Monday, May 29, 2006

let's be honest here

i need to know. do people know when they have kids that aren't cute? i mean seriously. i'd like to think that if i had a not cute kid, i would realize it. it's not like i would love the kid less if it wasn't cute- but i just think i'd know. and in this knowing, i wouldn't post pictures of said not cute kid daily on my blog for y'all to look at. does everyone just automatically think their kid is the cutest kid in the world??? seriously. i'm so curious. is there anyone reading this blog who thinks their kid is just "okay" or does every mom/dad think their kid rocks in the looks department?

here is my kid drooling. isn't that adorable? ooh, here it is sucking up the drool! awwww, precious right? here it is playing in the drool! so talented!

even if the kid is freaking adorable, do you really want to see that many pictures of a kid that isn't yours? honestly? does everyone in blogland care that much about someone else's kid, that they honestly would like to see multiple pictures everyday of said kid? i am asking because sometimes i really feel like i'm the only mom out there who doesn't really give a shit. i'd rather see pictures of someone's puppy than their kid. fine fine...that's not entirely true, but still. i just don't get off on seeing someone's child everyday. the kid looks the same as it did the day before. and the day before that. and that. and so on. i love seeing pics every now and then, but the daily one? i guess i just feel like it's overload. and kind of, what the hell is the point?

why do i feel like this is purely a "jennster" thing and i'll be alone in my thinking on this one?

maybe it's because i define myself as so much more than just blake's mom. maybe it's because i choose to be more self absorbed, than blake absorbed. who knows? all of this could change when i have another baby and i'm starting over, and freaking out. then before you know it, all i'm posting is baby shit and daily not cute baby pictures! then y'all can call me a hypocrite and well, that will be fun for everyone!

ps- this post is not talking about ANYONE who reads this blog. i promise you i am not referring to your child. i cannot emphasize that enough.

64 comments:

Lisa said...

You just crack me up! Are you SURE you're not talking about my child?

(heehee.)

Beth said...

aw Jennster! i agree with you. I know I post pics here and there, but wow, I don't think I would want to see her on my blog everyday! I have more things to say (sometimes) too.
As for thinking your kid is the cutest... I think some do, but my poor nephew went through an akward stage at one point, and my sister knew it. She didn't say much, but did say later that he is starting to look cute again. I laughed my ass off!
I hope I would know if my kid is not cute. I happen to think so, but wow, there are some not so cute ones out there!

DD said...

I could take a stab at who you might be referring to, but then I would just be speculating.

Off to go post some pictures of my adorable 4 year old...again!

Undercover Angel said...

I think everybody thinks there child is the cutest....

I'm a little bit skeptical about posting children's pictures on the Internet though... I've never done it because I think it's safer to keep a little bit of anonymity...

Melissa said...

Damm and I was thinking of posting a new picture of my kids. I for sure won't do it now. ;0)

Really, I love seeing pictures of kids, but that is just me. Sometimes I see a just okay looking kid and wonder what the parents think. I wonder why they post their kids picture all over the net. But I think most parents think their kid is adorable, no matter what. It has something to do with them being yours.

Irreverent Antisocial Intellectual said...

There are some FUGLY kids out there. Trust me, when I was temporarily insane and participating in a MomBot board, these women were going insane posting pictures of their kids ... their ugly kids. And yes, they thought they were all adorable. Sorry, F-U-G-L-Y ...
As for me, I get pissy when the grandparents print/forward/display pictures of Genius Child when she's in a not-so-attractive mode. The answer? Just like when bad pictures are taken of me, DELETE DELETE DELETE - love them digital cameras.
I am still mortified by my fugly kid pictures (complete in 1970's striped pants and Dorothy Hamill haircuts, so I ain't doin' it to my kid. If it's a fugly picture, it's got to go!

Alison said...

Way to go, Jenn, making everyone paranoid that it's their kid you're talking about. Of course, I know you're not talking about MINE. :) Remember that personality makes people so much more charming, so of course all parents think their babies are the cutest because all kids do the cutest things!

Elizabeth said...

No, you're right. I don't know for sure who you're referring to, but there is one blog I read that has a photo of the author's baby almost every day. And on days when she doesn't include a photo, the next day's post will say "Oh! Sorry! I know you want to see the baby!" Um, really, it's okay to skip a day!

Also, I do think my daughter is pretty cute, but my boys are already growing out of the adorable stage. I used to think I would get a lot more traffic if I posted more pictures of my kids; good to know that's not the case!

P.S. It's still okay if you throw a picture of Blake our way once in a while!

carrie said...

This is too funny! I am always nudging my Husband when he whispers about unattractive kids we see.

Before we had kids I was sure that his bad karma would guarantee us a troop of drooly, hairy neanderthals but I guess I was wrong! But then again, I'm their Mom and if they were ugly - I wouldn't notice or care! Okay, I'd notice.

Mama Duck said...

Awwww, I don't know. I know my little guy is super cute, but I'm not sure if I'd be able to see if he was fugly!! Mommy blindness??

stephanie said...

Guilty! But my kids ARE cute :)

Mega Mom said...

You awful, awful, woman :))

I think I'd know if my kid wasn't that cute. In fact when my middle guy was born, my husband and I both agreed that he was one of the ugliest babies ever. My husband said he looked like Karl Malden. Now he is the most handsome.

There are some real cuties out there (her bad mother and something blue come to mind) who I could just eat up. Then I guess there are some I could take or leave. Mine, of course, are real lookers :)

amalah said...

OMG, you're totally talking about Noah, aren't you? I mean, of course you are, because my child is a total effing troll.

Nikki said...

LMFAO! Jenn, you are such a damn trip.

I've posted a few pictures of my short people. To me, they are the most beautiful people on the face of this earth. Other people's babies on the other hand...some are pretty scary.

I have a family member with a small child and I look at the picture and think - poor kid, i hope he doesn't look like that forever.

Harsh, but you gotta see this kid.
The baby's mom on the other hand thinks the sun rises and sets by that kid.

I have to agree with lil' duck duck. It mommy blindness.

With mommy love, you see beyond the face covered with drool.

gray_brandi said...

ha..I'd imagine that everyone thinks their kids are cute.. ?? and if they didn't.. they wouldn't say it out loud! :)
My kids ask me "Who do you think is the cutest?".. & truthfully, I've never really rated them..

Angry Dad said...

You are so not alone in this. I see ugly kids all the time, but in their parents eyes, they're beautiful. Hell, even my kids are weird looking, but cute in their own special way. Its the uniqueness that makes them cute!

cj said...

*LOL* What???? You don't like seeing my many many pictures of Thea and Grace nearly on a daily basis? What is WRONG with you? I know I know... I used to post a lot more pictures of my dog but there are just so many poses Trudie can do before she too thinks its quite blah!

I define myself more than Thea or Grace's mom... its too bad there are so many that don't.

jen said...

sorry i've been a slacker bout commenting, i just suck. Anyways, I'm totally with you once again. I hate 10 pics in a blog post....like "x eating" "x smiling", "x playing", it's like wtf? I don't care..........Honestly I rarely refer to my son in a post or post pics, because I REFUSE to be a "mommy blogger". (even though my son is the smartest, cutest, best behaved 6 year old boy in the entire world)

mollymcmommy said...

ok chickie, i'm very with you. i actually enjoy pics, but a daily post with them? no, its ok really, i can do without. i cannot do without my daily caffeine though, IV shots only please.

i love my kiddies and really life is crazy psycho over here. they have 99% of me, but that 1%, thats all me baby, selfish, selfish me, me, me.

Piece of Work said...

I wonder about this too, especially when I see photos of the kid and they are not cute at all. I mean, of course the parents love the kid, but they have to also know on some level that the kid is not cute. Right? I don't feel like I'm under any delusions about my kids--they're not ugly, but they're not the cutest, either. They are just your average kid.
Oh, and just for you, Jenn? I'm posting a picture EVERY SINGLE DAY FOR THE REST OF TIME.

AND you? You are a heathen and a terrible mother if you don't do the same. How dare you define yourself as something other than Blake's mom? HOW DARE YOU? Ha ha!

Kristin said...

You're totally talking about me right? I just posted a photo of Eva's tiny rear end and you are talking about me in the "who the hell posts a photo of their kid's tush?!"...

Actually, Hugh and I often have that conversation... do they know their kid is fugly??

Catherine said...

I don't post their pics every day (who has that kind of time?!), but I will say that I'm one of those delusional mothers who thinks God didn't know the meaning of cute until her kids came along. :)

Mommy off the Record said...

I have good news for you. I just posted a picture of my dog AND my baby in my latest post. And neither pictures are very cute. he he

Mike said...

Look.............if you're going to talk about my daughter like that, at least have the balls to admit it!!!! BITCH!!! ;op

Becky said...

lol i agree. which is why i dont talk about hannah daily and why i dont put pics up of her daily. i'm much more than just hannah's mom. and i realize this. and thats why my blog is about everything that is me. not just hannah.

also, if hannah wasn't cute, i'd admit it. thats my biggest fear. that my next kid wont be as cute as her and i will know it. i too wonder if people dont realize that their kid is NOT cute?

we're mean. lol

Stephanie A. said...

So does this mean you'd rather look at my scabby ankle than Hugo pics? Because, seriously, I can keep them coming. I'll even dedicate them to you, if you want.

Yeah, some kids are ugly and some kids are ok. I'm not an "all babies are cute and desirable" kind of gal. I'd like to think that I could be objective about my own kid, but you know, so many things about this freaking motherhood thing has surprised me, so now I'm not so sure.

And people posting their pics everyday- hard to say. I had asked a group of people to give me feedback on my blog and they gave great advice. The only thing that made me roll my eyes was when they said that I should focus it more on mommy topics. Yes, I do talk about poop and Hugo's sickness, but I also have a whole world of other topics to talk about. But if someone wanted to only focus their blog on mommy stuff, then I could see posting those pictures on a daily/near-daily basis.

Christina_the_wench said...

My fugly kids have names, dammit! Don't just call them kids. Now what the hell am I gonna post on a Monday, er Tuesday. Shit, what day is it?!?!

Jodi said...

Woman, you are too funny. I am forever checking my kids out to see if they are cute. I try to be objective. But, even if they weren't cute, which they are damnit, I would probably still post their pictures. But, I haven't posted any pics of any of us because I like to be mysterious. And because although my kids are cute I am NOT and this I know for certain. *L*

Personally I find mommy blogs boring. I like it when a person lets other sides of their personality shine through. A mother, well most mothers, are multi-faceted and I would like to read more than just the latest escapades of darlin' Jack & Jill. Ya know?

mollymcmommy said...

i was watching a seinfeld rerun last night where they had the episode "you gotta come see the baby" and the baby is hideous!
thought of your post jen! LOL!

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mothergoosemouse said...

I thought Tacy was absolutely stunning when she was tiny, but now I look back and realize that some of her baby pictures are frankly a little odd-looking.

Maternal and paternal insanity, I suppose.

texas math said...

Is this a warning that you'll think my child will be not-cute? How dare you!

Haha..just kidding..and I've wondered the same thing about parents not knowing whether their child is ugly...but I thought this was because I don't have any children of my own and didn't understand being a parent and loving even the ugliest of children.

Dustin said...

i think you just offended half of the blog world jen
lol.....

Jenn said...

ummm yea. I pretty much post pictures of Allie on an almost daily basis. But she IS cute.....Right? Yea, I don't think I would know if Allie wasn't cute. And mostly cause people always tell you your kid is cute, and I think they would even if they weren't, so how would you know?
But as far as the pictures...I think that people should be able to do whatever they want on their blog. If you don't like it, don't read.
Wow that sounded bitchy didn't it? I didn't mean it bitchy. I just mean that I started my blog JUST for sharing Allie pictures. The other stuff came after.
Anyway, I'm gonna stop this comment now, cause it's not going well. LOL

mean girls said...

Okay....i have to comment on this topic really only because i'm right there with you.
We have 2 friends that really have some of the ugliest kids. No, really. The kind you don't want to touch or let alone kiss when the mom says, "give auntie a kiss" and you cringe.
They think thier kids are so cute. Cute enough to sign them up at a modeling agency.What those people must have been thinking. I wanted to die.
So it goes to show that there is momy blidness when it comes to your kids.

Mel said...

Nah, I know it isn't me, because I'm a weirdly paranoid psychobitch when it comes to posting images of the girls on my blog. HA!
As for the initial question - yes. Everyone thinks their child is beautiful, and that's okay. Even if their kid has a face like a goddamn waffle iron, they think their child is gaw-juss. Part of the procreation thang, I think.

Fidget said...

Thanks for having me this week, ive enjoyed my sidebar time

i am sooo guilty of over posting my kids and myself BWHAHAHAA. When Mira was little I knew she was rough looking. She had reflux really badly and looked like i starved her. Thankful we beat the ugly out of her (ok just kidding) and we now have 2 smart and lovely girls

Anonymous said...

I often wonder if parents with neuro-typical children know how lucky they are that their child can walk and talk and do normal kid thing.

And maybe none of the other stuff matters.

Jimboliah said...

why do you hate me? i swear you do? >< !! so fine.. i wont post anymore... no lil spastic kid 2 laugh @ any more .... boohoo

Shawna said...

LOL! I always wondered if I would know if my kids weren't cute! There are a few baby pics of M where I know then I thought she looked fucking adorable, but looking back I am able to see that she DID go through an akward stage (and I think all babies do) She is in the stage now where she's got the big adult teeth in the front and they are too big for her head and it's goofy looking too! lmao! But overall I DO think my kids are damn cute, so who knows? LMAO!

jane said...

I think everyone thinks their child is cute. And I think one day when I'm a Grandma, I will think my grandchild is absolutely PERFECT.
I wonder, for safety reasons, why people put so many pics of their kids online when they give details of where they live, names, etc.
Anyways, your post wasnt' about the safety aspect, so I'll shut up now.

MelissaMM said...

Believe it or not, not everyone thinks their kid is the cutest. A few years ago, a friend (She moved & I lost touch) gave birth to a boy. He was a bit hairy and his head was a bit, well, large. Before people could give the obligatory "Oh he's so cute!" she would say "yeah, i know, he's a bit funny looking but we're hoping he grows into his looks" Felt a bit bad for the baby but slightly relieved I didn't have to comment. I just laughed and starting asking how she was doing.

Humph, wonder if his body ever caught up with his head

Tracy said...

LOL! I totally agree with what you're saying. But seriously, my 3 kids are cute, dammit! They really are. If they were ugly I'd know it! :)

Primal said...

I thought all of my kids were adorable.. except my son. when he was born he just had these HUGE eyes and didn't look as Irish as my side of the family (which I'm accustomed to seeing being in the south). Anyway I cried cuz he was not so attractive.. but I fell in love with him.. and he turned out adorable! He was a model.. they all were. (I have 5). But I don't post pics. I do on my mommy loop but everyone always wants to see them... they ask. Otherwise--my pics are for me and my family.

melissa said...

The New Jennster Pledge: I promise to only post pictures of my boys if they have a tampon hanging out of their nose.

sweatpantsmom said...

You crack me up.

And I would love to comment, but I'm busy emailing you the latest photos of my kids. Eighty five of 'em. Taken at five minute intervals. I hope they don't clog up your mailbox.

heidi said...

totally, people should keep their ugly kids to themselves. Ha!

kim said...

lmao jen ... you crack me up
My cousin and i called her son Yoda when he was a baby.
Have you seen Yoda? lol

I cant imagine where all those pics went ...ill show you ....

EvaRob said...

HAHAH....but my kids really ARE the cutest....really.

Elizabeth said...

48 comments? You go on with your bad self Jenn! LOL

Jenny said...

Hee! Just for you I'm posting a picture of Hailey on my blog in the next hour. You've been warned. (Of course, I do at least have the decency to put my toddler in a variety of wigs to mix it up a bit for you guys.)

Tara said...

omg 50 posts? Craziness..
And as for the post...I think every parent thinks their kid is the cutest thing on earth. I have seen some pretty weird looking kids, and I always wondered...how would you not know they looked so goofy?

Meg said...

Thank you! I've often wondered the same exact thing.

I think my daughter is adorable, but then again I AM biased. But with her deep blue eyes and chubby cheeks, many people have said so as well. I really hope that I would realize if my child was ugly. Or at least not cute.

And I'm with you. I don't care to see your child every day. I don't know your child. Show some pictures on occasion that are really cute or to show how much she's grown. But I really don't care to see the daily update!

denise said...

Okay I gotta say it, if there gonna post'um then they ought to be spit coffee out your nose funny, like catching them feeding flour to the dog or flushing someones keys...or the cat...

coffeygirlb said...

Uh, no i'm right there with ya. Most of the time when people show me pics of their kids i'm all meh. but if they are really cute then....no, i'm pretty much still meh. Ok, SOMETIMES it's cute.

Va Va Voom said...

This reminds me of that Seinfeld episode where Kramer was the only one who had the guts to react naturally to a not so cute baby!

I've only had one kid and well, I thought he was cute! He still is :P

Like Undercover Angel, I wouldn't go posting pics of my kid on the internet, though.

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tAnYeTTa said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog. I'm sure you were hoarded by my 5 million photos of my 'cute' kid. Hee Hee....
Blame it on other people for the reason I think my kids are sooo cute.

I always get: he's so cute, i love his hair, he has he coolest outfits, and about my daughter: she's so cute, you look like sisters, and the list goes on and on. Sooooooo, I guess I'm guilty as charged! LOL

Virginia Belle said...

girl, you kill me.

your kid is cute.

this is your f-ing blog.

do what you want.

i will still love you and blake regardless. :)

and i'm not reading 57 comments.

spidey said...

When Jason and I have our ugly freak children, I will make sure not to show your their pics! lol

super des said...

I've often wondered this myself when seening an ugly baby.
1. I hope my kids won't be that ugly.
2. Will I even notice if they are?

But I don't want anyone to tell me if they are. I would just like to be sure that I can tell the difference between good & bad looking, even if I'm biased.

Tonya said...

I agree! I can see the imperfections in my children now, although I couldn't when they were younger. My oldest was born by C-section but still had a cone head from his head being jammed under my ribs. I NEVER saw it until we got his hospital pictures back. I couldn't believe the difference in what I saw and what he really looked like. Of course, it could have been the painkillers I was on at the time. :)

J's Mommy said...

You have so many comments, I wasn't going to leave another one but I was just talking about this the other day. I work at a gymnastics facility for kids and I teach one little girl who is just plain ugly. It sounds awful to say but it's true. Her mother, of course, acts like she is a total darling and that everything she does is WONDERFUL! Just thought I'd share.

Erin Monahan said...

So, I have a 15 year old son who (in my best condescending southern voice) "bless his heart" was not a cute baby. He was all ears and nose and skinny long legs and man... it was rough.

He's since grown into them, but mostly what makes him cute now is his personality. Don't get me wrong he isn't butt-ugly, but how can you not love the hell out of a kid who can laugh at his own imperfections? Now, the girls fall all over him. When he was a baby? Not so much.

Mama C-ta said...

It's me isn't it? ;) I know, I KNOW I post way too many photos of Cricket. But damn, he's cute. And uh, it's usally b/c I have nothing interesting to say. So either you get too many photos or lame posts. Actually, you get plenty of both.