Friday, April 07, 2006

i love this kid


my little dodger
Originally uploaded by
jennnster.

i think i have the sweetest, most kind hearted kid out there. yesterday at school, some kid (who will be referred to as dumbass from now on) asked another kid (who will be referred to as asshole) for a cookie. asshole told dumbass that he'd give him the cookie, if he punched blake. so dumbass went to hit him. blake dodged and dumbass missed. once blake started walking back to his food however, dumbass punched him in the chest.
blake started crying and when i got home last night, he told me this story.
boyfriend and i talked to him about how it's okay to defend yourself. how if someone hits you (like dumbass did), you have every right to hit them back. and you know what my kid says to us?

"well i didn't want to hurt him. he doesn't speak english very well and i didn't want to make him cry like i was."

and i hate this bullshit so much because A- i don't want my kid getting punched for a fucking cookie (at least punch him for $100 bucks or some serious 2nd grade cash) . and B- i don't want there to be any kind of backlash against blake for telling me what happened. because i called the principal and informed her of the incident and she is going to take care of asshole tomorrow. if asshole is mean to blake, or does any kind of retalliation crap to him, i swear to the goddess i'm going to lose it. is it wrong to kick a 2nd graders ass? maybe i should just beat up asshole's parents. i'm such a good example. but seriously, who raises their kid this way? if you raise your kid(s) this way, you suck. BIG TIME. and you should be beat down with a very large, and hard, stick. numerous times. until you cry. i wonder if asshole's parents even know he's like that. i would be shocked if i found out blake said something like that. but i would also want to know about it. i wish i knew asshole's parents so i could tell them. or hit them. and then take their cookies.

ps- i almost pissed on my chair when i read sweatpantsmoms comment about yearbooks. not only is ronnie now writing hallmark cards thank you very much, he's their fucking president.

pss- i love everyone's comments so incredibly much. so thank you to everyone who takes the time to comment and make me laugh, smile, cry, wince, whatever. and to all of you who don't comment, but still read my blog- thank you for that too. it makes having this blog all worth while (that and the fact that my grandpa reads it everyday. sorry i cuss so much gramps. love you.)

24 comments:

Jen said...

No, it is not wrong to want to lash out! You know you have raised your son right by his awesome reaction to the whole situation. The fact that he stayed calm and didn't lash back out is amazing.

I hope the principal or someone sets dumbass and asshole straight. If not, I bet your son doesn't let him get away with it again.

Jess said...

I stumbled across your blog and I must say, it's great. I had similar problems with my son... he's now homeschooled. I understand how you feel completely. You should kick the little punks ass! And then do it again just for the hell of it.

jennster said...

jen- his response to me broke my heart and i just wanted to hug him because he is so kind hearted. i hope dumbass gets in trouble. i hate this school- they constantly piss me off.

jess- glad you found me! i will kick his ass. for fun. and then i'll kick all his friends' asses too!

Toots said...

awww...poor bonk!!!! and what a sweetheart for not wanting to make dumbass cry! (even though that would have made a better ending)

Yorksdevil said...

Who deserves the bigger beating? Asshole for orchestrating the whole punching incident or dumbass for carrying out the violence and being so cheap.

Mammawannabe said...

My daugher "fake-punched" (her words not mine) a boy near his stomach. He got mad and shoved her down a flight of stairs. Uhhh...yeah. She's 7. I wanted to know what went on in his home that would make him think it was okay to shove ANYONE, never mind a GIRL down the stairs.

I got absolutely nowhere with the school. In fact, they wanted to suspend my daughter as well as the little boy!! I know she "started" it, but really, she didn't actually connect with his stomach. Needless to say, neither one of them got suspended, but they both got written up for it (READ: it's in HER permanent record that she was in a fight!).

My hubby wanted to kick that kid's ass, but I wouldn't let him. I figure walking by him and his mother and shooting them my look of death gets the message across too, though not as painfully as I would hope.

I understand how you feel, this happened to my daughter months ago, and I'm still not over it. I wish I had stood up more for her than I did - I think you did the right thing. Know that you're doing an awesome job raising your son - he's completely sweet and has such a huge heart!!! He didn't get that way by accident :)

By the way, maybe we should form a "mom posse" of sorts. We could wander neighborhoods protecting the innocent children from bullies - vigilante style....LOL!

(Sorry for the long-ass comment)

Stephanie A. said...

Oh, Jenn, you must be so proud of Blake. He really handled that well and the fact that he showed compassion even though he got hurt speaks volumes about the kid. THAT is what we need more of- kids/people who can assess the situation and act accordingly. Instead, we have too many bullies and tagalongs.

Beth said...

Aw! I hope the little lump in my belly grows up to be a sweet as your son! I hate kids like asshole and dumbass. Makes me nervouse to send my kids to school. Only like 2 1/2 years for my girl! yikes!

Becky said...

awwww jenn! you raise your boy right. that is the sweetest thing to say after a kid punched him cuz lord knows i woulda punched the kid back. i dunno wtf is wrong with parents these days. i was never raised like that and i'd never raise my kids that way!

Kristin said...

These are the type of situations that makes me want to burn down houses... seriously, whenever someone is a shit to my kids, I think,"I will burn down their house." Lucky that I am afraid of fire.

Sigh.

Why are people raising suck fuckheads?

Your boy sounds like a treasure & you've obviously done a great job raising him to be compassionate and confident.

Don't burn down any houses.

Jenn said...

I remember when my brother was little (I'm almost 9 years older than him) and people used to mess with him, I would feel the same way. I'd wanna go kick their asses. But I was too old to do it. So instead I got my friend's little brother (Who was a big scary metal head lookin kid with long red hair) go up to him and say in a really deep voice (without touching them) If you fuck with Joey again, I'll kick your ass!!

So you just need to find a kid (lightly older, and a little scary lookin) to threaten him!!

*shrug* That's what I would do!!

russ said...

Looks like he has a strange ipod-esque talisman for a necklace...

Anne said...

What a sweet kid..(cute too!)

I hate mean kids..and there is no way that the parents dont know. If he is hitting people at school then he hits his siblings or the neighbor kids..thats just not cool

traykerrrrrrrr said...

that pisses me off about asshole and dumbass......and Blake is the sweetest kid ever for saying he didn't want to hit back, I hope he kicks both of their asses and teaches them a less. farkin bullies, i hate em and I'd kick my future kids ASS if he were like that.

your blog is awesome, makes me laugh....bachelor party for point in vegas=my friends bringing nasty strippers to cali for the weekend. remind him of my pics....even though they looked worse than what really went on...tell him to picture those while a dirty whore is nearby. I think maybe he might think twice about allowing boobies near him. ;) and hmmmmm what else was here? nuttin I didn't say on the message boards...I love ya, but I'm not feeling the love back. I totally put more into our relationship than you do.

jennster said...

mammawanna- that downright pisses me off. blake knows that if a girl is a bully, he can be mean to her. (there are some downright mean bitches out there).. but otherwise, he is not to hit a girl. he is the one who is defending them. in 1st grade he told some kid who was being mean to the girls in his class, "if you wanna get to them, you have to get through me first." I LOVE HIM! lol

beth- that was such a sweet thing to say. thank you.

kristin- your comment made me fucking spit! burn houses down? LMFAO!!! remind me not to piss you off.

ginger incognito said...

that's horrible! When my best friend's son was in second grade, another, more popular kid in his class used to pull crap like that. This kid, we'll call him Butthole, used to order the boys who wanted to be his friend around. One day, I rode with Muriel to pick up her son from school, and he tells us he doesn't feel so well. Why? Butthole told him to "drop and give me 20" push-ups, so he did. And then Butthole claimed he lost count, so he made the boy do it again. "Why did you do it?" Muriel asked. "So he'd be my friend" was the reply. Never before had I wanted to smack a child into next week. If Butthole had been in the car with us, I probably would have left him on the sidewalk in some random neighborhood. [I'd leave him with a cell phone and his mom's number, too. I'm not THAT mean.]

Melissa said...

I think it's probably not ok to beat down a 2nd grader, but definetly to do it to his parents. I can't stand that crap either. And I would totally do what you did. My brothers never got in trouble for fighting if they were defending themselves or others. Blake sounds so sweet though. My next kid is so going to be a boy like Blakey.

Lisa said...

Ok. I want to kick both of those boys' asses when you are finished. And I think you and I should find out where these boys' parents live and put HUGE flaming bags of shit on their porches. SO when they come outside and see something on their porch that's on fire, they do some stomping and shit sprays all over the place!

(MY brother was quite talented at making/delivering these things in high school. I could give him a call....)

You are doing a good job mom. And your son is precious. I'm sending him tons of hugs. And you too.

jen said...

Do ya need back up? Cuz I will help you kick that mean second graders asssss sista!!! ;)
Blake rocks. You should be VERY proud...

Jimboliah said...

i love 2 laugh at your funny posts... i try 2 imagine what id say once a day let alone sometimes 2-3.... but thats 2 funny :P go beat his parents ass... lmao!!!!! woot tonite's gunna be fun >< 2 bad i cant get Chicken Pesto Garlic... ill smell for days... i mean it :P hahahah ROoR keep up 2 good work w/ the blogs hunny

flybunny said...

It must be in the air as my 3rd grade daughter has had issues this week with the 3rd Grade "Mean Girl".

When hubby called me to tell me that Audrey was having a bad day, my immediate response was "If that punk ass bitch A-M is bothering my baby I'm going to kick her ass". I was pissed and immediately starting plotting revenge. Luckily for her, my husband teaches at her school and I really don't want him to lose his job.

The teacher had the 2 of them talk and PAB managed to turn it around on Audrey and told her the names of several other classmates who think Audrey is mean. I was livid, Audrey is the most laid back fun loving kid - she is not perfect but she is also not mean by any stretch of the imagination.

I hate it that this all starts so early and I hate it even more that our sweet kids have to suffer because other kids feel the need to be jerks.

Love your blog, I will be a regular visitor

Megaland said...

kick his ass blake!!! i'll even help you...

Virginia Belle said...

well, i can tell you aren't related to me. i mean, i would never fight anyone because i'm a big pussy, but my brothers were in a few scuffles when they were in gradeschool. my brothers would definitely have punched back and beaten the kid to a bloody pulp. then they would have been in huge trouble at home--unless the other kid started it. Not that my brothers were bullies. We just have worse tempers than your family!

you are an AWESOME parent to raise a kid that wouldn't even react in the expected manner. seriously. that reaction of his is awesome. and i applaud you for giving him persmission to defend himself. there is a difference. i can't believe someone would do something like that to a nice kid who was minding his own business!!! seriously, what is wrong with parents today??

all the more reason for you to have a "Come to Jesus" talk with BOTH sets of those parents--asshole's and dumbass's. start off with a heavy serving of guilt, complete with your quote from what your son said. THAT should make them feel bad--they are trying to make it in America, and someone's trying to be nice to them, and their son is a punk. try sprinkling your (heavily one-sided) conversation with the following phrases: "lawsuit", "bloody pulp", "shotgun", "my lawyer says...", "black belt", "i have some friends who take care of stuff for me...", "large angry dog", "don't tempt me!", "listen, buddy..." and "i dare you to..."

should do the trick. as you are leaving, just say, "you know, if this happens again, i'm going to be really tempted to call INS on your asses. we don't want to go there, now do we?" and then turn and leave.

ooh, that was nasty....ok, maybe leave off the INS part. but it's so wrong to pick on nice kids!!!! just WRONG!!!

Cat said...

Blake rocks-enuff said.