Wednesday, March 08, 2006

psycho baseball mom

that's me.
we moved from southern cali to northern cali in august and when i signed blake up for baseball here, i assumed it would be just like home. i mean, i knew he played pony ball in so cal- but i didn't realize little league was something different. i figured a freaking baseball league, was a baseball league.
reality check, meet jenn. hi!
so i'm frustrated because little league up here means the following things: kids don't pitch to eachother (it's coach pitch).. the coach pitches 8 balls to them and if they don't/can't hit it, they get a walk.. they don't keep score.. you can't slide head first (when i asked what they would do when blake slides head first into home plate because he will.. they said they would discourage it. the fuck you will discourage something that is completely natural and normal to do when you play baseball).. you can't steal or lead off.. the first inning consists of both teams batting around completely (instead of 3 outs and the inning is over).. there are no pick offs cause there are no lead offs.. it basically consists of coddling your kids into little pussies so that they have fun instead of play competitive ball. i don't care if that sounds nice and sweet. i don't want nice and sweet. i want competitive, follow the fucking rules, teach my kid something, challenge my kid, REAL baseball. they try to say that kids this age don't have the attention span and they make up all these excuses as to why they have the stupid rules they do. they don't have the attention span because you don't let them. you keep these kids in the dark when it comes to the basic fundamental rules of how you play real baseball. i'm super frustrated because i'm afraid that blake will be confused this season. the things he's been taught to do, and how he's been taught to play, all of a sudden aren't "right" in this league. and he can't do them anymore. and that's crap. because they ARE right. it's how you play baseball, it's just not apparently how you play little league. i.just.worry. my sister told me this morning that in our pony leagues at home- they tell the parents that if this league is too competitive for them, they should take their kid over to little league. i think that says it all.

here is a picture of blake doing something he won't be able to do this year as a 7 year old, that he did when he was 5.

ps- all of this could completely change once the season starts. it might not even be a big deal at all and i am just pre-freaking out. it might not affect blake in the slightest and he'll just be so happy to be playing baseball that he won't even notice the rule differences. so if that turns out to be the case, please disregard this post.

pss- i wish i could blame this on pms, but i can't. this craziness is just me.

34 comments:

Jenn said...

Hell no! Your not psycho. If he's a boy, that means he's a guy in training, which is going to mean that the first inning there are 3 outs, he's gonna start walkin to the bench after being in the outfield, and when he realizes no one else is walking there, he's gonna be like.....WHAT the...? THEY STRUCK OUT!!! THAT'S TOTALLY NOT FAIR!!!! Seriously....how do you play baseball without knowing that 3 STRIKES AND YOUR OUT!!!

Good luck with that....

jennster said...

jenn- seriously. it's just SO different than what he's used to playing, but i'm feeling like a freak for freaking out about it! i don't want him to be coddled. bottom line is, he's TOO good to be fucking coddled. he doesn't need it. ARGH!

jennster said...

oh yeah, and jenn.. they don't do strikes and balls either. !!!!!! the kid gets 8 pitches and if he can't hit them, HE GETS TO WALK TO FIRST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
this isn't baseball!

Kelli said...

Love your blog!!

The lady in boots at Disney...PRICELESS!!

jennster said...

KELLI! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I AM LMFAO @ YOUR COMMENT! comments make me smile. marry me?

Melissam said...

Ugh, that is totally fustrating! This is the age they should be developing these kids and not coddling them. Maybe if they started the season this way and slowly introduced the fundementals but a whole season of this is crazy...for the kids and the parents. Do they step it up when he turns 8? Also, at least he'll be a rock star when they do start allowing them to play real baseball since he'll already know.

Of course these kids don't have the attention span, they're bored out of their fuckin' minds! If I wasn't challenged and just had to stand in the field, I'd lose it.

jennster said...

melissa- that is what i'm fucking talking about! i'm like, blake only stands there and looks at the butterflies when he's FUCKING BORED! you give them nothing to do, he's going to do nothing. and that's what i think too- do this crap for 1/2 the season, and then introduce kid pitch and other stuff. but not allowing them to slide head first, or to steal is just STUPID. TEACH THEM THE GAME OF BASEBALL. they aren't too young to learn these concepts. you just act like they are. it's stupid and makes no sense to me. i guess next season he'll go up to minor's but i am DYING to know what changes and it had better be everything i listed in this post! shoot me?

Anonymous said...

who rocks the house? jennster rocks the house and when jennster rocks the house.....she rocks it all the way down! woooo oh yea dur-i agree.....kids should be challenged. case closed. none of this changing rules shit in baseball, who do they think they are? *shakes head* why don't they just call is something else because baseball is umm baseball...no coach pitching allowed, that's stoooopid.

Becky said...

yeah thats retarded. i agree with you. all the little leagues here play the RIGHT way. the way blake USED to play. i've never heard of this madness til RIGHT NOW!

jennster said...

becks.. the lesson is, put your son in pony ball and not little league. lol

kate said...

What the HELL? Even when my little sister played fucking Girl's T-Ball as a 5-year-old they had more freedom than that ;)

I think it's silly that kids these days (boys and girls) are being so sheltered.

jennster said...

tell me about it. let the kids play ball the right way.

Alison said...

Do they not have pony league up there?

Did BF play little league? If so, he did pretty well as a college baseball boy. There is hope. :)

Screw it all and sign the boy up for football.

jennster said...

hooch- there is no pony league up here. fuckers. and bf did play LL i just found out. he told me to not freak out about it, but it's too late. football is this summer!

jen said...

whoa......what is baseball without 3 outs, sliding, stealing, and the kids pitching?
Socal is definitely where it's at. I just moved away from there too. You are definitely not psycho, I say next year you coach!! yeah yeah

jennster said...

thanks jen!

Matt said...

That seems like a pretty crazy way to play baseball - and nobody plays it right up there? Sheesh.

Belle said...

Wow, I have never heard of that, except the coach-pitch ages, which here are right after tee ball. You might want to look around and see if there is a travel tema in your city....it's more expensive with the travel and all....but the travel league here is more challening for the kids, and they actually have to try out and make a team.

jennster said...

that was another thing.. no tryouts here either. at home, they tried out. i'll just suffer through this season and then look at options- or make a fucking option. lol

Cat said...

my boys have never played baseball here but I thought what you blogged was crap-I've always thought it was played the way Blake was use to playing---hmmmm how odd--so 8 strikes and your out? whacked

jennster said...

no.. 8 strikes and you WALK. lol

Yorksdevil said...

The game should be played properly. If kids are capable of doing so, and you say Blake already has then there's no reason to hold them back. The coach probably should discourage head-first sliding on the grounds that you're more likely to damage your hands and so be unable to continue back to not allow it is crazy. There's evidence of growing non-competitiveness in some kids sports over here so its not a thing parculiar to north California.

jennster said...

rick- it just pisses me right off! let them play the game.

Jimboliah said...

he'y 7 dear ^^ when i started we couldnt steal a base until the ball left the pitchers hand... and yes.. little league is alot diffferent.. its full blown ball hunny ^^ have him play the season out and then next year get him in... btw he might be 2 young.. check the age limit..

Rebecatjade said...

Ok This is how the kids play here up to age 7. But considering he played real ball i can see how frustrating it is. The don't call 5-7 yrs olds ball little league either. Its's Tball. They though do get pitched to by the coach and theyn after 6 tries they put the T up. But Like i said if you played "Real" Ball then i totally see how frustrating it is.

Jenn said...

I should also add, They can slide. They never tell them no sliding. The coaches even encourage it.
Last batter of the side also gets to run the full bases. Unless he gets out at first or something. This way they can make a play at home. Everyone runs

now Billy's league wich starts in 3rd Grade, they play real ball except no stealing. They don't do that untill 6th grade

jennster said...

it's just different and frustrating when i want blake to learn the RIGHT now now, instead of later. especially when he already knows how to play, and now those ways aren't how you play here. just frustrating is all.

penguininthesun said...

"pss- i wish i could blame this on pms, but i can't. this craziness is just me."


hahahah, I love that line.

Lessa said...

As a member of my local Little League board, and a little league mom for the 9th time this year, I can understand your frustration, but these are *national* rules, and as such must be followed. He's been put in coach pitch and those are the coach pitch rules. Frustrating, sure, but many kids that age are just starting. You may want to see if he can be moved up to the next age group. Many coaches will allow it for those more experienced kids, especially one who's had the training yours has.

Though he will have to adjust and slide feet first. The no sliding head first is a rule you'll simply have to get used to in Little League. It's a safety issue, and they will teach the children to slide feet first when the rules allow for them to steal and slide - which begins in Minors (8-9 or 10) In Majors (10-11) Comes the real fun of tryouts, stealing, sliding, badgering umpires and attitudes and the spitting, oh god the SPITTING. Boys are gross! *L* About this time is when the true colors of many parents come out too and parents like me spend time wishing hitting some parents/fans with bats is legal. Heh.

I've been involved in the little league up here for several years - being in Alaska, our season hasn't even started yet. In fact, we get a very *short* season of just 8 weeks starting in May (if the snow melts early enough). Our registration isn't even until next week.

The one thing I wish every parent could remember? It's for the kids, and we work very hard behind the scenes to make everything happen according to the rules we have to deal with (which often change month to month), and do our best to make sure the kids have the best season they possibly can. We can't please everyone all the time. We do our damndest, and I've spent more time shuttling 3 kids back and forth to practices and games and everything in between, including being official score keepers for Jr/Sr baseball and softball and now I'm also on the governing board, and it's not easy.

When you as a parent bring up your concerns - which you should feel perfectly all right to do - just remember we have 15 other parents bitching because little billy didn't get to hit the ball and it's too competitive and blah blah blah. For every parent that wants *real* baseball, there's five whining because their kid was benched. This is why we have to adhere to minimum play rules, the scoreing rules, so on and so forth that are adjusted by age group.

Just remember that your doing this for your son, take your cues from him, and with his background, the board members should be ok with moving him up to the next level.

The worst thing I've ever dealt with in Little League here is actually some parents who actively badger the other team, boo the teams, call out individual kids and tell them how horrible they are and generally teach shitty sportsmanship. I've seen parents litterally rip into 6 and 7 year olds for "being useless and letting the team and everyone down!" I've gotten into the face of such parents for forgetting the most important rule about baseball and any other kids sport.

It's a game. It's supposed to be fun.
For the KIDS. Not the parents.

ANd please note I'm not suggesting that you're horrible for feeling this way about your kiddo - its perfectly understandable. I'm just trying to get another perspective out there from someone who's dealt with it from more then one angle. So talk to your board members, and see if they can't get him moved to a more advanced team.

jennster said...

lessa- i totally understand that. i think that the bottom line here is that it's not "competetive" at this age, and that is exactly what blake is used too. the season starts on saturday- is it too late for me to ask if he could be upped to the next level? i just think this is going to be so boring for him and so not challenging and he'll have to play "down" to play with these kids. he can't even throw normal at them because they can't catch the ball. which is fine- but it's not fine for blake. that sucks. anyways- i'd love to email you....

Lessa said...

Email's on the way! *g* I forget that my blogger profile is empty cuz I only use it for signing comments on those I read on blogger! *g*

norcalgirl28 said...

Jenn-How did Little League turn out? Was Blake bored?

Anonymous said...

Seriously, if it is baseball then they should play by the baseball rules. That's the way I was raised. Their was none of this t-ball, "everybody wins" nonsense. There are winners and losers in games. If you never lose, why try to improve? I came across this blog because I'm doing background on an article. I sympathize with you. Too many parents are trying change things to protect their kids from life itself. It's not just baseball. But baseball is a pretty good analogy for life in my opinion. Parents that want their kids to play sports where there's no score keeping and nobody ever gets a boo-boo should just send them to theater camp and prepare to support them for the rest of their lives.

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