Thursday, May 11, 2006

i guess it's time to start obsessing

all my non obsessing about the wedding has been THROWN in my face. i realized the other day that the photographer still hadn't cashed my deposit check. so i emailed her asking if she got it, etc. i came in to an email from her saying that no, she'd never received my check and is now booked on my wedding date. well isn't that lovely? so i cried a few tears and i do mean a few and then i took a deep breath and decided to be over it (over the pissed at how much of a stupid bitch she is, part). :)
so here i am, obsessing over finding a new photographer. a few are booked already. quite a few are ridiculously out of my price range. and there's this one guy. this guy who says that he comes for the whole weekend. THE WHOLE WEEKEND. is this really necessary? i mean honestly? do i really need a professional photographer taking pictures at my rehearsal dinner and shit? any dope with a camera can give me tons of pics of that, right? i guess my question is- would you have wanted someone there for the whole weekend? or was whatever package you got for your wedding photographer, just fine? hell, what did you do for your wedding and photographs? any regrets? any must have pics? do you even look at them now? HA! tell me ALL- thanks!!!!!!!!

31 comments:

Stephanie A. said...

I went low-key on the photos. Since I'm a photographer by hobby people were shocked. The thing is, I didn't need someone expensive who could do this and that with my photos. I wanted someone creative (because when you're in the white dress, creativity is low on the list) and someone dependable. I never put my pictures into an album. I look at them sometimes, but the memories in my head are far better. Oh, and I'm not a fan of the posed pictures, so I made her cut out over half of the usual "posed" pictures. We replaced them with a lot of great candids.

Some people, though, they really want the pictures to be perfect and they want that fantastic album. And that's fine. It just boils down to how you want to remember your day, is all.

So, to answer your question, I think I would have beat the shit out of anyone hanging out with me for an ENTIRE WEEKEND! That's too much pressure to always look pretty and be smiling when it can be so flipping stressful.

jen said...

We had a friend take them. I agree with Stephanie re: posed pics. I despise them. I like more random/candid shots which is what we achieved.
Ours were all digital...so we printed some out...but the rest are on CD's and we downloaded into the computer. It's cool cuz they randomly come up on the screen saver/slideshow thingie...

Melissa said...

Perhaps check out college seniors in the nearest univerity's photography department? Just call the chairperson or even the department secretary/assistant and ask about it.

They're insanely creative, so willing to get their work out there, not booked, and probably much less expensive.

Melissa said...

Girl, let him do it. I wish I had. I had idiots (Family and friends) take picture of the rehearsal and before the wedding and crap. I have a butt load of pictures of peoples fingers and shoes. Don't let drunks take pictures. That's my advice and I'm sticking to it. ;)

denise said...

I dont know about how professional you want to go, but, Ive been to three weddings where the couple set out disposable cameras on the tables at the reception for the guests to take pics of the wedding. It makes for an array of fab photos with all the differant photographic styles.

rhonda said...

I must admit I do go back to check out the photos from my wedding from time to time.

But at my sister's wedding, she had pro and lots of people took pics too.

What to do!!

DD said...

We had a combo: pro on the wedding day; and yes, I do pull out the pictures and still look at them and wish I was that young and pretty again...*sigh*

Weird story with our pro. The engagement pixs were awefull and it was too late to get someone for the wedding. He took AMAZING pictures at the wedding; some posed, some not.

The other 1/2 of the combo I mentioned above is that we had the disposables at the rehearsal and reception because it's a more informal occassion.

texas math said...

I actually like the college kid idea the most. It makes alot of sense...you'll be feeding a hungry mouth and won't have any attitude to put up with like you would from a professional.

The only downside is that you don't know how raw of a amateur you'll get.

Jenn said...

No need for the pro the whole weekend in my opinion. Disposables, or at least a friend who's a photographer by hobby is good enough. Worked for me. I hate getting my picture taken, but I looked pretty good (albiet pregnant) in my wedding pictures...which is AMAZING, for me.

My only issue with my pictures is that the freakin video guy was on the altar most of the time taking the video and ended up in most of the cerimony shots. Pissed us off! My parents are wedding florists/planners by trade so we got a deal on everything...as well as pictures...but it still cost a ton. But they were beautiful!

If you have any questions about planning the wedding you can ask....I've worked with my parents for years. I just don't like working weekends so I went corporate!

cj said...

I do have some advice - but take it as you wish. I've been married six going on seven years now... and I think I've only opened my wedding album a few times. I have no idea how much it all cost as my parents threw my wedding for me. In the entire book I think there are about 5-6 pictures I like. In my house I have few of our wedding pictures posted... 2. (I just checked.) They are nice pictures that I see when walking down the hall etc and I thinkn back and say "Ahh that was a fun day." The pictures that I see most and want to look at most are from the disposable cameras from the table. They are the best pictures that were taken and I love them the most.

One more wedding tip is to purchase dress and anything real important on credit card. The shop I bought my dress at went out of business and liquidated everything - including my dress about a month before I got married. Therefore I had to go and get a whole new dress... thankfully that was covered by the credit card's insurance company. :)

Christina_the_wench said...

I'll do it for a bottle of Jack and a carton of cigarettes.

I'm kidding! I totally agree with the ones saying don't spend a wad of dough on it. You only look at them every now and then. I was married to hubby one (known as asswipe)and opened the book 3 times in the 10 years we were married.

Beth said...

My dh takes pics for all the family weddings, so we took our own. Seriously. We would set up the shot, and tell someone to click, or we would time it. I love my pics. They only cost us film prices too! I'll scan and post some into my blog. If a family member takes decent pics, ask them!

Wendy said...

Considering how many screaming matches my husband and I got into the last couple of days before our wedding, I would have died of embarrassment if there had been a professional hanging around snapping pictures of our tantrums.

Nikki said...

Sorry Jenn, I can't help you here. I went to the JOP.

But I wish you the best of luck.

Mike said...

Don't worry about it. Jenn and I planned our wedding in three months.

spidey said...

My cousin is a photographer, so she did ours. I was super happy with them! I think it would be cool to have the photographer around all weekend, assuming it wasn't too pricey. I love looking at my wedding pics. They are always popping up on my computer screensaver, and they always make me smile. :)

Jodi said...

I have been married for 14 years. Yeah me! Anyway, I think I have looked at our wedding pics maybe 10 times in the 14 years. Seriously. A lady I worked with who messed with photography took our pics and they turned out just fine. I have a few of our wedding pics framed, but mostly I just remember the day in my memories. I think a good video is better than a ton of fake posed wedding pics, because then you can hear people's voices and see the "whole" them. Do you know what I mean? I would NOT go for the whole weekend thing, eegads. And I have been to a few weddings with the disposable cameras on the table and I think that's the best idea! the pics come out so cute and you can see what was going on all over the reception when you were busy chatting with Uncle Less and Aunt Bess. :)

Lisa said...

The best photo I got of the wedding didn't come from my photographer. It was shot by my DAD!

So yeah, the entire weekend this is overkill, in my opinion.

sweatpantsmom said...

First of all - CONGRATS ON YOUR MOTW!! You deserve it. And I loved your interview.

And regarding pictures, this is so embarrassing, but we never even finished ordering pictures from our photographer. All we have is our proof book. And for our wedding we received a beautiful, handmade album that our friends had engraved with our names and hauled back from Italy. It still sits on our shelf, empty. They give us a hard time about it whenever they come over.

And the framed wedding photo we have on our wall wasn't even taken by our official photographer. It was taken by our friend, a fashion photographer who had brought his camera and captured a completely candid moment right after our ceremony where my husband and I are goofing around in a garden.

(also, a suggestion: we put disposable cameras on all the tables for the guests to use. We got some of our favorite pics from those.)

jen said...

My sister had a friend whose husband is a photographer, so he took the professional photos as a wedding gift.

I like Melissa's idea about getting a photo major to take the photos!

what is MOTW? congrats on getting it though!!

Elizabeth said...

We used a highly recommended professional photographer.He took a terrific engagement photo of Chris and I. He did a bridal portrait where he got a local beauty salon to do my hair and makeup and then I put on my dress, veil and jewelry and he took some amazing photos of me, if I do say so myself. He shot our wedding rehearsal, the ceremony and the reception. It cost a bundle (thanks, bank of Mom and Dad!), but it was so worth it.

Alison said...

I would pass on the guy who wants to hang out with you all weekend. That would just be annoying. Go for someone good though, who can show you some of their previous work, because pictures are important. Your wedding is a one-time deal and there really are no "do-overs" when it comes to pictures, so you don't want someone who isn't experienced. We were happy with our wedding pictures, but I'm sure you remember the lady took FOREVER and we missed half the reception. Okay, I'm exaggerating, but she could have used an assistant. Don't stress---you have plenty of time and I'm sure there are lots of great photographers still out there. Hey, I bet Jimmy-O would come up to DJ at the reception. Haha!

Emily said...

So - I dunno if if I count because I just got married, well - not even a week ago, but my photographer was there for a little pre wedding stuff and then the wedding and then some post-wedding stuff, and that was enough for us. He got some great shots, and VERY few are posed. I hate those posed things. Barf. Plus, with teh non-posed stuff, I didnt' even know he was there. Seriously. There's this HYSTERICAL picture of me eating shrimp and I had NO idea he even took it. That made it easy, i think, to really capture the day. I met with a lot of photographers, and when he and I met, I just knew he was the one. We "fit". His style was what I wanted.

Is that ok advice? Email me with more questions. I always forget to read follow-up comments... I'm bad peeps.

Angry Dad said...

We got a friend to do our wedding photo's and they turned out fine. We haven't looked at them much since though, as Stephanie A says, the memories in your head are better. We also got video done, but again, very rarely does that get an outing - although I must say we both looked Fabulous, Darling! (The great thing about weddings are you're usually in the best shape of your life!)

Another approach I've seen is to put disposable cameras on the tables, and have people use them to take shots. When you get them developed you get the best damn collection of cock and ball, titty and arse hair pictures this side of the Net!

Mammawannabe said...

Take a minute and think about what you really want from your wedding. If all you want is candids, and a few really great shots of you and the wedding party - the average hobbyist and some cameras placed on each table will do the trick without costing you an arm and a leg :)

My best wedding photo's came from other people who had their own digital cameras :) We also had two strategically placed video cameras at the reception. While it didn't follow anyone around in particular, it did manage to capture my 10 year old cousin partaking of the champagne at the head table. He was drunker than a skunk, but no one realized it until two weeks later when we were watching the video...we were saying "THAT'S why he kept trying to break dance!"...

HTH :)

J. said...

Came over from CHBM .. congratulations on your Mom of the Week!

We had our wedding last year. The only great piece of advice I can give is to sit down and think of exactly what type of pics and of whom you want. I didn't do this, even though people told me to. I figured the photographer would know what he was doing, right? Wrong.
By biggest regret is that he took absolutely NONE of my daughter and I together. NONE. Major bummer.

Irreverent Antisocial Intellectual said...

Hey - camera suggestion! Find a good newspaper photog - they usually work freelance and are pretty good. And their pretty cheap - plus, you get those great candid/action/journalistic type pics as well as studio-like ones.
Good luck!

By the way, came here from CHBM - great site!

Mel said...

I had our friend, witness and best man take a couple pics - but that was about it. We also went a truly offbeat way and decided to run off with no guests and get married on the shore of a wild river.
It was perfect. And I think that weddings are easily the quickest way to drive yourself batshit - remember that it's YOUR wedding, and anything you do will be right. Period.

Vi said...

The whole weekend??????? Sounds like a bum who just wants a paid weekend holiday!!

BTW, hi life saver!!

Megaland said...

I wrote a really long freaking msg and my connection lapsed. WTF? Of all the times in the world...OH WELL. Anyhow, check out my friend. He was the photographer for our wedding. He does great candid shots and posed ones too. He is fairly reasonable as well and is willing to travel. Let him know I referred you and maybe he'll give you some kind of discount? He was one of my drinking buddies in college and has seriously become a successful photographer over the years. Check him out: http://www.mlpweddings.com/

Virginia Belle said...

that stupid bitch! i would have done more than cried.

um, can't give you advice about wedding stuff. never been married. am rapidly coming to the conclusion i never will get married if i keep dating the men i date.

dang it.