rapid fire question show on cnn or something! she would ask one question and before i could even start answering it, she had 7 more questions she'd already spit out! i had to tell the bitch to SLOW HER ROLL like 50 times! it was amazing though. things like that... times like that.. they're precious. they truly are. and among the 10 thousand questions were a lot of laughs and a lot of memories and just plain niceness. i miss her. i've known ali since high school. i knew the first time i saw her that i would be her friend. not only did she like the new kids on the block, but she had the balls to wear one of their t-shirts to school. it was love at first sight in math class. ha! as you can see- she's grown out of the new kids shirt. for now.































and then i had a sleepover with melissa on friday night in napa! i've never been to napa, so that alone was super fun (not that i could see a damn thing driving out there in the dark)! i can't even put into words how amazing and wonderful it was to see her. i love her so incredibly much. she is like the little sister i never had. ever since melissa and i met in college, we've just had this bond. so much so, that i moved out of my dorm room without anyone's permission and into hers. we're just regular rulebreakers! our lives have always kind of paralleled eachothers. we got knocked up 6 months apart and then entered single motherhood together. and everything that went along with finding a good man, and dating them, and introducing them to our child... all the emotions and feelings and bullshit that can go along with that. the kind of stuff that no one else would truly understand because they didn't have to live that life. we always had eachother to relate too. and even though our lives have taken very different turns in the types of men we are married too (or in my case, am going to marry).. being there for one another is something that hasn't changed. our bond has never waivered. this friendship is more than that. and i love and appreciate it so much. my little soul sister.


i have amazing friends. i really do. my core group of girlfriends are just downright good people. the worst part is i rarely get to see any of them. we're talking once a year at most here folks. is that so odd though? when you have kids and you live far apart from eachother- isn't that kind of how life goes? how often do you see your best friends?

39 comments:

Lisa Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Ugh. Not often enough. Loved your post.

I see my bests a few times a year, and you are right having kids and distance makes it so damn hard.

But every time I do seem them, it feels like we were never apart. I love that.

I am so glad you had such a nice time with your girls.

Lisa

Stephanie A. said...

It sounds like you guys had so much fun just hanging out! It also sounds like you have some awesome friends, too!

The minute I met my best friend Traci I knew we were lifers! She lives about 4 hours away right now, so we try to see each other 2-3 times per year. We try to do it on long weekends when we can. It's getting tough as our families grow, but we really do see each other when we can.

My other best friend moved herself all the way to Morocco, so we don't see each other but once a year now. However, thanks to vonage, we catch up with each other at least once per month on the phone, if not more often. It was every week during my maternity leave (she had her baby within a month of when I had Hugo.)

My other best friend only lives about 45 minutes away, but she just had twins, so we don't see each other as much as I'd like. But we do email, etc.

Izzy said...

Dude...you and your best buds look like a trio of ultra-hot sisters. I'm sure you guys stopped traffic everywhere you went!

Izzy said...

And sadly...I rarely see my BFF's. We get together by phone 99.9% of the time.

Becky said...

i wish flickr FREAKIN WORKED but i saw the pics already so thats ok.

but i only have a handful of best girlfriends. and i sometimes dont even get to see most of them even once a year! sometimes it is just ONCE a year. i hate it. they're all in ohio and i'm down here in tx. but i do have morgan here and she's so great. its awesome when you got that core group and even though they're so far they're always there for ya no matter what. thats awesome jenn!

Kristin said...

Cute photos, Jenn... sounds like you had a great weekend! But, did you talk (gasp) wedding plans??? ;-)

Mega Mom said...

I used to see my best friends quite often, but now just a few times a year until we return to NY. Thankfully I've made some wonderful new friends here. I often wonder if they'll ever know me like my old friends though...

cj said...

Isn't it amazing how good it feels to get in touch with those you love? I spent most of the previous week at our lake house and spent much time with hs friends and their kids. It was one of the best things I have done in a long time.

Piece of Work said...

Best friends are hard to come by. It's really awesome that you have two such fantastic ones.
One of my best friends lives 3000 miles away. I miss her!

Nikki said...

Not very often, that's for sure.

We got really lukcy when we moved into this house.

We're best friends with our neighbors.

Love, love, love it.

Elizabeth said...

God DAMN woman, you have some beautiful friends! How great that you got to see them both. I'm so lucky that my best friend lives about 10 minutes away, although we are both super-busy with our kids we try to get together for lunch and shopping once a week.

P.S. You think talking to Ali was bad, just you wait until we meet up at BlogHer and I start talking after a few drinks! They don't call me motormouth for nothing!

Melissa said...

Hmmmm, I live close to mine, I'm sorry. I see them daily. But I love that you have such awesome friends too. Rulebreaker? Ha. I believe it.

Melissa said...

Oh, I had a new kids shirt too. And it scares me just a bit.

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

So nice you all look like sisters lol.

ginger incognito said...

My family went and moved (almost) all the way across the country when I was 11, so my childhood best friend and I sort of drifted apart, though we still try to communicate via email. Time zones and children complicate actually talking on the phone, which we try to do once or twice a year. How sad is that?

But . . . there are a couple of wonderful women that I met in college who are the bestest friends you could ask for, even when they are making you crazy. I see them and talk to them as often as possible because we just can't function any other way. Hey, wait. Maybe that's the more pathetic story. ;)

Jodi said...

I loved your post too. And I agree with you, there is nothing better than, what I like to call, "longtime ago friends". The history that you have with them is UNIQUE and awesome and is just special. I totally get it.

Oh yeah, and you're a babe. Like totally. :)

Painter Beach Girl said...

How awesome that you have friends like that and that you have somone you went through a "different" time with, in being single moms, etc. I dont know any single moms except for one that lives an hour away..I should really make more of an effort to see her, because when we are together, it is so fun and great!!! You are in such a good place!!!

melissa b. said...

Can I just say? You totally know how to pose for a picture!

I'm so glad you have these great friends, that's the most fabulous thing ever. One of life's big gifts!

alison said...

Melissa B---I have to second that---she DOES know just how to pose for a picture. I obviously could use a few tips. :)

Thanks, Jenn, for putting in the goofiest picture of me. I KNOW you had more to choose from...but this is your blog, so it is your choice. No fair!

Thanks also for sharing with the blog world that I WORE a new kids shirt to school. How embarrassing is that?

alison said...

By the way, Jenn showed me the new kids picture she has stashed behind her couch for whenever she needs a quick peek. :)

HAHA!

Meg said...

I'm glad you posted a picture of Alison so that I could put a face with a name. I love all the comments that she leaves me! I sooo wish I could fly out there just to party with you guys! Tell her I said hi and to keep stopping by.

Lisa said...

Good friends are priceless. And you'd never been to Napa before then? Ah. LOVE Napa!

Lotta said...

You and your friends are too darn cute!

Mommy off the Record said...

What a touching post to your friends. i can tell you really love them. I only get to see my best friends 3 times a year or so. Why does everyone have to move away. Why?

Sarah said...

I miss my two best girlfriends, Alison and Georgia, SOOOooooo much. Being in this city by myself, I am totally lost without them and it is one of the hardest things to face.

Good thing I go home in a couple weeks!

sunshine scribe said...

Hoory for good friends! I have recently made a pledge to reconnect with mine. Love it.

Christina_the_wench said...

She's in Colorado. I live in Michigan. Once every few years. ~cries~

Mammawannabe said...

I wasn't seeing mine enough either...we JUST moved though, and now we're about 10 minutes away from them all - I'll let you know how it goes - I think it's going to be the same - visits few and far between - life gets in the way sometimes (kids, marriage, houses, whatnot...).

Loved your post though, I couldn't have come up with a better way to put it!

Jenn said...

Why are all your friends Blonde???

I don't see them as often as I used to, and I did loose a couple since I've gotten married and had a baby.....but Mike and I try to see our friends as much as possible....and do a good job at it.

Virginia Belle said...

ok, i'm starting to not want to leave comments here anymore...do you really want to read comment #30? i guess...you ARE the comment whore. i just feel like there is nothing i can say that hasn't already been said. so i'll talk about myself then.

:D

this post made me miss Lady Starfish so much!!! I love her to pieces. one of the few people i never get sick of talking to. she always makes me laugh and she makes everything "funner". i always tell her that if she were a man, i would marry her and make lots of babies. she said the same thing! but i got tired of always visiting her in her podunk boring town. so i am boycotting visits. well, this has totally blown up in my face. i haven't seen her in at least a year, even though she is an easy 3 hour drive away! :( we still email and talk like crazy, but i really want her to visit. i have so many things and friends to show her. she has missed meeting 2 boyfriends. she hasn't met sammy yet. so i nag her constantly to visit me.

so far, it's not working. but that's ok. i still love her. she's my girl.

creative-Type Dad (Tony) said...

I don't see my single guy friends anymore (they're too busy picking up blondes...).

I do see my married friends allot more these days, especially the ones with kids (babies, toddlers).

I do keep in touch with the others, only through email.

gina said...

My best friend since I was 6 lives down the road from me. The last time I saw her was after I gave birth to lil T!

BTW, you are so HOT! ;)

Kevin Charnas said...

I'm going to beat you over the head with that do-rag you're wearing...you hear me? I specifically instructed BOTH of them that they were to beat you senseless and you see what happened? nothing, that's what happened. So, NOW, I'm gonna have to do it!

Dustin said...

*bites his tongue on the second shot*

hmm...

Stacy said...

what a great post, but i'm actually a little jealous. i don't have girlfriends like that and i really want to. it's kinda sad. i have my sister but she lives far and we don't get to see each other as often as i'd like. anyway, it's nice that you gals make time for each other.

Beth said...

Yeah, I don't have many of those. One moved half a country away. Another moved to another country. Another lives around the corner, but for some reason, because me and her hubby are like twins, so we have a great time together, she thinks I want him or something. Sucks. I am quite happy with my man thanks.
She is even due a day before me. We've talked like 10 times this whole pregnancy.
Anyway, you are so lucky. I am jealous!
Bunch a hotties too!

Random Musings Of My Life said...

Ugg
My best friends live in a different country 3000 miles away, so I see them about 1 time a year too. Hell what I would give to live in the same state! But life gets busy, when I first moved we all talked about once a week, then 1 a month now every few months.
THANK YOU GOD FOR EMAIL!!!
I am glad you had fun

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jen said...

I see my best friends from my hometown once or twice a year. it's always a blast.
girl you are sooo pretty, (whore)haha.