Monday, May 08, 2006

a bunch of seriously random shit

i so love the new death cab by cutie song (soul meets body- HI JIMMY!)... it's streaming right now on KROQ. i miss my LA radio stations more than it should ever be possible to miss freaking radio stations. i mean seriously. san francisco radio stations are fucking horrible (live 105 is about the only decent one). have i blogged about that fact enough since i've moved here?! they are truly painful to listen to. they should be embarassed by their level of suckiness. and then they should just stream the LA stations up here so i can be happy.

i rented and watched match point last night. supposedly everyone who has seen it said how awesome it was. apparently those people also do lethal amounts of crack. it's sad how shitty of an actress scarlett johansson is. if she acted half as good as she looked, she'd be brilliant. but she doesn't, so she's not.

is it wrong if boyfriend and i just start wearing our wedding rings like we're married already? cause i think that would be fun! it would be a big fat lie, but still fun! we're both kinda bummed that it's still over a year away. think i'll freak out enough when it gets closer to drop about 10 pounds? cause that would be even more fun!

we leave for new york in 2 weeks! YAY! i can't wait!

jimmy and boyfriend got extremely loaded this weekend, which was hilarious to be around! god i love those 2 guys. my life is really fun with them around. i think i'll keep em. both. i'm selfish that way. plus, they're both totally hot. the best part is that when some guy we ran into at blockbuster asks boyfriend who jimmy's new girlfriend is... boyfriend can tell him it's HIS fiance. translation= i whore around with jimmy. it's fun. plus he smells really good and then i can't stop sniffing at him.

apparently there's a bunch of stupid mom bullshit floating around in the blog world (again). all i know is that i'm tired of reading about it. i'm tired of everyone talking about it- you know, like i'm doing right now. my take on the whole "this type" of mom vs "that type" mom is this..... who the fuck cares?!?! it shouldn't be anyone's business what one mom chooses to do over another mom. how does their life or the way they choose to raise their kid, affect you any? if it doesn't affect your life personally, then shut the fuck up. do what's right for you and your family and leave those who do it differently alone. if you don't like that i work everyday and leave my kid in daycare, then come pay my fucking bills. and come watch my kid while i go to work because I LIKE TO WORK. got a problem with it? i.don't.care.

30 comments:

Nikki said...

TELL IT JENN!

I totally agree with you on the working mom thing.

People are just blown away when I tell them that I prefer to work. It just kills me.

"Diane, do you see that lady over there in the blue sweater"

"Yes I do Judy"

"She WORKS and puts her kids in daycare!"

"Nooooo"

"YES! And I can tell you that she said that even if she didn't have to work she would anyway because..she likes it!"

"Git outta here"

"No really, I was talking to her the other day and she said so. She's really rude too. When I asked her why she would do such a thing she said something about being her own person and feminisim. Go figure."

"Some people"

Melissa said...

You go girl. I am so with you. Course I have no idea what is going on in blog land, cause I don't read "popular blogs". And well cause I work. So there to whoever the hell 'they' are.

Yes, I think you can both wear your rings. And you can call him boyfriend or husband or sex god. Whatever you want. It's your relationship. Doesn't matter what any one else thinks but you two. And Blakey.

Kel said...

do what's right for you and your family and leave those who do it differently alone. if you don't like that i work everyday and leave my kid in daycare, then come pay my fucking bills. and come watch my kid while i go to work because I LIKE TO WORK. got a problem with it? i.don't.care.

Amen sista. I got that mommy war bs in my e-mail box today. Since I'm in full bitch mode anyway I hit the delete button while rolling my eyes.

Excuse me if I like to go to work. I may not love my job but I do love having my own time away from the boys. It helps keep me sane.

Stephanie A. said...

Fantastically said about the current blogland debates. Since it was such a hot topic I seriously thought I'd get hit with negative comments in my comments section when I announced I had to work FT. Instead, I'd say I received mostly support. Only one thing wasn't too supportive, but whatever.

Christina_the_wench said...

Put me in the "Working mom who has to get away from her kids or someone would die" column.

Blog wars... god, that is so 2006.

tracey said...

Mama likes working on the computer and there ain't no one gonna stop her! Except every once in a while a two-year-old who's jonesin' for a competitive game of 'Hig Ho! Cherry-O!'

tracey said...

Did I just type "Hig Ho" instead of Hi Ho? Woah.

Kevin Charnas said...

YEAH! WHAT JEN SAID!!! FUCK YEAH! anyone wanna mess with Jen? huh? huh? do ya? Yeah? you do? Then you're goin' DOWN!! yeah, that's right, we're bad...uh-huh...

Becky said...

you preach it girl. i hate it when people think they know better than me with hannah. STFU!

also, i saw matchpoint. it was slow til the last 30 mins. scarlotte sucked in it. i agree. i thought the ending made it somewhat worthwhile BUT yeah, not at all a great movie.

Beth said...

Well said about mommy shit! I mean, honestly, I don't think there is a SAHM out there who wouldn't secretly WANT to work, even if only occasionally. You gotta do, what you gotta (and wanta) do!

sweatpantsmom said...

Yay - someone else who realizes Scarlett Johansson can't act her way out of a box.

Lisa said...

You GO girl! (Oh God that's SO 90's!) Anyway.. A mom's gotta do what a mom's gotta do. That's how I feel too.

I have a few friends that say they would go crazy at home and prefer to work. What's wrong with working? If it makes you a happier mom, then go for it.

But on the other side, when I tell a working mom that I stay home, I often get a response that makes me cringe. They say, "Oh you stay home? I could NEVER do that." This translates to, "I could NEVER just sit around all day and do nothing. I want to make a REAL contribution to society."

I wish some women could just realize that we moms are all bascially the same. We all love and want the best for our kids. We all want our kids to be happy and healthy. But we just have different ways and means on how to mother...

Mommy off the Record said...

The mommy wars are STILL going on? Sheesh. I work PT and stay home PT. I think people should do whatever they feel like doing b/c only they know what's best for their family.

Eileen said...

Let me know if you have any questions about where to go in NYC.

Kristin said...

what am i missing here on the "mom-this" blog-o-sphere?

jenn, put that wedding band back in it's box!!

scarlett (& really, i LOVE that name) was good in "girl with the pearl earring) but as there was only like 3 pages of dialogue and like mostly "important" & "penetrating" stares, it's no wonder she pulled it off.

rhonda said...

I agree that the whole Mommy War thing is so so so stupid. Who cares? Be who you are.

I pretty much feel like this...take me or leave me, I am who I am, and that is okay with my family, so WHATEVER DUDE!

lol

Mom101 said...

Match Point = SUCKED. And I'm a pretentious Woody Allen loving, art film type. I liked it the first time he made it when it was called Crimes and Misdemeanors. But I guess he saw Closer and felt he needed to redo his own film only with British accents. Blech.

Jennifer said...

You. Go. Girl! Loved you on your soapbox about the mommy stuff; couldn't agree more! Do yo' thang and stop worryin' 'bout mine. Also, just wanted to give you a shout of thanks for your 'labor dust' last week at about this time. Had no idea how friggin' magical you were - your shit really works!!! Without you I'd still be carrying my seven pound bowling ball around.

Love to you...

Jodi said...

What Mommy war? What's going on? what's happening? I am SOOO confused. Somebody help me! I have to get a job this summer, I wanna know what all the mean Mommies are gonna say about me.

Thanks for the tip on "matchpoint". I ALMOST ordered it from NetFLix. WHEW. Dodged a bullet. Thanks for the public service. (heheheh)

melissa said...

Oh my god, what is this mommy war, and holy shit, am I in it?

I COMPLETELY agree with you on the working mommy thing too. We are all doing our best, and sometimes our best is to feed our souls through work and sometimes our best is to feed our souls through home.

I hate when people try to make us one-dimensional.

Meg said...

Aaaagh! Match Point was horrible! I couldn't even get through the whole thing because it sucked so bad!

By the way, I stopped by via CHBM!

Patti said...

CHBM sent me. Glad to be here.

As someone who does NOT like to work, I salute you! You do your thing, I do mine, and let's meet for drinks after and have a REAL conversation!

What Mommy Wars?

Elizabeth said...

Congratulations on MOTW at CrazyHipBlogMamas! Can't wait to read your interview. I like that they posted that quote about the ice cream. I'm the same way, I like the stuff in the ice cream more than the ice cream itself!

Hey, if you don't mind a little shameless self-promotion, I did a little post about this whole blogger-hating thing that's going around, and I posted a link to an Einstein thing you might like. Check it out!

Catherine said...

What Jodi said!

And hooray for your NY trip! And have I mentioned how much I love your attitude?!

Megaland said...

As a stay at home mom, I actually WORK. I spend hours and hours running a moms group and spend countless hours on our website and forum too. And get this, I don't get paid. I get a LOT of shit for that too, but you know what? Like everyone else, I do it because I love it. Sure it's stressful sometimes and sure it doesn't bring in any money, but it's what makes ME happy and sane. I get a lot of shit from "working" moms...

How come you don't work FOR money? I couldn't do that. I didn't go to college for nothin'.

Well hello? I spent $28K on a college degree I'm NOT using so fuck off. At least that's what I WANT to say.

It's a matter of choice. Noone's better than the other. We're not rich nor poor. We can afford to have me stay at home so I choose to stay at home. That's that. More power to the women who can go to work and still have enough energy to deal with the kids when they get home!

Yorksdevil said...

Maybe I'm focusing on the wrong bit but: When you go to NY, you've got to get yourself on the Late Show and then tell me via cyberspace as over here in England we get it a day behind so I'd have a chance to keep an eye out for you.

Jen` said...

I love reading blogland drama!! ( ooooooo tell me where) I agree with you 100%, I just can't handle it when there are "mom battles", because wow, we are all moms...........
yeah, i also enjoy working. My son enjoys daycare. We enjoy our life period.

I'm also totally agreeing with Christina the wench!
Excellent post!!

jen said...

oh, i forgot to mention there is an article in the new cosmo. "should i work when I have kids"

i bout flipped when i read it

Molly's Brother said...

There's a great op-ed piece that ran in today's LA Times about these ridiculous "mommy wars." When are we just going to start supporting people AS PEOPLE?

Sigh.

Virginia Belle said...

wearing your rings before the wedding? isn't that bad luck? i'm not normally superstitious, but that would make me uneasy. like i'd feel i was tempting fate or something.

since i have no children of my own, i judge no mom. except my own. everything is her fault. it's a healthy and mature way of dealing with your problems.

all i ask is that moms take their screaming babies elsewhere when they are screaming in public and obviously won't stop screaming anytime soon. some people get headaches from that. i'm just saying.

i'll probably change my view on this when i'm a mom.

but what if i have no children and i don't want to work? can i stay home with someone's kids instead and play martha stewart??? why aren't there any options for childless women??? our only option is work. not. fair.