Friday, April 28, 2006

loving your fellow bloggers

jodi touched on this a bit in her blog here, and i'm going to reach around, grab it, and touch it in places that are inappropriate.

it's a blog eat blog world folks and i'm here to say that the big dogs (most of them) suck. we're all just bloggers.. sharing whatever it is we choose to share about our lives, with perfect strangers. and we all long for acceptance, and friendship, and people who enjoy getting to know us, and reading our blogs and leaving comments for us. it's the INTERACTION. we all long for and love the interaction with others that our blogs give us. we aren't writing these just for us. that's a load of crap and whoever says that they are, is lying (just like the girls who try to tell you size doesn't matter.. LIARS). because you know damn well how good it feels to get a comment about something you wrote. to get advice, or have someone relate to it, or help someone, or make someone laugh, or just connect with someone over something written. it feels damn good. and that's the fucking best part about having a blog in my opinion. is the fact that i am not.talking.to.myself.

for me personally, i try to respond to every comment i get. if your email shows (which tons of yours don't dammit! fix that!!), i email you back. if i don't email, or comment back, i always visit the blog of someone who posted a comment to me- especially if they're new. and i let them know that i was there. because i think it's important that a visit doesn't go unappreciated or unnoticed. but then again, i don't have a hundred thousand people reading my blog everyday. and i guess if i had that many, i'd ignore y'all too. lol

i'm not sure what i'm trying to say here entirely. i guess what i'm wanting to know is, do you feel jaded when there's a particular blog that you visit and leave comments for often, only to have the blogger never respond? do you think that bloggers are obligated or should at least acknowledge your existance when you visit them? or is it more that you'd just like to be noticed? do you feel unappreciated? and if you do, does it stop you from reading? or do you not expect anything from anyone's blog you read? i'm curious.

75 comments:

Melissa said...

Hi. Found you off of Crazy Hip Blog Mamma. I once left a comment on a blog, she's not well known, or she might be I don't know, and went back the next day and it was erased. And I said I liked her painting. So I left another one just to see what would happen and the next day it was erased as well. So I guess I wasn't welcome or good enough for her blog. I've never been back. While I don't email everyone back, I do try to give a shout out in comments. I think it's nice.

I think you made some good points here.

maryjane said...

Great thoughts! I am fairly new to the blogger world, so I honestly didn't know for awhile that I was supposed to comment on my comments! I'm trying to improve in that department! :)

As far as why I write.... I think it differs from day to day. Sometimes I LOVE the idea of my blog and other days it seems too overwhelming....like I have to be creative when I don't feel like it! But I do agree with you and jodi and all the others out there who like the idea of having someone read your work and then leave a comment. It does feel good!

I still haven't figured out why it's so easy to talk to a million people I don't know! :)

Thanks

Yorksdevil said...

It's great receiveing comments, but then when I post lots of little things which don't, I wonder why they haven't captured people's interest in the same way (why does no-one want to play guess the dictator?). Some of my posts are pretty self-indulgent and I don't necessarily expect people to read them but they are there if people want to.
Over on 20six there are a couple of people whose blogs I comment on but there's a community over there that I'm not part of and so I don't comment on some other's even when I'd like to.

Angry Dad said...

Wow. Interesting post! I know when I started blogging it was as a means of passing family info on ostensibly to my family, who are all over the place.
But everything you mention about enjoying comments from people is true. Its self publishing with gratification when someone comments.
So, what happens if you get big. It doesn't take that much. Become recognised as a Blog of Note, and you might jump from 30-50 visits to 2000. What happens when you're getting 50-100 comments, or even more on personal e-mails?
With someone like you, who posts regularly, and are funny, imaginitive and popular, what will YOU do when you really take off?!

rhonda said...

I love comments too. And when I get one from a 'more popular' blogger, it's like the cool kid in high school asks for me to sit with her at lunch LOL

I love and live for comments, and some of the time I do email a reply too!

Mike said...

I do my best to respond back to people where a response is necessary. It's just common courtesy. If the comments are too many to respond to respond to everyone, people should understand that you can't repond to 7,293 posts.

Becky said...

i try to respond to every comment i get too. but i dont email them back. i just comment back in my blog. i totally agree

spidey said...

I always acknowledge both people that comment on my blog! LOL! I only read a few blogs, so I don't have to deal with that. I do think that would annoy me though...

Jenn said...

Truthfully, I used to just blog for myself. I didn't really know you all exsisted! I started it as a page to share pictures and experianced with Allie with my family. Then the first person commented that I didn't know and I was like WOW someone out there likes me, they REALLY like me!!! LOL

To your questions, YES...now that I'm all sortsa part of this clusterfuck we call blogland. If I'm comming to your site all the time and commenting and you never even agknoledge my comment or visit my blog (although I don't want people to be forced to read my blog, but at least agknowledge the comment) then I do stop reading.

Of course, I do still read Dooce, but yea, she couldn't possibly agknoledge us all!

Stephanie A. said...

I really do try to comment to everyone via email or in my comments. And it does feel a little one-sided when someone who receives little to moderate comments cannot even take the time to say, "Hey, thanks for reading!" It's annoying and eventually, I stop commenting and then stop visiting. And if they really iritate me, I'll just remove their link from my site, too.

Maybe commenting while cranky is not a good idea???

russ said...

we're all just bloggers
made.me.chuckle

DD said...

If someone new leaves a comment on my blog, I add them to my bloglines. That's how you ended up there. You offered your support to a stranger and I now watch you. No, I don't comment all the time as I've been a little...distracted.

And yes, there's nothing more confusing than someone asking you a question via a comment and posting w/o an email address. If it's really something I want to address, I will add a comment, but that's no guarantee as I rarely go to someone's prior post and read final comments.

Susie said...

Ok, so I don't blog. I just visit sometimes to see what my crazier than me lunatic of a sister is up to! I know 5'7" without heels blah blah blah! Let's see if you really respond to my comment. Just wanted to say hello to you and allyour adoring fans!

Cheeky said...

Oh I really do heart comments!! Lurkers just bug me - even if someone isn't a regular visitor its nice to know someone stopped by.

Angry Dad said I should visit your blog - and so I have! Great job!

jennster said...

my sister is a whore. there i responded. HAHAHAHA

Stephanie said...

Yeah, I think it is nice to acknowledge if a fellow blogger has visited your site. Now that I said that, I hope I have left an acknowledging comment here, since you have commented on mine. Uh oh!

jen said...

I blog as a memoir type of thing. I like looking back on archives to see where i've been in my life.
comments are good, it's nice to know that someone took the time to drop a line.
I think I found your blog by searching for single mom. i like to read blogs by people I have at least something in common with, besides i'm interested in other people's lives sorta like the press is with celebrities.
I always comment back when people leave one for me. I rarely respond in my comments.....but i've pondered the thought. will people really check back to see what i've replied with?

Piece of Work said...

I love getting comments, and comments from "new" people are even more exciting. Whenever someone comments on my blog, i add them to my bloglines, and I try to get right over to their blog to comment. If I'm not inspired to comment by their post, I'll email them a thank you. And I try to always go back and check out what they're doing.
I like being reciprical, too.

MrsFortune said...

Yes, I totally hate it when I visit people's blogs and they never acknowledge me in any way in return. Hate. That. I usually stop visiting, and yeah that's probably shallow but like you said, it's about interaction and if we can't connect, well then ...

Kind of like Rick said, I don't understand why some subjects provoke tons of comments and some provoke hardly any. ? I'm clueless.

But for me it's all about the interaction, too. If I wanted to talk to myself I'd write it all down in a journal and hide it in my underwear drawer. :-)

Mel said...

I agree - with reservations.
I think that I do my very best to acknowledge any person who takes the time to stop by and comment on my blog - and as soon as I learned that it was "good form" to return the favor and visit a new commenter's blog, I began doing so.
BUT.
Sometimes, the comments are just "pass the time of day" type things, so I'll let them ride.
I do a lot of my posting from the office on my breaks, so I don't have a whole hell of a lot of time to spend returning the favor. And I'm on dial-up at home, so that's a pain in my ass, too.
So, like I said, I do my best. But if I forget or can't get there for a few days, I hope I'm not perceived as a snotty bitch.

Melissa said...

Here, here. All hail Jennster, cause she rocks.

I am a comment whore, but I do try to write back to everyone. And when someone leaves me a comment, I visit their site. And most of the time I add them to my bloglines. I love blogging.

But Jennster as much as I love you, I will not join blogger for you. But, you have my email anyways. ;)

Mommy off the Record said...

This is an interesting topic! Looking forward to reading the other comments.

If someone posts a comment on my blog, I try to leave a comment on their blog each time, but at the same time I don't have 1000 people to visit me every day (i wish!). I think it's nice when people who take time to visit you, get a visit back.

Carrcakes said...

It bothers me if I leave repeated comments but if I leave just one I'm not really phased. Hectic doesn't even accurately illustrate how crazy a lot of our lives are. I just assume that some people are too busy to reply to everyone.

In my own blog, I do try to respond by visiting the commenters blog and returning the favor. It's a great way to pick up new friends.

texas math said...

For a good while I wasn't very regular with my blog, but to be honest...the fact that I know that people actually do read my blog makes me want to post more.

Also, I have a counter on my blog so if people don't comment I know that at least my page was being looked at. But I do think that comments just add to the character of a particular blog post. So I encourage people to comment on my blog as I in turn comment on the blogs that I read on a regular basis.

Jodi said...

ME, blushing, thanks for linking me to this post. :) I WISH I knew how to do that. I am such a dork when it comes to this kind of stuff....anyway, thanks! You made GOOD points and the exact same ones I was attempting to make on my post. :) I got a few new vistors and I am going to make a point to visit their blogs as soon as I get a second. Thankya Thankya.

Beth said...

Comments make me feel special. I try too to respond. Sometimes in my head is like 'ya, totally!' and I feel dumb writting it.

Erin said...

Great post. I wish more people would comment when they visit. I always try to reply to every comment on my blog, and it makes me incredibly happy when someone else does the same. Thanks!

Kel said...

I try to comment back to those that leave me comments. Sometimes though it's hard to tell what's just a statement, and what I need to respond back to.

Or maybe not...it might just be the allergy meds I'm on screwing with my brain. LOL

I do visit those who leave comments on my blog and have found many wonderful blogs that way.

Michael said...

I'm of two minds on this... a lot of the writing I do in my blog *is* for myself, to get it out of my head and sort through it so I can take action. But, I do like the interaction with other people. It's always interesting to me to see how people came to stumble over my blog. Sometimes it's the oddest connections you can imagine. And I like that!

Jade said...

Hey! Wow. I am so glad that you stopped by my pad and took the time to comment. This is a wonderful post, because as I have wondered, and I am sure many others do as well, these same things. I, personally, try to comment to commentors within my comments section. I tried emailing the commenters, but I think some didn't like that so much because our inboxes are so full all of the time as it is, that it made them feel as though they needed to then respond to my emailed comment on their comment. I know I feel that way about emailed responses to comments. There are a handful of blogs that I read and comment on that I receive no responce back from on a regular basis, but these are people I'm friends with anyhow and I dont' expect it. I love it when I've visited a new site and commented and heard back from them, somehow. You're right. Acknowledgement, no matter how small, goes a long way with me and I've found a great deal of wonderful blogs due to the simple fact that they responded to a comment I'd left in one way or another. That is a blog I will return to. If I get no kind of response, chances are I'll forget you ever existed and go on with my selfish life as always. No loss, but more importantly, no gain either. I think when people comment, they are looking for acknowledgement as well as a blogger is. Otherwise, you feel as though you are having a one sided conversation, and I'm sorry, I get that enough through marriage ;-) I don't want it when I am trying to communicate with someone else! lmao

Thanks again for stopping by, but most importantly, leaving me a note to let me know you were there. I don't pay attention to my stats, so this is the only way I know folks have been by! Stop by sometime later and I will have responded to you within my comments as well! I am definitely adding you to my daily reads!

tracey said...

I love to get a comment from someone I give a comment to. It's a great validation and let's face it, whether we admit it or not, we all need validation sometimes. I don't expect an email from them but that's a really nice touch! Motherhood Uncensored did that for me and I've been faitful ever since. A few of the blog celebs have never acknowledged me and some have repeatedly not posted my comments. It just kinda feels like Jr. High when I was trying to impress the popular girls to no avail. It's not a great feeling but I guess, I don't comment to get a response...but I'll admit, the interaction is what makes blogging as fun as it is. What goods a rant if there's no one to read and respond?
And jennster, "lovely" is one of my favorite words so I take your comment to me as a huge compliment! Thank you!

Lindsay said...

I try to respond to comments but it always depends. What gets me angry is when people leave anonoymous mean comments. You need to stand up for what you are saying.

penguininthesun said...

Comments are great... they make me feel loved, haha. I usually don't expect them so when you first found me it was like bliss, jk :)

reluctant housewife said...

I confess! I'm TERRIBLE at replying to comments, emails, phone calls, visits! I am!

I do love getting comments, and I love leaving comments. But since I'm so bad at replying, I never expect a response. But it's really cool when I get one.

Undercover Angel said...

I'm here because Jennster left a comment on my blog today, and I'm came to her blog to reciprocate. Finding this post was awesome - because it's so true. There are so many people that don't reciprocate comments.

I put everyone who comments on my blog into BlogLines so I can read them daily, and keep up with them.

Everyday, I visit 25-30 blogs (in addition to the blogs on my BlogLines) on my breaks from work and leave comments. I post everyday on my own blog. That means theoretically all of my posts should have 25-30 comments. My average is 8. That means that 17-22 people are not acknowledging my comments each day.

If someone asks me a question, I usually try to email them with the response. If I can't find an email address on either their blog or the profile, sometimes I will post my response in with the comments on the post they commented on in my blog - I don't like to do that though. I prefer to email.

I visited Jody's blog and left her a comment.

LittleOrangeFox said...

Amen Sister! I know the feelings!

^_^

~Lof

Kristin said...

Are we naming names? Cuz I can name a couple!!!

Mega Mom said...

Boy you have a lot of work now!!!

I used to want all the comments I could get. Then my blogging frequency slowed dramatically b/c I realized I just needed to do it for me and it was too much work to try to visit too many.

Now I'm in a nice comfort zone. I don't visit too many blogs and I don't get too many comments. I have a few old faithfuls and they make me very happy. I love to see comments from new people and I always try to visit back.

I usually don't leave comments when there are over 30 or so b/c I think it gets lost in the shuffle, but tonight I'm #38 :))) And yes, I can't for the life of me understand why (when I leave MANY comments on someone's blog who only gets 5 or so comments) some people don't ever repay the comment.

Elizabeth said...

This is a great topic for discussion. I love getting comments, and when someone new comments for the first time (like when you did!) I usually will comment in the comments and say thanks. And then I go to that person's blog and if they have a recent post I'll comment and say something like "thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving a comment". As for who I add to my blogroll, I wait until there has been some give-and-take as far as the person has commented more than once, or responded to an email.

If someone leaves me a comment that is particularly kind, or asks a question, I copy-and-paste their comment and reply to them in an email. Or sometimes, if I write a particularly successful post and get a lot of comments, I'll do an open comment that lists each person's name and a little personal message. Like:

Jenn-thanks, I think so to!
Dawn-yeah, yeah bite me!
Mrs.Fortune-had that baby yet?
etc.

If you don't mind my making this comment even longer, I sometimes feel the urge to leave comments for the big A-list bloggers, like Dooce and Amalah, but I never EVER have EVER had a reply from one of them.Except for Jen, from Jenandtonic, and she said something really sweet and I felt so flattered.

Sheila said...

Well it was lovely to hear from you Jennster. You seem like a very thougtful blogger - Good On You!

Allie said...

truth be told im a lazy person.. but now that i see more people reading i'll be nice and comment back

Jill said...

I don't get a lot of comments so when someone finally does, I feel as though I've made it to the big time or something. I try to comment on any blog that I stop at and actually read in depth. On that note....thanks for stopping by my blog and commenting!

KristieD said...

i personally try to visit and comment on all the people who come to visit my tiny corner of the web. And i agree with you: we dont just write for ourselves, altho that may be the primary reason for some, it feels AWESOME to get comments. I love comments. Especially when someone tells me I'm gorgeous, so thank you girl, you brightened up my day!!

Luka said...

If i don't respond via email, I typically will respond within the comment on the blog. I LOVE comments! :-)

Stephanie said...

This happens to be related. I came to visit and thank you for commenting on my blog!

I just posted about this a couple of days ago. We totally do it for the interaction and for the validation!!

No one leaves their e-mail address on my posts either, so I don't usually get to respond to comments. I always comment on my daily's blogs and I always visit new commentors.

I am sooooooooo sick of visiting some of my LINKED blogroll when they leave a new post, commenting almost everytime, and not recieving one comment or visit back. I am soooo sick of being ignored when I am making an effort. I just give up and delete them off my blogroll.

Avitable said...

You make some good points, but many people blog only for themselves, don't care about comments, and as a result, they also don't comment on someone else's blogs.

Sometimes it can also feel strange jumping into someone's blog and commenting on their thoughts and fears and concerns when you don't really know them.

point45 said...

am i a sinner?

Kevin Charnas said...

Actually, I couldn't agree more. As much as I would like to be idealistic and think that I'm writing for me, I'm not - so, I need to cut the bullshit. Sure, it's great to be able to write and get it out of my head, but to think that someone else is reading it and enjoying it in someway? That's awesome. It feels great and somehow connects me to the person and then it doesn't seem so lonely. By the way, thanks for the compliments on the George W obit. I'm thrilled that you liked it and thanks for leaving a trail back to you. I love your work!

Dave said...

I usually only comment when I have something more to say than "I agree" or "good post", so it is nice when the person responds to it.

For my own blog, some posts (like the stalker scenario you commented on and thank you) I write specifially to affect people, so comments are gratifying. Other times, I'm just venting or babbling, so comments don't mean so much.

Suburban Turmoil said...

Oh, you touched on something that I freak out about on a daily basis.
When I started blogging, I always visited everyone who commented. I made a lot of blog friends and tried my best to visit their blogs every few days.
Now, I get a lot more comments. I LOVE getting comments, of course. But it's almost impossible for me to respond to everyone and visit all of their blogs, in addition to the blogs of my friends. I think I've pissed some people off without meaning to, simply because I was incredibly busy and couldn't get around to their blog in time to please them.
You should know what I mean, with 49 comments on this post! It is so difficult to visit 49 blogs or write 49 e-mails in one day- and have a life!

Lisa said...

I've stopped reading some of the bigger blogs I used to read. I didn't expect for a person to answer every e-mail or comment, but a visit every now and again is nice from them especially when your blog is new and you check ever 5 minutes to see if someone has commented. heehee. Ok I STILL do that.

If someone new leaves a comment on my site, I try to visit theirs and leave comments at least on a few posts at least 2-3 times....

I don't know what the proper thing to do is...

coffeygirlb said...

Hey Jen. I love you. That is the most honest post. It's so true. Just like this little saying I used to hear when I was little and love to still use. "everyone has an imaginary sign on their forehead that says "make me feel special" It's so true.

jane said...

Hi Jenn! This is a great post & it's all about blogging etiquette. I always try to visit blogs that have visited mine & hopefully we'll click & become blog buddies. Being that I'm 47 though, I suffer from CRS & usually forget all the new blogs I visit, so I'm not let down if I don't get visited, lol. (just cuz i don't remember!)
I think there is, or should be, a protocol for blogging & comments. You're right, it does feel good to have someone relate to a post, especially when it's about something troubling. And on that note, I want to thank you for leaving such a nice comment about Tarzan getting better. It meant a lot to me.

Domestic Chicky said...

Isn't it interesting how an etiquette really has sprung up in the blogosphere, without it being written, or even spoken about...

SugarMama said...

I have many people that are frequent lurkers but the fact that they visit often (whether they are a fan or troll) is good enough fuel for me to give a little more. Of course I love it when I get comments, but any form of validation is nice. I know a few of my girlfriends had mentioned how they read mine daily, but they are one of those that never leave comments.

BTW - thank you for coming to my blog :-). I have enjoyed reading in yours and will be visiting often.

Random Musings Of My Life said...

I LOVE COMMENTS.
Sometimes someone just says the right thing that you already knew but it sounded better hearing it from someone else?
Its strange to have it all out there. I am a secret lurker sometimes though too.
For instance, I read your blog but I rarely comment. Its not that I do not want to its just until I see something that I can whole heart give my 100%, I like to lurk too. Its nice to sneak a peak into others lives.
I also sometimes find some things I read really disturbing and I am not sure if I want to "know" some of these people.
Does that make sense?
I like your blog. Your a cool "gal"

Izzy said...

(just like the girls who try to tell you size doesn't matter.. LIARS)

ahahahahha...LOVE IT! Funny as shit!

But to answer your questions...I do think it's nice to acknowledge your commenters with a reply, email or a visit. Maybe you can't do it every single time but at least sometimes. I do get tired of posting somewhere and never having any interaction with the writer of the blog and I usually bail. One way communication is BORING. I do read some blogs and never comment (the really big ones) so of course, there will be no interaction and that's fine.

TheHamburger said...

Yep, commenting on the blog is easiest...

Noi said...

I share your sentiments. Letting people know of your presence in their blog is also basic courtesy. I do what you do sometimes unless I find the content too boring to comment on..but then again, I feel like a total lurker when I dont comment. Haha;)

cmhl said...

hmmmmm. I don't always respond to comments, and I suppose that might be considered rude. I love GETTING comments, I just don't always respond.

I have gone through phases where I am feeling overwhelmed, and completely turn off the comments.. just so people won't think I'm not responding! occasionally, I repond to comments IN the comment section..

I have found that sometimes if you respond, people expect you to enter into an "email relationship" with them, and it turns out to be more of a problem than one might think..

One blogger i love said that people reading his blog every day and not leaving a comment is like people tromping through your living room and know saying anything. I thought that was an interesting take on it..

cj said...

I think your very right - we blog for reasons other than just ourselves and the communication and feedback is very important. Its nice to know i'm not the only one who checks their comments. :)

Heather said...

I have commented on a couple of the "popular" bloggers, and never get any type of acknowledgement. I do think it is rude. I think after a while it goes to their head and they dont realize that the reason they are so "popular" are from the daily and faithful readers. I blog for my own satisfaction, and could care less what others think, but I still think that is what comments are there for. Its just a nice way to say hey, I was here and took the time to read your post! Hence the reason I am leaving one on yours today! :)

ozma said...

I expect nothing. I give nothing.

The way I look at the whole internet writing scene is that there are these people who put a little bit of time into their communication with the world at large (sometimes a very little bit), put some ideas on the table, asserted their consciousness into the electronic ether. After that, I sort of think they might like me to say 'Hey. Idea received.' So I comment if I read it.

Occasionally, I try to say something back that is witty just like I do in conversation (I fail miserably in both contexts for the most part) but I see it as their game when I am responding to what they wrote. There's a bit of a conversational aspect there but I don't expect intense engagement.

There is this other thing where you get to send out a little bit of love on the internet and that part might be important to me. (I haven't thought about it deeply.) So someone I don't know who is trying to write things and maybe they are not a superstar but I read what they wrote and had a little twinge of recognition at our shared humanity and then I sort of commit to continuing to read their site, or link to them or what have you. A sort of 'Hello, stranger. Be my brother.' It's a hippie moment we never get to do in the 3D world. I have to admit that's probably a big part of the draw of the internet: Sending out the semi-anonymous good vibes. That, and the fact I have no friends in real life. And when I meet a stranger face to face, they are SO much harder to love.

(I should mention that I've had someone be insulted by something I said, purely because they misinterpreted what I meant--I am never intentionally mean--so I am well aware there is lots of unlove out there too.)

Toots said...

Hi Sterling. I read your blog. Now please respond to every comment in this post!

Kelley said...

Nice. I agree wholeheartedly. If we aren't all just a bunch of comment whores, then what are we? :)

LOL

New York City's Watchdog said...

Very interesting post... although to be honest I do tend to think I talk to myself alot... but hey... who knows right???

Battlerocker said...

Good post. I hate readers who remain silent forever and hate even more those bloggers who will delete comments for not being 'good enough.' A reader need not comment every time, nor a blogger respond, but some interaction is necessary. Otherwise a blog is merely an essay, and usually a poor one.

Jimboliah said...

you suck... :P Happy Monday
p.s. lub ya baby ^^ see ya tonite

Nikki said...

I try to respond to all my comments, though I have found where I have missed a couple, which just kills be because it's not like I have a big following or anything.

I depends on the blog and the tone of it if I will keep returning even if they don't reply to my comment. I won't automatically put you on my side-bar. I want to like your blog before I put it there. I'll read the blog, if I like it, I link to it.

But the comments do feel so good.

ed bacchus said...

Saw you on BOTB. Well put and agree. I should make more of a conscious effort to respond to every comment in some form or fashion...thanks for the reminder.

Catherine said...

Jenn, you are my hero!! How do you do it?! You make so many people out there feel special by visiting/commenting/responding so regularly and sincerely. And you're funny, to boot! So I guess what I'm saying is: Thanks. :)

Michelle said...

Ok, I am not going to read through the 71 comments before mine to find out if someone has already said this, but I definitely think that if a person comments on your blog, you should at least visit theirs and find something to comment about. Even if that means scrolling down to an older post.

I try to do that, but I am sure I am not perfect. It isn't like I have ever had 71 comments on my posts, so I think if you can't get to everyone, you are probably still doing more than most.

Keep it up!

lildb said...

I really like this post. It's something I've been thinking about disseminating on my blog, only I could not have said it as well as you have done. Can I add just one little thought? So, okay, you commented on someone's post, and then they came around to your blog and returned the favor, so... now what?? Is that it? Are you expected to return to their site and comment anew? It's not that it's that difficult to do, but it's a matter of -- how many times does the comment/comment-back thing need to be reciprocated in order to satisfy the blogger-gods?

Color me stumped, Miss Jennster. (shrugs awkwardly)

Virginia Belle said...

um, holy shit due. this is comment #74. at this point, do you even care what i have to say???

i try to keep up w/blogs i read and people who leave comments on mine. i try and add them to my blogroll and visit them regularly. but i'm never perfect at it, so i feel guilty. then i remember that the blogosphere is full of lots of nice people like you, jennster, who are really cool and aren't going to be mean to me just because i can't spend every waking minute of my life reading and commenting. i do my best to reply to the comments left on my blog.

i write my blog for lots of the same reasons you write yours. i want to know i'm not crazy. i want unbiased opinions. i like meeting people, even if it is virtual. i need an outlet to vent sometimes. i enjoy sharing the crazy stuff that happens to me. i type faster than i write, so it also serves as a journal for me. also, i have a hard time being selfish, and my blog allows me to practice being selfish--i have one thing in my life that is all about ME. i can do whatever i want with it and no one can stop me! ha ha ha! (that was evil laughter, btw.)

and while it does feel nice to know someone out there reads my stuff, and waits on pins and needles for more (um, i think you and lady starfish are the only ones), i would still write if no one read it. i need a place to write my thoughts. but i have to say, it's a million times "funner" to have a studio audience. :)

like rick28 says, the stuff that resonates with people never makes sense to me. and like him, i write stuff that is pretty self-indulgent and really don't expect people to be all that interested in it. unless they are my long lost twin. they should want to read it all.

but i'm not in this for some kind of popularity contest, if that's what you are asking. i wouldn't know if a popular blogger left a comment on my blog. i am still in the dark as to who the "popular" ones are. kinda like how i felt in high school. huh, some things never change.

i don't mind lurkers. i don't get how they have nothing to say, but they don't bother me.

i have tried to reply to comments via email, but it doesn't always work. now i just reply to comments myself, as the last comment. if they really want their reply, they know where to go.

crap. i know there are some people hwo have left comments on mine and i have yet to visit their blogs. DANG. yet another guilt trip for me. i gotta go kiss some butts, jennster. i'll be back.

i tried to read all 73. i tried. but i just can't. go. on.

Anonymous said...

I love your expert use of punctuation and literary devices, what a compelling read.