Thursday, June 15, 2006

the conversations that make me laugh... and cry

last night i was baking cupcakes for blake's last day of school (did i mention i volunteered in his class yesterday for a couple hours? i SO rock at this working mom thing)..
me: blake, what kind of cupcakes should i make? white or yellow?
blake: chocolate
me: but i'm going to have chocolate frosting on them.. so which kind?
*staring at me like i'm an asshole*
blake: chocolate
me: but some people might not like chocolate
blake: WHAT DO YOU MEAN???
i love the fact that my kid thinks only people on crack wouldn't like choclate.


then this morning as i was driving him to school he said this. seriously. all in one breath. it just kind of tumbled out of his mouth. and it's shit like this that breaks my heart.
"i wish we lived back in LA because the weather is better... and we're closer to
disneyland.. and you would still work for disney.. and i would be near all my
friends.. and closer to my cousins.. and dodger stadium... and the beach."

and that's all i can remember but it's possible he said more. i had to tune him out to keep from crying. seriously, this kid mentions moving back home at least once a week. and that SO doesn't help my mental state. lol

33 comments:

Stephanie A. said...

Blake is right- nobody in their right mind wouldn't like chocolate.

And a huge awww to both of you about your LA talk. I know how hard it is to miss living somewhere, so I feel your pain. Maybe one day you guys can move back???

Painter Beach Girl said...

Oh the chocolate is so funny...my kids do that too...I try and tone it down and they are like "LOAD ON THE CHOCOLATE LADY!!!!"

Melissa said...

Honey, that sucks, and I would have cried too. But you have to remember that all kids say things like that. And he probably means it too, but he's little and he'll make new friends and one day, he will not care that he lives up north. And one day, maybe you won't either. Plus, Disneyland and Dodger stadium and Cousins aren't going anywhere. You can always visit.

And yes, he is correct, kids who don't like chocolate are on crack. They should be forced to live somewhere else. Like in the desert.

Lisa Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Chocolate cupcakes for the class. Awesome! You are rocking!

It's sweet Blake came to love all those things about LA, and it just means he will come to love new things about your new city too.

I guess it's hard for kids to make transitions, but at the same time, they are the most resiliant of people and can take so much change as long as you love them, which you so very much do.

--Lisa

mothergoosemouse said...

A guy who loves chocolate? Blake rules.

Jenn, I feel your pain re Blake's wish to move back to LA. Tacy still talks about NY, and it kills me to explain to a four year-old why we cannot simply go back to ride the carousel in Central Park. For months, I heard about how she wanted to move back, how she didn't want someone else to live in our apartment, how she missed her friends and teachers. It's hard.

norcalgirl28 said...

Blake is a wonderful kid who has friends that would miss him terribly if he moved back to LA. Maybe if he lives here long enough he will become a Giants fan and learn to love Little League :)

penguininthesun said...

Hey, you DO rock at the working mom thing.

I'm sorry about the whole moving from home situation. I hope it gets easier with time.

denise said...

anyone who doesnt like chocolate is not from earth, there like pod people or something and the pods forgot the chocolate gene.

Lisa said...

Awwww. My kiddo would think the same way about cupcakes. And he'd think the same way if we moved...

Kevin Charnas said...

ooohhhh...poor little guy...and you too! I know what it's like.

Hey, do you remember the voice on the Train at Disney that yells, "ALLLL ABOARD!!!" ? It's Will's Grandpa. His Grandpa was friends with Walt Disney and actually helped design and build the park. His father and uncles and cousins all worked there as well...

Mommy off the Record said...

Awww. Poor Blake! I didn't know you guys had recently moved up from LA. I'm sure it's hard to move away from friends and familiar places. Hopefully, he'll feel better about the move as time passes. How long ago did you move away?

jen said...

Moving is tough.
I still miss SF...and I moved 9 friggin years ago!!!
It is hard...but things will turn. He is lucky to have such a wonderful mom...and to have so many people to miss down in LA LA Land. (It's hard for kids to see it that way...but really...it's better that he actually has sooo much to miss...ya know? Or do I sound crazy?)
Anyhow...time will pass...and with time he will make his home where he is now. :)

Kristin said...

Blake is right... you would have to be on crack to not like chocolate.

Hopefully a great summer will help him feel more connected to N. CA.

Alison said...

He's young and living up north is still new to him. If you moved back to L.A., he would probably say similar things about where you are now...like he misses being so close to Dad, his new friends he's made, etc. It will get easier for him.

Way to go with the cupcakes, Hooch! Yum!!!! School's out for summer!

Mama Duck said...

Awww, he's right about the chocolate.

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melissa said...

Blake is absolutely correct. Chocolate is the perfect frosting for chocolate cupcakes. Always. Don't question it, go with it.

As for the moving, it at least means you've given him a good life to remember when he gets big. He'll soon love this place, too. You're an awesome mama. It's shows in such a great kid.

Mega Mom said...

I hate chocolate cake!

My 4 year old has been counting the days till our NY visit and asks about moving back weekly.

wendy boucher said...

Blake is so smart to have already figured out that chocolate is one of the four food groups.

kat said...

kevin's beau's grandpa rocks. that, and i know a poor little girl alergic to chocolate. so sad. so very, very sad.

Shawna said...

lol I wouldn't have thought about kids not liking chocolate either! In fact, I always either make or order my kids a chocolate bday cake and then I always feel kinda bad cause my MIL doesn't eat chocolate, but she CAN so whatever! lol. It doesn't stop me from doing chocolate.
That sucks that Blake still misses LA so much, but give him time. It really hasn't been that long yet. He'll get comfy there:)

Lotta said...

You can dress up vanilla, but that doesn't make it chocolate! Your son's got it right on.

Aaah kids. When I started working a couple evenings a week at a bookstore my son just flipped out for the first two months. Now he just waves goodbye.

Kids just flip out whenever there is change. It doesn't mean you made a bad decision. Just means your kid is acting like he's supposed to.

But (mommy hug) it's rough.

Jennifer said...

Well??! He's right! People who don't like chocolate ARE on crack! What the??!?! It doesn't matter if you put chocolate icing on it, throw in some chocolate chips! hehehe.

I, too, have mixed feelings about being here and missing LA. Give Blake a big hug for us - I know what he means about the weather, the beaches and Disneyland...

Happy Friday!

Nikki said...

I try to make a couple of cupcakes sans chocolate for the kids who are allergic to it, that way they can all have a cupcake. I took all chocolate in one year and one little girl was allergic and she didn't get any goodies b/c the other mom had brought chocolate icecream. Mde me feel like crap.

Don't worry about the moving away stuff. It'll get better with time.

Wendy said...

My youngest always tells me that he wants to move back to Portland to our old neighborhood, but when we were there last month, he refused to go see any of his old friends, because he couldn't remember them.

norcalgirl28 said...

seriously, and I wish I could take back what I said yesterday, it was kind of flippant. Moving up here from L.A. must have seemed like moving to a different world for both of you. To have lived a life down south with everything that you know to be "good and right" with the world and then to move up here and have people look at you like you have two heads when you question the Northern California way of things. I, to be honest, don't know if I could live in Southern California. It is absolutely beautiful and has so much to do, but it would be so foreign to me to actually live there. So, I think I know what you mean. Blake must be trying to put a brave face on every day and go out in a world that is completely foreign to him and I am sure that is completely scary for anyone. Honestly, even an adult would just want to run home and hide in everything that is safe, and I don't blame them for feeling that way. Your love for your boyfriend must be very strong for you to make such a change in your life. I hope your boyfriend's love, and both yours and Blake's friends, make the adaptation a little easier.

Undercover Angel said...

LOL! That's so cute. My kids can't understand why Jake's kids always want me to make peanut butter fudge instead of chocolate fudge. I have to admit I agree... Who would want peanut butter when they could have chocolate...

Jenny said...

I'm with Blake. Who wouldn't want a double chocolate cupcake?

mollymcmommy said...

i am CRACKING up over the crack comment, i LOVE chocolate and don't understand anyone who doesn't, the crack factor is for sure in play in that situation! LOL!

I would have cried too. sometimes kids just say things that they are thinking in that moment, then move on kwim?

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Va Va Voom said...

My kid says the same about wanting to move back to where we used to live, usually when he's really really bored. Still makes me kinda sad.

As for chocolate, I haven't met a guy who didn't like chocolate. It must be a male thing - they usually go for chocolate anything! I hope the kids enjoyed your cupcakes! I now have a craving for cupcakes.

DUNN said...

It must be Kharma or something that I decided to log in and read your crack head blog tonight...I just happen to be back in the homeland this week and have BIG JAKE with me. We are leaving in the morning and he dropped almost the exact same line on me a little while ago...The better life gets, the more it sucks!!!

spidey said...

Thank you for making me crave chocolate cupcakes with chocolate frosting!

That is sad that Blakey still talks about moving back to LA...

tray said...

awwwwwww he's so funny!